Just as a little bit of background I already have two sons aged 4 and 2.
I have mentioned to my partner in the past about having another and his answer was no. He said he was done, couldn't do it all again. I was a bit disappointed but I respected it.
I have been on the pill for a while. About 4 weeks ago we had sex and the next morning realised that I missed my pill the day previously. Tried to get the morning after pill and everywhere was shut as it was a Sunday.
Monday I started bleeding and thought' great I have just got my period, i have nothing to worry about.' ( I know how stupid that sounds now.) On the tuesday morning woke up and i had just stopped bleeding. Pannicked thought, I definetly need to go and get the morning after pill. I did she told me the normal, "it may not work as it stops you from ovulating rather then make you have a period."
Went on my way and about 2 weeks ago realised I was having the same spotting that, I had with my other sons right before I found out I was pregnant.
I was open and honest from thr start and told him that I thought I might be pregnant, but that i had to wait a while before i could test. You can imagine that he wasn't pleased, but he wasn't going to worry until he had too.
Along came my expected period date and got a very faint posititve. told him and he went quiet. We haven't really talked about it much since, but he keeps making little comments.
Like just now our eldest son was trying to get his attention and he kept saying "daddy" over and over and i mentioned that he had been like that since 5am, and he made a sarky response about "its going to be great with 3 kids"
Im now stuck in a situation where, I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to have an abortion ( To anyone who is trying so hard to fall pregnant i'm SO sorry you have to read that!), but i also know he doesn't want this baby. I was going to offer him the ability to walk away and i will raise this child alone, but I'm worried that he is going to think that i'm using this as a way to leave him, which further from the truth I love this man so much.
What would you do? Would you just keep going and see how it all plays out?
I'm stuck in a situation where I have no one to talk to about this because, I don't want to /can't tell my family whats going on.
Thanks
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Mumma626 · 21/05/2020 16:59
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