Bit of a long story but hope you can help.
My SIL (dh's sister) is undergoing IVF at the moment. She and her dh have been TTC for four years with no success, they got checked out and apparently there was no specific problems with either of them but they were advised to go for IVF (privately - they are both 39, too old I believe for NHS treatment).
I think she is right now going through her first cycle. I say "I think" because she has only confided in my dh and my MIl about the situation and both have been sworn to secrecy (although dh has obviously told me!). Her dh (BIL) basically wants no one to know what is going on and does not want her to talk to anyone about it. Yes, he is being a twat but there's not much we can do about that.
Anyway, my sister - who lives in the same town as SIL - bumped into her a few days ago and told me she looked terrible. Her description was "bloated, puffy, pale". Dh has since been trying to get in touch to see how she is without success.
Tbh, my SIL and I are not particularly close (not that we don't get on, we're just not very similar) but I feel terrible that she's going through what I understand is a pretty arduous process without any real support.
Anything I say will have to be conveyed via my dh but I'd just like to pass on some advice, positive stories or pointers back to her. Obviously I did think about suggesting she comes on here!
Is there anything else, that we can do to help her through this? Does this puffiness etc sound normal? Also she is going into this in a very negative state of mind - she said to dh "I don't know why we're bothering there's only 1 in 4 chance of it working" and I can't help thinking that's not going to help either.
Thanks for reading this far. Any help or suggestions will be very gratefully accepted.
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Dear TTC Ladies, I wonder if you can help me help my SIL (IVF questions)
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squeaver · 26/06/2008 14:50
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