Sparkler1 - I am in EXACTLY the same situation. I have a ds (3.5yrs) and a dd (6mths). I know in my heart that could never rule out ever having another child. DH however is determined that there will be no more babies. We're not getting on that great the mo anyway (long story.... and a whole different thread!) so another child is a distant thought just now, but I'd like another before I'm 30. I'm nearly 27 so that gives us 3 yrs. DH is 32 and feels that he will be too old in a couple of years and wants us to get our life back.
I keep joking about it, saying things like "We'd better put dd's old clothes up the loft in case we have another girl!". DH is not amused though.
I'm hoping that if everything works out between DH and I that when the time comes I can change his mind. I've had the Mirena coil fitted in the meantime to avoid any little 'accidents'.
I don't know what I'll do if DH is still determined that we have no more.
I'll just get the coil removed and tell him that I'm fertile.... if he wants a shag he has to risk getting me pregnant..... wonder how long he'll hold out for?!
Crap really because of the sitaution with DS. He has been excluded for another week and i know the head is building a case for permanent exclusion . Mum's ok though - had her first chemo yesterday and is feeling fine. Is the GP going to refer you for counselling?
I have one dd age 11 months, i also have three step children. I would love another but dh doent realy want any more as he has 4 already. This has caused a few arguments.
I have always wanted more than one and he knew this when we got together.
Are dd has been realy hard work and i think this has put him off having any more.
Hope you get your own way soon, im going to keep trying! Good luck!
Hi Sparkler1, I am in more or less the same situation, have two DSs (4yrs and 18months), DH is addamant he doesn't want another, I have always wanted 3, and feel my family is incomplete. This is not helped by the fact that recently I fell pregnant completely by accident, but sadly had a miscarriage at 7 weeks. His reaction to the miscarriage was complete relief that I wasn't pregnant anymore, and has hurt me so much. Our relationship is strained to put it mildly. All I can say is keep talking, cos we aren't and there is an ever increasing rift between us, not saying this will happen to you of course, but at least if you both know how the other is feeling, that's got to be a good thing in the long run imo.
everyone. C'mon now - let's get the girlpower working. Don't know about you - but I'd be the one who looks after the baby more anyway - I don't work, I would breastfeed. Guess dh doesn't want to put up with me being grumpy through lack of sleep . Guess I can't blame him!
When I first got engaged to DH he 'did' want kids - but sometime in the distant future (he was 24 - I was 20). I wanted them (2) straight away (or at least to try for them), 6 months into our engagement I 'talked him round'.
Had a honeymoon baby and he still (sort of) agreed to baby no.2 - but not for a couple of years. DS2 turned up a little earlier than planned - but DH loves him to bits. Anyhow, while pg with DS2 (the happy suprise) I hinted that I would 'perhaps' like a 3rd - and it was like I'd run into a brick wall.
When DS2 was about 3 weeks old we had a 'talk' and I 'agreed' to no more children (although I've said NO to the snip just yet - as he's still 'young' - he's just turned 30).
My 'plan' is to wait a few more years and then broach the subject again, hopefully if I broach it the right way then he may be talked into a number 3 (it's wierd when I first had DS2 I thought I'd like a 3rd and a girl would be nice - but now I'd actually quite like another boy - I 'know' boys LOL).