Ttc 24 months this month

[Blessedbutstressed96]

Hey ttc dc2 , been trying since October 2018. After bloods , swabs , ultrasound, semen analysis everything clear suspected I have endo due to symptoms and family history. Finally got my app for lap and dye test for next month then today got a call saying due to current Covid situation alll surgeries are cancelled just feel a bit rubbish after seeing positive things about the surgery etc I was so hopeful and now feel back to square one. Any advice on staying positive x

[PBfingers]

No advice but hugs from me @blessedbutstressed96 💐

We are also at 24month point for our 1st (mc June '19) and in a similar situation waiting for referral appointment after initial investigations. Each time I call another 8-10 weeks is added on.

Like you, part of me just feels happy and hopeful to be in the "system" at this point given everything but the other part of me feels heartbroken that it's delayed.

[Blessedbutstressed96]

@PBfingers it’s so hard isn’t it. We had mc in March 2019 and otherwise nothing. It’s awful right now I feel devastated about the whole thing. My ds isn’t my partners child. My ds wants a sibling and I feel like I’m letting everyone down it’s a rubbish feeling. I can feel my af symptoms creeping due tomorrow. Just so disheartening after being given the appointment to have it be 😔

[PBfingers]

I am so sorry about your mc, it is so very hard.

You definitely aren't letting anyone down, I am sure your partner thinks the world of you and too your ds. The monthly arrival of AF always makes things feel so much worse. Be kind to yourself the next few days, and take some time out if you need it.

We in such a similar position, it makes me feel better speak to someone else who is going through similar and can relate.

I am really trying to de-stress at the moment about ttc, whilst waiting for the appt. but not going to lie, some months I am all in and wanting to try every tip under the sun and then other months I am just sticking to the basics.

How about you?

[Blessedbutstressed96]

Yeh with you being through the same you’ll understand it’s difficult.
It’s hard not to feel like you’re letting everyone down at times. Just feels like this could be it. Feel like anytime we get a step forward before we know it we’re two back again.

I think it’s better to talk to someone in a similar situation as a lot of people don’t understand and say “it’ll happen when it’s meant to” or “you’re trying too hard”
I go through phases we’ve tried fertility gels, pillow trick, tracking etc. But we’re pretty regular at doing the deed so we try our best not to time it too much making it a chore.

When af is due I find the hardest some months I think I’ve symptoms and some months I’m even late which adds to the disappointment when it finally arrives.

How are you coping with it all ?

[Sarahdaydreamer1234]

Hi both.. I was just wondering if you got your lap and dye @blessedbutstressed96? I am also waiting due to covid and should have had mine in March but looks like it will be a long way away yet. I reached month 24 this month ttc no.1. They also suspect endo but I'm not entirely convinced but I think I'm just being sceptical.

[Blessedbutstressed96]

@Sarahdaydreamer1234 I never ended up getting it but funnily enough I got phone call about laparoscopy today for next month. I have actually managed to fall on my own and I’m currently 17 weeks and 4 days. Wish you all the luck x

[Sarahdaydreamer1234]

@blessedbutstressed96 ah that's amazing news so happy for you!! Did you do anything different that month? X

[Blessedbutstressed96]

@Sarahdaydreamer1234 thanks very much ! I can’t say we did it would’ve been over Christmas and new year so other than getting drunk everything the same. I was really shocked after trying for so long but just goes to show xx

[Sarahdaydreamer1234]

@blessedbutstressed96 I know seems to happen to a lot of people just randomly after so long! if I could just have a bit of faith it'll all happen but it's so hard some months! Thanks so much for getting back to me and all the best for the rest of ur pregnancy xxx

[Blessedbutstressed96]

I felt like it was never going to happen I was really surprised. I hope it happens for you. Thanks very much xx