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mrsleroyjethrogibbs Sun 13-Jul-08 08:23:55

I am 33 this year and dh is 42. Having scared ourselves silly with all the talk earlier this week on how older men have a lower quality dna post 35 years, we kind of thought rather than waiting the few months till the end of the year we might start now. Has anyone any expreience with concieving with an older dh/dw? We fell pretty quickly with the first two but I am a little concerned now tbh

TIA

Twiglett Sun 13-Jul-08 08:31:48

wtf? what talk of how older men have lower quality DNA ... this wouldn't be another meeja scaremongering that passed me by would it?

Men are famous for being fertile late in their lives ..

Twiglett Sun 13-Jul-08 08:38:11

there are 3 factors in a male sperm count by the way

absolute numbers of spermatazoa per sample
motility - how they move and in which direction
morphology - numbers of 'normal sperm' which is normally in the low percentages

it is a combination of these 3 factors that denotes fertility of a sample

so for example, because of medication my DH was taking the number of his 'abnormal sperm' was much higher than 'normal' .. but he also had a higher than average 'absolute number' of sperm so same chance of

HTH

sophiewd Sun 13-Jul-08 09:01:11

DH was 44 when DS was conceived at first go, friends grandfather was 70 when his last child was born.

CantSleepWontSleep Sun 13-Jul-08 09:04:50

I am 34. Dh is 42. We are expecting no 2 in 11 weeks.

mrsleroyjethrogibbs Sun 13-Jul-08 09:16:11

oh thats good then. i was terrified when I saw the lunchtime news on monday. They were basically saying that contrary to popular belief males sperm quality deteriorates over time from the age of 35. And this was not the first study...aparently

missmama Sun 13-Jul-08 09:32:38

Same here
I am 37 DH is 42
We are expecting DC3 at Christmas

WorzselMummage Sun 13-Jul-08 09:51:00

The grandfather of my local kebab show owner ( i love kebabs !) got his wife up the duff when he was 91 !

I wouldnt worry about it to much grin

mrsleroyjethrogibbs Sun 13-Jul-08 14:49:41

good lordy. 91 worzsel????? that is good going

nauseous Sun 13-Jul-08 22:26:38

Hi we have no children yet. I'm 31 and husband 40... his perm tests show great spunk though admittedly it was only a home-testing kit. It takes two after all. After how long ttc can take it doesn't seem a bad idea to start sooner... as long as you're not worrying too much about it that is! best of luck mrsleroyjethrogibbs... i've no crazy stories of olds conceiving but if you've done it before you can do the magic again i'm sure.

poppy34 Sun 13-Jul-08 22:30:59

mrsleroy..that article was based on men at a fertility clinic so you do have to ask if it was a decent sample given that you're only going to be at clinic if you have problems.

And I'm 35/dh 49 and daughter born 2 weeks ago (after 2 m/c and a tx) - it did take 3 years to get here but at no point did any of the specialists we saw say anything re dh age... so hang on in there

mrsleroyjethrogibbs Mon 14-Jul-08 07:06:43

oh phew. this is so reassuring. TBH I was 28 and dh was 38 when dd was concieved, he was 40 when ds was concieved. so in that sense we didnt have any probs concieving two healthy gorgous children. tbh we fell in the first month (but dh had given up smoking which I think had a big factor) so I dont think we are not as fertile as such. I was just concerned more than anything.
Thanks for your answers

quickerthistimeplease Mon 14-Jul-08 08:22:12

DH is 43, I'm 38 and 10 wks pg with No 2 (took 2 months TTC). Bit of a shock after 18 mths TTC DD who is only 11 months grin

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