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Broody at 43--am I bonkers?

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Arabica · 19/12/2004 13:48

I had DS when I was 39 (no problems conceiving--got pregnant second month we tried). Until recently, I've felt ambivalent about a second child. But right now am feeling mega-broody!

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EbenyZebraScrooge · 19/12/2004 13:53

It's not too late IMHO, if that's what you want to do.

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NameChangingMancMidlander · 19/12/2004 13:59

So long as your partner is in agreement and you have no health reasons that may cause a problem, I'd say 'GO FOR IT !'

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aloha · 19/12/2004 14:14

Why ever not? Give it a try, I say. And of course you aren't bonkers! If you want a baby, don't delay. Get a bottle of champagne, some folic acid and start today!

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madness · 19/12/2004 17:43

well, at 41 with add and dd I thought I was bonkers wanting a third. I expected dh to be sensible and talk me out of it, but he has agreed to it, so who knows what is going to happen now....

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hoxtonturkey · 19/12/2004 18:51

oooh, go on arabica. your ds is lovely! good luck .

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motherinfestivemood · 19/12/2004 18:53

Oh, go for it. Go on. Second children in one's 40s are so 'now', you know.

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sis · 19/12/2004 20:12

Arabica, you look much younger than 43!

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Arabica · 20/12/2004 11:14

Thanks Sis & everyone's encouraging comments. But, has anyone out there any personal experience of becoming a mum at this advanced age?

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aloha · 20/12/2004 11:17

Kimberley Fortier/Quinn?
I'm 41 and having a very easy time. I think Blu was 43. And of course, Cherie... 46...

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aloha · 20/12/2004 11:20

Provided you can get pregnant, being pregnant and having a baby isn't really any different depending on your age IMO. Conceived ds at 37 and this one at 40 and it was easier second time around, actually. I am having a far easier time that most of my younger friends - no sickness, no tiredness really, no problems and my blood pressure is 'perfect' according to the obstetrician who saw me on Friday!

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tabitha · 20/12/2004 11:32

I had dd3 at 41 (Feb 04) and had a fairly easy pregnancy - pretty simmilar to the other three pregnancies to be honest. Everyone kept commenting on how 'well' I looked. don't know whether it was a compliment or just amazement at my looking not too bad at my advanced age

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Arabica · 20/12/2004 11:38

LOL re Kimberly and Cherie Aloha! I'm not sure they're my idea of role models... Had dinner last night with 2 friends and their tiny babies and came home feeling even more broody, even when they puked on me (the babies, not the friends).

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aloha · 20/12/2004 11:42

Oh, give it a go! You've nothing to lose but your body, your cash and your freedom

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motherinfestivemood · 20/12/2004 11:45

Another friend of mine had her one and only at 43, too.

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lisalisa · 20/12/2004 11:48

Message withdrawn

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FrostyTheSurfMum · 20/12/2004 11:54

I had dd at 41. The only time I wished I had been a younger mum was when I had the nuchal fold scan and was told that whatever the measurements were, I would always be within the high risk group "because of my age". The Consultant recommended an amnio for everyone of my age. After much soul searching I went ahead and had the amnio, and everything was fine in the end but I'm not sure I would go through all that again.

Other than that? I don't really think age comes into it.

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Kaysleighbells · 20/12/2004 11:54

Arabica, wow you're a year older than me - I also had you down as mid thirties. How do you do it ? Maybe it's only having one child
Seriously you should go for it. It's lovely for your ds to have a sibling too. Then they can fight and argue like my two do

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biglips · 20/12/2004 11:55

go for it

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Arabica · 20/12/2004 12:06

I am going to think it all over this week and have a good chat with DH. We don't have any money and our flat's too small for one child let alone two, but what the hell.

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lisalisa · 20/12/2004 12:11

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LAMBda · 20/12/2004 13:07

I had mine at 40 and 42 - no problems, no regrets - go for it

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walkinginawelshmumwonderland · 20/12/2004 13:49

I'm on number 2 at 41 - pregnancy going more smoothly than the first time around (fingers crossed)
10 years from now will you really regret that you didn't go for it?

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Arabica · 20/12/2004 15:24

I don't think I'm desperate to have another baby--it's more like it would be wonderful if it happened but not the end of the world if it didn't, because I am very happy for DS to be an only child (I have no siblings). That's how we felt before we tried for DS.

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GoldFrankincenseandMerlin · 20/12/2004 15:31

No 2 due in April and I'm 42. Pregnancy has been fine - am slightly worried about coping with a newborn and v. lively 4 year old though!! Sure I will manage - you just have to don't you?!!!!

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aloha · 20/12/2004 15:50

Just chuck away the contraception and see what happens then. Oh, go on!

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