Talk

Advanced search

Stories after 2 early miscarriages - I really need to read other people’s stories 😭😭😭

(60 Posts)
Nannon145 Tue 04-Aug-20 09:37:25

I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks in May and I am currently going through my 2nd miscarriage at 4 weeks + 5 days and can’t help but think what is wrong with me?? 😭😭😭

I dealt with the first one because I thought it can be quite normal to have 1 but now I’ve had 2 it’s got me worrying that something is wrong with me and I’m never gonna get my rainbow baby 💔💔

Please tell me your stories, successful of not. I need to just relate to people who have been through the same thing. It’s killing me 😔

OP’s posts: |
Crimples Tue 04-Aug-20 09:41:20

Sorry for your loss 💐
I also had 2 early m/c s similarly timed to yours. 3rd preg went smoothly and dc is 12 now. Don’t lose hope, sometimes we never know why these things happen but it certainly doesn’t mean you won’t go on to have a healthy pregnancy and child

Nannon145 Tue 04-Aug-20 11:09:12

@Crimples thank you so much for replying, it’s nice to hear other people’s stories.

I really hope it’s the same for me. I’ve never wanted something so much. I just can’t believe I’m going through it again!!!

OP’s posts: |
blvdbrokendreams Tue 04-Aug-20 11:16:52

I had 2 early miscarriages. One at five weeks and one at seven. I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant. It's an awful feeling and I hope your ok.

NoCallerID Tue 04-Aug-20 11:20:22

Hi OP,
sorry for your losses. Have you spoken with a GP about this?

Areallthenamestaken Tue 04-Aug-20 11:25:55

So sorry that you're going through this. It's such an awful experience but there's nothing to say you won't have a successful pregnancy.

I had 5 early losses within 13 months and then fell pregnant with my daughter who is a week old today. Speak to your GP about aspirin - I think that's what did it for me.

Nannon145 Tue 04-Aug-20 11:32:28

@blvdbrokendreams I’m struggling if I’m completely honest. I just can’t believe it’s happened to me again.

@NoCallerID yes I spoke to my GP yesterday and he told me there’s nothing he can do

@Areallthenamestaken oh really? I spoke to my gp yesterday and he said there’s nothing I can do and I should just be happy that I’m able to get pregnant. I was absolutely distraught on the phone though, could hardly speak because I was just absolutely gutted so he wasn’t very helpful

OP’s posts: |
Aria2015 Tue 04-Aug-20 11:36:22

Sorry for your losses. I've had 3 miscarriages. I also miscarried my first and second pregnancies. I was heartbroken and like you and so worried something was wrong. My third pregnancy was successful though so I hope that gives you some hope that third time can work out. I then had another miscarriage a few years after that successful pregnancy, followed by what I'm hoping is another successful pregnancy (I'm currently 31 weeks).

My doctor has told me that my miscarriages are probably just horrible luck. Although it's hard not to think the worst I know.

I did start taking low dose aspirin after my first two miscarriages. Not sure if it made any difference as I did have another miscarriage whilst taking it, but also had my two successful pregnancies too? Maybe have a google of repeat miscarriages and low dose aspirin and have a read and then ask your GP for advice? Mine just said that it doesn't hurt so I gave it a try.

Best of luck, really hope that things work out for you soon.

Nannon145 Tue 04-Aug-20 11:42:04

@Aria2015 thank you. I will speak to my GP and ask him about the low does aspirin.
I just have never wanted anything so bad and the hurt I’m going through is horrific.

It is nice hearing other people’s stories though to know I’m not alone

OP’s posts: |
Sassanacs Tue 04-Aug-20 11:59:23

Hi OP,

I hope my story gives you some hope.

I have PCOS and after 2 years of trying, multiple tests, weight loss, lifestyle changes etc we were finally sent to an ivf doctor. We had just returned from holiday and I had been due on at the start but totm was a no show, felt sick etc but put it down to having just got back from Egypt and thought maybe I'd eaten something off despite being super careful. Took a test and it was positive. Took about 10 other tests and still positive. Successful pregnancy, healthy baby.

3 years down the line we started trying again but nothing happened. Multiple tests etc, another two years until finally the gynae said it's not likely to happen. Also wouldn't be eligible for ivf as my hormone levels were so high. Was very upset for a while but eventually accepted our position. Super grateful to have our boy so we were a family of three.

Not long after I suffered an ectopic pregnancy - had no idea I was pregnant until I collapsed due to internal bleeding. Rushed in for emergency surgery and had to have a full laparotomy and tube removed. Doctors estimate I was 7-8 weeks along and there may have been two foetuses. A very scary ordeal and one I wouldn't wish on anybody. This took some getting over. I won't lie it knocked me on my ass, mentally and physically.

A year down the line, an early miscarriage whilst at work. I knew what it was but to be honest I was so grateful it wasn't an ectopic that I was able to deal with this one fairly well. Disappointed but the thought of the surgery and how close I came to not being around for my son, in a way it was a relief.

Another year down the line, we decide to relocate from London and truly draw a line under having another baby. We buy a house, I quit my job, take my son out of school etc. A week before moving I'm late by a couple of days but I put it down to stress of moving etc. As I'm packing, found some tests I had left over and just took one as a curiosity - pregnant! I'm never lost for words normally but I was gobsmacked. Healthy pregnancy (aside from gestational diabetes but managed that with diet and met form in towards the end) and a very quick birth following induction at 38 weeks. She was small at 6lb 8oz but very healthy and passed all her bloods.

Child one has just turned 10yrs and my rainbow baby is now 2.5yrs. Even with PCOS, 2 losses and only 1 Fallopian tube I've been blessed.

I wish you all the best and hope you get your rainbow 🌈

NoCallerID Tue 04-Aug-20 12:10:06

Where are you based OP?
I'm in the West Midlands and did have some tests at Birmingham Women's so I rang them the other day about parental genetic testing after two consecutive chemicals (we had a termination due to chromosomal and physical abnormalities earlier this year) and the midwife there recommended Tommy's (I'll link it below) as they recognise pregnancy loss even if it was positive tests and not officially noted by any midwives or gps yet. (I never managed to get a pregnancy confirmed through blood tests from my gp surgery, they simply won't do it.)

https://bwc.nhs.uk/tommys

chocciechocface Tue 04-Aug-20 12:12:57

I had two early miscarriages and a presumed ectopic that resolved naturally. The after three failed pregnancies I had two years of nothing. I was in such a state of despair. While exploring IVF options, the consultant told me he didn't know why I wasn't conceiving, but the fact I had had three pregnancies was very positive because it meant I could get pregnancies.

I conceived DD at age 40, and DS was conceived when I was 43 after our first attempt. They are 8 and 5 respectively.

DH and I do still talk about those days. They were very very dark. To be on the other side is more than I could have ever imagined at the time, but here we are.thanks

whatonearthmother Tue 04-Aug-20 12:27:30

A positive tale. We had three miscarriages, went through investigation and i had a large fibroid (apparently the size of a tangerine!). Had that removed, started on a low dose of aspirin.
My fourth pregnancy was successful and she is now 7.
Give your body a rest and push for the help. For once, age was on our side as we were late thirties so started the investigation after the second. In our authority they only start to investigate after the third.

namechanged857889 Tue 04-Aug-20 12:32:45

I had 2 early miscarriages and then had a perfect pregnancy with my now 11 year old. Try and stay positive thanksthanks

ChockyBicky Tue 04-Aug-20 12:37:36

I know it's heartbreaking op, I've had 3 miscarriages and an ectopic but I've also got 3 wonderful children so don't lose hope.

Smurf123 Tue 04-Aug-20 13:20:14

I had 3 early miscarriages before going on to have ds who is now 2.5
My gp did all the tests recurrent miscarriage clinic would do and found nothing out of the ordinary.
Pregnancy with ds I went private - had just started a new job plus I needed the reassurance of more scans. The consultant who is also an NHS specialist in fetal medicine and does research on miscarriage etc recommended low dose aspirin. She said the evidence it works was increasing and although inconclusive if u didn't have a positive clotting disorder the evidence also showed that low dose aspirin was completely safe to take in pregnancy so no risk that way.
As it happens I ended up being induced early (exactly 37 weeks but they had been talking about it for 3 weeks by that point) as my placenta was failing ds had stopped growing and I was having reduced movements. ds was born very small weighing only 5lbs and he most definitely needed to be out. Due to this I have been told that if I have another one the recommendation is that I take 150mg - double what I had last time
Good luck!!

Houndabouttown Tue 04-Aug-20 13:59:16

@Smurf123

How soon did you start taking the aspirin? At what gestation?

Nannon145 Tue 04-Aug-20 17:22:48

So interesting about the aspirin. I think I will definitely speak to my doctor about this next time I call

OP’s posts: |
whatonearthmother Tue 04-Aug-20 18:00:09

From memory I started to take aspirin from when we started to try again.

Smurf123 Tue 04-Aug-20 21:17:05

@Houndabouttown I started a few days after I found out I was pregnant so about 5 weeks

Semele5069 Wed 05-Aug-20 18:51:22

@Aria2015 when did you start taking the aspirin? I bought some a while ago but wasn't sure if to start while trying TTC or just if I get a positive test again.

Aria2015 Sat 08-Aug-20 20:19:51

@Semele5069 I actually started to take the aspirin while I was was TTC. I'd read that it increases blood flow to the uterus and I was having very light periods so was worried that my lining was maybe too thin? I've then taken it throughout the whole pregnancy.

2020wish Sun 09-Aug-20 08:47:08

I’ve had 3 early losses all before 6.4 weeks and awaiting recurrent miscarriage referral , my gp done bloods to check for clotting factors, anti inflammatory issues, hormone issues etc and all came back normal (so there is a lot he can test for that can be corrected like ur thyroid). I ended up being advised on low dose aspirin as my mum has clotting disorders. I got my 4th BFP and started aspirin 150mg daily and I seen a strong heart beat on my 6 weeks scan and was advised by the midwife on aspirin and I’m not 7 weeks nearly

2020wish Sun 09-Aug-20 08:52:05

I’m now nearly 7 weeks *

Nannon145 Sun 30-Aug-20 21:07:52

Just thought I’d give you all an update, I’ve had this new today 🥰 I’m excited that I’ve got pregnant again so soon after the last miscarriage but still very very very apprehensive.

OP’s posts: |

Join the discussion

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.

Join Mumsnet

Already have a Mumsnet account? Log in