Can't help with advice here, however for number 2 will be trying for a girl! Know nothing about the methods you describe, will merely be using a persona (is it sex before ovulation? Something along those lines!)
There have been other threads about this. Sex before ovulation for a girl as female sperms last longer whereas male ones are faster. Magnessium in your diet for a girl, potassium for a boy, and apparently female sperms like an acid atmosphere whereas male go for alkaline so you could always try a lemon douche before sex! Good Luck!
We've been trying the Chesterman-Phillips approach but keep having miscarriages What do you mean - it didn't work - what did you do(!)? I'm pg again and whilst obviously a healthy baby is no.1 priority a girl would be nice ..... [wistful emoticon]
So sorry to hear of miscarriages, alterego, must be very upsetting and yes, a healthy baby is the most important thing. It didn't work in that we tried 5 days before ovulation, nothing happened, 4 days before, again nothing, 3 days before, result, ds3. Also I looked up a website www.in-gender.com and it seemed to show that sex 5 days before was marginally more likely to produce a boy if anything, though was fairly evenly split.
I'm 7 weeks tomorrow - seeing GP tomorrow and should be referred fairly quickly for early scan.
We did the deed 4 days before ov - a bit of a fluke actually because in previous cycles we seemed to have to be only 2 days before ov to get pg. Dh was away at what I thought was the critical time in this cycle so was quite surprised when the pg test came up +ve.
I don't think anyone claims that it works 100% of the time and obviously other factors come into it - as I understand it some men are just naturally more pre-disposed to conceiving a certain sex (more male or female sperm). However, it worked for us this time around and dd1 was a semi-accident - ie. I thought it was a safe time as I didn't have fertile mucus - a day later it appeared! Also I have several friends who were actively ttc (regardless of the sex) and so had sex at the peak of ovulation and they all have boys. Tbh I don't think it hurts to try as long as you don't pin your hopes on it - it's a bit of fun and as long as you don't really mind if you don't get the result you're aiming for , why not give it a go?