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Conception - first time vs second time

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heretobeanonymous Sat 02-May-20 18:29:27

Hi all, I'm sure there is many threads about this on MN but I can't seem to find any on my app confused. Therefore, I'd like to ask you - how long did it take you to conceive your first baby and was there much difference in timing the second time round? We have just decided to start TTC baby #2 this month and I am ovulating today. DD is now 20 months old so it is a perfect age gap for us. We conceived the first month of TTC with DD so I'm just intrigued to find out what the odds are that that could be the case again this time round? Was there much difference in how long it took you to conceive your second baby?

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ivfgottostaypositive Sat 02-May-20 18:45:27

DD1 - I guess around 18 months

Number 2 - 3 years and counting - having to go via IVF now as lost both tubes to ectopic pregnancy cues

heretobeanonymous Sat 02-May-20 19:33:29

@ivfgottostaypositive hi there! Thank you for replying. I'm sorry to hear that, sending positive vibes your way thanks

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Willow146 Sun 03-May-20 06:50:00

My son was first time trying (after a mc where I also fell first time) trying for number 2 now and 7 months and counting, nothing.
Good luck to you smile

HandfulOfFlowers Sun 03-May-20 06:57:12

First time - first month trying
Second time - second month trying

sarahc336 Sun 03-May-20 07:00:59

First time it was a surprise, second time 9 months with a mc in between x

Effram Sun 03-May-20 07:03:09

Second month both times for us!

BeingATwatItsABingThing Sun 03-May-20 07:05:32

DD was a surprise pregnancy and I was on the pill.

DC2 took 13 months for to conceive and now I’m 20 weeks.

I did have a chemical pregnancy after cycle 1 of TTC DC2.

NoCallerID Sun 03-May-20 07:20:17

1st cycle for both. For the second pregnancy I was still bf. Unfortunately resulted in TMFR, so back to TTC soon as I have no idea if we will get lucky to conceive quickly again. My sister conceived all three of hers first cycle, but you never know...

Luc1992 Sun 03-May-20 07:22:11

Hi Lovely,

With my First DD it took me 7 months! And then with my second DS it was a one hit wonder.

I am now trying for my Third, I'm in month 2


littlefawn Sun 03-May-20 07:28:07

1st time, ended contraception at the end of January and was pregnant around the beginning of July so 5 months or so

2nd time I was breastfeeding but no periods but once I stopped breastfeeding I became pregnant after 2 cycles.

Very surprised it happened so quick, there will be 18 months between them as second is due in September

SparkyBlue Sun 03-May-20 07:41:45

1st baby 5 months, 2nd baby it happened straight away and really surprised us. I had been on a bit of a health kick for the previous six months so I often wonder if that helped but my 3rd baby was a complete and utter shock to us

Quail15 Sun 03-May-20 08:03:15

1st baby - 4 years and needed Ivf in the end.

2nd baby - 18 months (natural pregnancy) but sadly ended in MC - now starting to TTC again.

nevergoingoutagain Sun 03-May-20 08:46:17

I'm very lucky to have conceived no 1 by being careless and no 2 on the second try. No 3 on the first try. If you were quick first time I would expect you to be the second time unless your health has changed in some way. I wouldn't worry though if it takes 6+months I think it's quite usual.

MsChatterbox Sun 03-May-20 08:56:00

First time was 2 cycles, second time was 6. First time I just dtd more, second time I ended up using opks, preseed lube and following smep.

NannyPear Sun 03-May-20 09:07:19

DC1 straight away, DC2 4 cycles.

frillyfucks Sun 03-May-20 09:10:35

First was first month of trying, second was a year, one ectopic and two miscarriages.

Britannah Sun 03-May-20 09:15:24

DC1 4 cycles, pregnancy number 2 1 cycle (it was a surprise just after I had finished bf) which very sadly ended in a MMC in December. TTC again and this is the first cycle, our timings seem similar OP. Sending baby dust your way xx

EyeDrops Sun 03-May-20 09:23:20

DD1 took 5 months, DD2 was 11 months.

Sally7645 Sun 03-May-20 09:27:53

Both of my pregnancies have been one hit wonders! Very lucky indeed. I used ovulation sticks both times so was guided which I think helped. Was 34 with first pregnancy and now 36 and 22 weeks

BalancingStick Sun 03-May-20 09:29:38

First pregnancy - 2 years
Second pregnancy- 1 month!

heretobeanonymous Sun 03-May-20 10:30:29

Wow, thank you ladies! I hate to hear about how many women actually go through complications with conception/pregnancy, I really didn't realise it was that common and now I feel a bit stupid and selfish for posting on here. Thank you so much for the answers though. I will keep you updated if that's okay with you thanks

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BeingATwatItsABingThing Sun 03-May-20 11:04:33

It’s normal for it to take up to a year to conceive. I think the messages we get told as a child are unhelpful when TTC.

‘Even think about having unprotected sex and you’ll get pregnant!’

For some people, that’s true. For most, it’s not. There is around a 25% chance of conceiving each month and that’s if there are no fertility issues. There’s a reason why doctors won’t start looking into fertility treatments until at least a year into TTC.

Marrilou Sun 03-May-20 14:53:52

First son conceived by being careless as a teenager, taking pill sporadically.
Two decades on and just had another son; took a year to conceive him but had been on pill for over 20 years and took about 4 months for cycle to regulate after coming off it. Now hoping to conceive again; also just ovulated so we can do the 2 week wait together if you like :-) Sending you baby dust! X

daisy112 Sun 03-May-20 15:29:44

I conceived the first month with first Daughter.

We started trying for 2nd baby and conceived first month again, but ended in early miscarriage. Took 3 months to get pregnant again, miscarried again. 4 months later conceived again and now have a second Daughter who is 5 weeks old smile.

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