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TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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SmileyT Sun 19-Apr-20 07:44:34

I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

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VP91x Sun 19-Apr-20 08:14:51

Hey @SmileyT I'm going to jump in on this thread too as AF is now here. Started temping today and going to use normal OPKs this month too! Xx

Quail15 Sun 19-Apr-20 08:39:03

Hi @SmileyT and @VP91x I hope it's ok that I join you both. My cramps are getting stronger so I'm definitely out this month.
Hopefully I will be testing next on 16th May IF my cycle settles down but it could be anytime between 14th - 22nd 🤷

Good luck to you both 🤞

Donnat89 Sun 19-Apr-20 08:49:32

Got my BFN today at 12DPO so just waiting for AF to arrive !

So I am taking my seat on the May bus


VP91x Sun 19-Apr-20 08:54:28

Hey @Quail15 and @Donnat89 sorry that you're both here too but hoping this is our lucky month!! 💛

At least this part of our cycle we can actually do something about getting pregnant. Xx

Mommybear05 Sun 19-Apr-20 08:55:53

@SmileyT @quail15 sorry af got you guys! Big hugs! Smiley you are so very similar to me! My mc 14th March yours 19th. Both at nine weeks and also we both had a 31 day cycle straight after mc. It sucks af got us but I have a good feeling for us both! We both conceived quickly before so this is a good sign!
I love how your dp did a quick google and looked at your temps. I couldn’t get my oh to do that! He is still in the mind of ‘we don’t need all that’ haha. Because he’s off til the middle of May I’m actually going with his thinking and will just dtd every other day this cycle. I really wanted to try preseed (love a bit of lube 😳) but he doesn’t want to. I might have another chat about it today!

To everyone saying they’re checking their cp- I do that loads! I’m trying not to do it so much but it’s addictive! I’m always like ‘does this feel like my lips or my nose’ and ‘is this high?’ Haha.

I just want to sprinkle this new thread with baby dust 👶🌈🤞

SmileyT Sun 19-Apr-20 09:13:24

Hello again to all of you 👋 Nice that we are all here and going to be around the same timeframe for ovulation/ TWW to help each other out.

@VP91x sorry AF got you but at least your cycle was a bit longer, how long is your LP? Have you had your progesterone checked? I was reading about it the other day and will try and get some bloods done when covid-19 has calmed down. xx

@Quail15 are you tracking with anything this month? And yeah I reckon I'll be testing around the same time but I won't test until AF is due so we'll see when ovulation happens this month xx

@Donnat89 sorry it was a BFN for you, you are still not out but if AF comes you are in good company on the May bus.

@Mommybear05 yeah I feel like I'm just a week behind you at the moment, hopefully you get your BFP and I follow a few days later. Honestly my lovely OH just goes with whatever I say, I think because I was so convinced everything was fine with pg and he didn't really acknowledge my concerns he is overcompensating being overly considerate now. Also no idea with the CP and definitely not poking around in full flow 😂 I've got a drawer full of opks and preseed (tell him I said it's not super lubey and my DP loved it) so I'll use them up but think I'll take a break from it all when it runs out, but hoping I don't get that far xx

Baby dust to all you 🌈

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Mommybear05 Sun 19-Apr-20 09:43:44

@SmileyT full flow poking 😱 no don’t think so haha. My period is finished now so I think we will dtd every other day anyway. I’ve still got my opks but I put them away in the cupboard because when they were sitting in the en suite I just kept looking at them several times a day like a crazy woman! Haha. Yes I hope we don’t get that far too xxx

TerribleImagination Sun 19-Apr-20 09:45:52

Hi everyone 👋🏻 I’ve been on these threads since January, after a MC in December.

Currently CD17 and waiting for my peak OPK! It’s never been this late before... but I have upped my B6 to 100mg this month (to try and balance hormones and lengthen luteal phase), so it could be that?!

Fingers crossed for us all this month! 🤞🏻🌈

VP91x Sun 19-Apr-20 10:45:48

@SmileyT I am not sure when I ovulated because my CB didn't pick it up (unless it didn't happen) but my apps seem to think it was on CD 9/10 in line with my symptoms CM etc. So that would have given me about a 12 days LP. I am definitely an early ovulator from previous PG.

@Mommybear05 I didn't tell my partner I was using the pre seed and just used half of the syringe. He never mentioned anything but everything felt nicer to me! Seemed like the perfect amount to use. Will use again this month xx

Mommybear05 Sun 19-Apr-20 10:53:23

@TerribleImagination hello again! Cd 17 is such an exciting time! Enjoy that bd! Good luck. Xx

ttcin2020 Sun 19-Apr-20 11:05:06

Hiii everyone!!
I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks recently. Got my first clearly negative HPT yesterday and really looking forward to some sign of ovulation/AF/anything at all so I can start to make sense of my body again. I'm doing OPKs every day and have done since the bleeding stopped (I know they can pick of HCG so probably was very pointless but it makes me feel like I am doing something!)

I know it takes time for everything to settle down but I keep getting told it's the most fertile time, it's so conflicting in my mind. But I'm so looking forward to trying again and hopefully getting that BFP for a 2021 baby.

Best of luck to all of you ladies too, hoping May is the month🤞🏻

Mommybear05 Sun 19-Apr-20 11:10:17

@ttcin2020 welcome to the group. Sorry for your loss. I’m sure you’ve already read but it’s possible to ovulate as soon as two weeks post mc so you have a shot I’m sure! Good luck x

Geepipe Sun 19-Apr-20 11:14:06

Hi all sorry for your losses. I had a miscarriage at 11.5 in november now im in the middle of a chemical so bleeding clots heavily. As it arrived around normal period time online seems to suggest treating it like a normal period so i will ttc right after this is done so hopefully 2 weeks of dtd and see what happens.

Geepipe Sun 19-Apr-20 11:16:14

Oh i heard drinking grapefruit juice every day helps CM so i have started that yesterday and have preseed as well smile

SmileyT Sun 19-Apr-20 11:44:25

Hi again @TerribleImagination ooh I'm really interested in extra vitamins I've been taking 20mg, might look into upping mine if it helps with fertility. Hope you see your peak soon 🤞

@Mommybear05 definitely no full flow poking 😂

@VP91 ahh this makes sense about early ovulation, my LP is 12-14days aswell so maybe that's okay.

@ttcin2020 i'm just in first AF post MC and totally understand wanting to feel like you are doing something after a loss and I've definitely seen people go on to conceive 2 weeks after so it's definitely worth a shot.

@Geepipe sorry for your losses and what you are currently going through. Was you tracking when you got pg? I'll add grapefruit juice to my OHs shopping list and hoping this will be your month after all you've been through in the last 6 months x

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Geepipe Sun 19-Apr-20 11:51:24

Thanks op hope this is all our month smile i use the clue app which is pretty accurate for me as my cycles vary by 10 days so i always know the ballpark for where i am smile i always seem to ovulate a week after period so i dont use opks as i would confuse myself and end up missing it knowing me lol.

Geepipe Sun 19-Apr-20 11:52:49

Im finding half a cup of grapefruit juice topped up with lemonade is making it so much more palatable as well. Its supposed to make cm more watery and tbf it worked for me in the past although sods law i was with my ex then lol

Mommybear05 Sun 19-Apr-20 12:19:43

@geepipe sorry for your losses that’s so sad that you are going through a loss twice. Big hugs. But I’m glad we can share our ttc journey together ❤️

So girls I just persuaded my hubby to get some pre seed. I ordered the 75ml tube on amazon and a couple of first response tests for this cycle too ❤️❤️🌈🤞

VP91x Sun 19-Apr-20 13:09:59

@Geepipe sorry that you're currently going through another loss 😔 xx

I will add the juice to my shopping also. I will give anything ago!

@Mommybear05 yay! Less is more with that stuff it can be alot.

VP91x Sun 19-Apr-20 13:32:22

@SmileyT yeah, I am hoping I can get it pinpointed this month and have a better understanding of it. Last month was definitely a wild guess xx

Geepipe Sun 19-Apr-20 14:05:09

Thank you ladies. I feel ok but a bit nervous as im worried that a 2nd one means theres something wrong with me sad

Has anyone been adding anything to their diets to help?

Ejb86 Sun 19-Apr-20 14:22:00

@TerribleImagination I'm still waiting for ov too! I hate that I'm CD18 and nothing yet. Means my LP will be a max of 10 days, not the best length by any stretch!

Have decided that if I'm unlucky this cycle, I'm going back to tempting which I did when I conceived my son and will purchase a clearblue fertility kit, rather than my cheapies.

Is it just me that has this happen with the cheapies?

TerribleImagination Sun 19-Apr-20 14:51:24

@Ejb86 I’ve never used the cheapies, tried them alongside clear blue once but couldn’t decipher them at all! I think your luteal phase is supposed to roughly the same each month, so hopefully late ovulation will only mean a longer cycle in general? That’s what I’m hoping for me anyway! Got my peak today. Was all grumpy cos my DP went out for a run, but I couldn’t do my workout or go for a walk cos I was holding a wee in for 4 hours so I could retest at 2! 😂 Nice one hormones 😆

SmileyT Sun 19-Apr-20 15:07:22

@Geepipe I definitely haven't added anything to my diet, but I am trying to lose some lockdown weight so any suggestions on healthy things I should add to my shopping list I'll take.

@VP91x I'm the same as you... trying to do everything perfect this month even though I know it doesn't guarantee anything. Do you put your bum on a pillow after DTD... think I'm going to go SMEP this month. Every other day from CD8 then when I get a positive opk 3 days in a row, one day off and then final BD for good measure. Feel like it's a lot after a positive but thought there was no harm trying it.

@Ejb86 I used the cheapies these month, and found they were hard to read as they got stronger but easier using an app to decipher (I used femometer) I'd say that the strip in the pic is looking pretty near to positive now so maybe you'll peak later today. I'll be using the cheapies alongside CB connected and temping this month aswell. When you temped did you take it orally?

Glad you got your peak @TerribleImagination time to get the deed done 💁‍♀️

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