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Ttc late 30s anyone else?

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taraRoo Tue 16-Jun-20 13:50:18

Hi ladies. I just tried today for the first time. I have a 2y/o. Desperate to have another but could afford 2 in child care so needed to hold off a bit. I'm 38 and so scared it's too late.... I have never really 'tried' for a baby. The last time it happened immediately and I wasn't that sure I even wanted a baby so I wasn't bothered if it didn't work. Very different this time as I know I want another.

Anyone relate? Xx

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Sunshine1984 Tue 16-Jun-20 22:01:57

Hey smile
There is a whole active thread for ttc 35+ but I’ve lost it! sad
I’m 36. Also have a DD about to turn 2. Was starting to feel like it may not happen but have just got my BFP! X

taraRoo Tue 16-Jun-20 22:26:46

@sunshine1984 CG congratulations! That's wonderful news. How does it feel second time around? X

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Sunshine1984 Tue 16-Jun-20 22:38:15

Thank you! It feels surreal to be honest.. and like I’ve forgotten everything from the 1st time. I’m also holding out until Friday to tell DH on his birthday so I haven’t told a soul yet which also feels really odd!

Are you using ovulation sticks or anything? X

taraRoo Tue 16-Jun-20 23:02:56

Not yet. I literally have no idea what to do! Last time I literally had sex twice and was preggo straight away. So I've never really used anything but luck!

That's so sweet you are keeping it for your Husband's birthday. Almost Father's Day too. I'm sure he will be thrilled. X

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Sunshine1984 Wed 17-Jun-20 07:19:01

I’ve found the other over 35 TTC group! Would you like me to tag you? smile

taraRoo Wed 17-Jun-20 08:12:40

Yes please

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Sunshine1984 Wed 17-Jun-20 23:05:08

TTC 35+ Thread 2 Cougar And Silver Fox Club Is the name of the group incase the tag didn’t work x

Waiting2BAMummy Thu 18-Jun-20 20:19:22

Hi ladies can I join? I’m 38 turn 39 next month. Have been TTC my first since November 2018. I had a chemical pregnancy in March. I’m single so am using a known donor which is really stressful as you don’t have much opportunity to ‘try’ and it’s even more important to make sure it’s the right time.

I’ve lost weight, I’m taking coq10 as it’s supposed to be good for egg health, I don’t drink and I’ve given up chocolate and caffeine. I’m starting to thing this is never going to happen though.

To make matters worse, and people will probably think I’m stupid for having done this, but my flat is full of baby stuff. I mean literally pretty much everything you would need for a newborn. I’d like to point out this isn’t because I’m unhinged! Since I’m doing this on my own I started buying everything I would need before I started trying because I knew once I was pregnant I would need to be saving in order to support us while I was on maternity leave. There is no way I could do both so I bought the things I would need.

Congratulations @Sunshine1984 that’s great. Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months. What a birthday present for DH that’s such a lovely gift.

Sunshine1984 Thu 18-Jun-20 23:28:55

Hey @Waiting2BAMummy - I can’t imagine how tricky it is trying to conceive with a donor. Falling pregnant sounds like the easiest thing in the world until you actually have to attempt it!

Must be tough seeing all of the baby things around too. Sounds like you’re doing all of the right things. Are you using ovulation sticks? Do you ‘try’ a few days in a row?

There’s a bigger over 35 group with lots of people on it if you’d like to join. I put the name of a couple of messages up. Lovely group and lots of very different situations.

Thank you for your well wishes. I can’t wait to finally tell him tomorrow! Xx

taraRoo Fri 19-Jun-20 12:17:39

Hey. I just saw your post. For what it's worth I don't think you are mad at all for pursuing this choice. I think you are incredibly brave. The desire for a baby is really primal and unless you have experienced it it's easy to judge other people's choices. Sending you lots of luck xxx

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Sunshine1984 Fri 19-Jun-20 12:35:15

@Waiting2BAMummy I completely agree with @taraRoo - so eloquently put! Wishing you lots of luck & baby dust! Xx

Waiting2BAMummy Fri 19-Jun-20 18:14:31

Thank you @taraRoo @Sunshine1984 xx

How did telling the hubs go @Sunshine1984 hope it made his birthday.

Sunshine1984 Fri 19-Jun-20 23:02:36

It really did - thank you. He is cautiously excited! Xx

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