Month 11 of TCC, have been trying to stay positive to date but the last few weeks have really gotten on top of me. 6 close friends pregnant, others with small babies. All pregnant friends either started trying after us or have surprise pregnancies. Our fertility investigations stalled due to the lockdown. I have too much time to think due to the lockdown and worry about running out of time. And with so many of my friends being pregnant or having small babies, it feels like there's no escape. Every whatsapp group, every zoom call, it's constant pregnancy and baby talk. I am absolutely delighted for my friends, I really am. But it's tough when my only social outlets now involve jokes about how fertile some friends are and how quickly they get pregnant; complaints about putting on weight; things like "oh wait until you feel that first kick, it's so special"; babies on every zoom call.
This got on top of me yesterday and after the most recent pregnancy announcement in a whatsapp group (the second in a couple of days) and putting my phone away to avoid the 70 messages that followed and a comment that really struck a nerve, I got upset and was in floods of tears. I'm probably PMSing as well which doesn't help, not just as I'm more emotional but also as it's a sign that I'm not pregnant. My DH just did not understand and indicated that I was being a bit nasty and that these people aren't trying to upset me and I should be happy for them. That just upset me more, I am happy for them and I had immediately replied with a very sincere congratulations message. But I feel like I'm also allowed be sad for us and want a break from it all. He also basically said as I was overreacting as he experiences the same thing and doesn't get upset - when I said I doubt his friends talk about children/pregnancy much he said sometimes on zoom calls one of his friends holds his baby. I know the situation is really hard on him too but I think he has no concept of the barrage of stuff I get on a daily basis and he's not in a position to tell me that I shouldn't be reacting like this just because he isn't.
Sorry, this is much longer than I intended. It's just that between my friends all being so baby obsessed at the moment; my DH thinking I'm being unkind and being cooped up in the house bored feeling like precious time is being wasted I'm struggling at the moment and I currently feel very lonely. Am I as awful as DH seems to think I am?
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Veenah · 18/05/2020 10:35
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