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How long did it take you to conceive your first?

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yellowflowers Sat 02-Aug-08 09:42:38

Just wondering so we can have some stories of hope. Anyone on here who took a while to conceive number 1? How long did it take and what if anything did the trick do you think? I think if I could look to the future and know we will have a family then I could relax now, but it's the not knowing that it will work out okay in the end that I find hard to deal with. That said, before I met my husband the same was true of being single - it would have been fine if i could look to the future and know I would meet him.

heverhoney1 Sat 02-Aug-08 09:52:57

no answeerss for you as we have just started trying but I just wanted to say I feel exactly the same as you. I wouldnt mind how long it took as long as I know that it WOULD happen one day. But right now every day makes me anxious. Hugs and babydust for us both xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

meep Sat 02-Aug-08 09:56:47

It took me a year - but I do know a couple who took 5 years for their first and now have 2dc.

I had a course of reflexology - I don't know if it helped but after about 4 sessions I was pregnant grin - I do think the detox/healthy eating (12 portions of fruit & veg a day and lots of water!)that she made me do at the same time probably helped together with dh and I making a concerted effort to do it lots at the right time!

Have fun trying and try to relax (I know - easier said than done!)

sophiewd Sat 02-Aug-08 09:58:19

7 months of us but like Meep know a couple who tried for 5 years for their first and she is now pregnant with their second

forevercleaning Sat 02-Aug-08 10:00:20

a year for first, a year for 2nd and 3rd came along of his own accord 3 years after that.

We did not ever use precautions but let nature take its course, After 11 months on each of the first 2 I bought an ovulation kit and hey presto, both times I fell pregnant the first time I used it.

Good luck

heverhoney1 Sat 02-Aug-08 10:00:31

Oh yellowflowers I for got to ask how long you have been trying and if you have been on mn long??

fifisboys Sat 02-Aug-08 11:01:50

1st month with first and second, just worked out when i ovulated, lots of sex. I know i was really lucky though smile

oopsacoconut Sat 02-Aug-08 11:23:05

It took us 5 years for DC1 (due in August) ended up taking clomid for 6 months. I have a luteal phase defect which means after ov it's only 3-5 days until AF. Also lost weight and got heathier and fitter (all in the last month of clomid - so not sure which one worked??)

Gina80 Sat 02-Aug-08 11:26:22

2 years. Ended up temping and charting and having sex every other day without fail!

DC2 was straight away - knew the tricks by then wink

belgo Sat 02-Aug-08 11:33:04

It took three or four months. The main 'trick' I found was to have sex when you want to have sex.

RuthChan Sat 02-Aug-08 11:33:53

It took us 1.5 years to concieve DD.
I eventually concieved after taking clomid for a few months.
I also took my BMT every morning to check for my fertile days etc.
DC2 was concieved within 2 months, with no medical help at all.

ib Sat 02-Aug-08 11:42:46

Oh, at least 5 years. In fact we were told we could not possibly have a baby without IVF so I came off contraception and stopped thinking about it! Ds came when he was ready to whatever the docs said....

frankiesbestfriend Sat 02-Aug-08 11:45:35

A year.

Six months of no AF after coming off the pill, then another six months before I conceived.

piratecat Sat 02-Aug-08 11:51:26

Took us 3 yrs to concieve dd, our first and only child.

I gave up, then we moved out of london, and 2 weeks later i was pg.

MsG Sat 02-Aug-08 13:24:40

Hi yellowflowers, I feel the same as you, it's the not knowing that's so hard! I'm like that about everything, too.

I'm particularly frustrated because I got pregnant in the second month last year but unfortunately had a miscarriage. Everyone says, at least you know you can conceive, but we don't know that something hasn't changed since then. It's so hard.

Thinking of trying accupuncture or reflexology, if nothing else it should relax me. xx

Grublin Sat 02-Aug-08 13:45:20

10 mths for DS1 and 9 mths for DS2. We didn't have loads of sex either, just very lucky both times.

My friend on the other hand has tried for about 5 years for a successful pregnancy. She had a missed miscarriage after 2 years of trying and almost 3 years on, she is 6 weeks pregnant at the moment.

zazen Sat 02-Aug-08 13:45:26

36 cycles with breaks for sanity and relationship. I resorted to ovulation predictor stix in the end. I had been temping and observing mucus, checking ovulation pain etc up to then etc. we also had a m/c and we took it as a positive that we actually could get pg.

we have one DD and cannot even think of ttc-ing again. We feel lucky, and don't want to risk our marriage to 'go again'. If I wanted another child I would just forget about it - easy for me to say, I know as I have a child...

Best of luck with it. It can be all consuming, and so demoralising. Looking back i was miserable and obsessed, and I wonder if i had relaxed about it would it have happened quicker - I certainly know I would have enjoyed those years better!!!
Take a break if you're getting too obsessed - kick back and smell the flowers for a few cycles.

Egg Sat 02-Aug-08 14:00:17

18 months with DS1.

One carefree encounter before we were going to "start trying" the following month with DTs.

Think the fact it was carefree might have helped. Got v stressed about it all when trying to conceive DS1.

catweazle Sat 02-Aug-08 14:11:59

18 months for the first. Decided we weren't going to have children, moved house and promptly conceived.

Number 4 was a surprise and so was number 5 grin

LuckySalem Sat 02-Aug-08 14:12:49

2 years of not really "actively" trying.

Goober Sat 02-Aug-08 14:16:39

None planned. Blessed 3 times.

lou031205 Sat 02-Aug-08 14:16:59

One afternoon blush for DD1

4 months for DD2.

cyteen Sat 02-Aug-08 14:23:03

A year for us, although due to a family bereavement it was the most stressful year of my/our life together which probably didn't help. I know where you're coming from; every month I would go through the same miserable cycle of trying not to think about it, getting really het up when my period was due, obsessive symptom-spotting, early testing and inevitable disappointment. After a false positive in November I was so fed up I just thought 'fuck this, I can't take any more, I'm just going to enjoy December and party hard for a month'. Lo and behold, duffed up-ness.

Good luck, and don't forget to enjoy it wink

laura325630 Sat 02-Aug-08 17:16:25

18 months from when I stopped taking the pill. I started using my dates and got rid of some money troubles that I had been worried about for a long time and within a month of both I was pregnant! I had given up hope and went to the docs for tests only to find out I was pregnant!!

Good luck x

AbstractMouse Sat 02-Aug-08 18:31:31

One drunken night (was with dp though so not too bad wink). Dd wasn't planned, just the luck of the draw though.

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