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Positivetime Tue 31-Mar-20 13:56:15

Hi all I could really do with some advice I’m 35 and my OH and I started ttc last month and nothing happened.
We have UPSI this month two days before ovulation and the day of ovulation but it was literally 20 mins before midnight of the day of ovulation. So I’m not sure if that makes a difference?
But also I’m wondering what everyone’s thoughts are of ttc during covid 19? In terms of care and having Gp appointments is it wise? But at the same time I’m aware of my age and the fact that I’ve always wanted a baby!

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Gammeldragz Tue 31-Mar-20 14:01:50

I really wouldn't be trying to get pregnant right now.

Gammeldragz Tue 31-Mar-20 14:03:33

Aside from the need for healthcare even with a healthy pregnancy (God forbid you have complications that require extra care), we don't know the impact of Covid19 infection on early pregnancy and foetal development.
Also, financially will you be in the same position this time next year? Most of us won't due to job loss etc and then there's the recession we will undoubtedly be in.

Imstillskanking Tue 31-Mar-20 14:04:14

I'm still TTC, but I am in rural Australia.

Where are you? If you are in the UK or the USA I would say that TTC could be risky right now. Just consider the fact that you may not get much health care during your pregnancy and birth.

NemophilistRebel Tue 31-Mar-20 14:04:19

I’m same age and about to give birth soon

Yes it’s shit but we’ll all be at home together in our bubble for the first few weeks maybe months which isn’t a whole lot different to how I spent early maternity leave with number one anyway

If I wasn’t already pregnant this wouldn’t put me off still trying.

It would be 12 weeks for your first important appointment and people will still be available to do that

Elllicam Tue 31-Mar-20 14:06:02

I’ve stopped trying and I’m 38. If things settle we wouldn’t consider trying again in a few months. This is our last baby though.

Beau20 Tue 31-Mar-20 15:14:59

It depends on your situation... young fertile people who haven't/have only just started TTC should wait. People who are older, have been trrying a while or have fertility issues should carry on.

However despite anything, if you are financially stable and know you will e for the foreseeable, I say stuff ANYONE who tells you not to have a baby right now. For some reason a lot of people think that because there is a pandemic we have to put our entire lives on hold and aren't entitled to a family...

We sill had kids during the war and all the other crap we've been through over the years. Everyone is entitled to a family

BeingATwatItsABingThing Tue 31-Mar-20 15:29:24

I’m 15 weeks pregnant and all of my appointments are up in the air. My DH probably won’t be allowed to come to my 20 week scan. I have a private scan on Saturday and he can’t come to that. I still have my MW appointment tomorrow but I don’t know about future ones. The likelihood is that my DH won’t be allowed into the room until active labour if all the things I’m reading are true. Hopefully that won’t be the case in September.

I’m 25 and it took 13 cycles to conceive this pregnancy. I honestly don’t know if I would have continued trying at the moment. I’m just listing some things you should consider.

CMM20 Tue 31-Mar-20 16:20:56

I had an appointment with my GP yesterday and I asked her the question as myself and my husband were planning to start trying in May- Her advice was that there isn't enough evidence yet on the possible impact so she would advise waiting 4-6 months to see how everything has progressed and we should have more information then regarding the potential impact of COVID-19 on pregnancy. Obviously I appreciate not everyone is in the position where they can wait 4-6 months but I hope this helps smile

Sunflower2019 Wed 01-Apr-20 08:20:50

It’s a tough one, as it could take some time to ttc and they’ve said they don’t have any evidence there’s more of an issue with pregnant women, although I’m unsure as a lot of young people have passed away now sad
But I am 4 months pregnant and my partner and I are actually devastated, ALL of my midwife appointments are cancelled, can’t take partner to scans, have just booked a private one which he can come too, so far! The birth situation at the minute is likely to be no partner till established labour and then they have to leave once baby born, which is very scary for first time mums.

You need to think about all of these things! I’m concerned they’ll be a lot of new mothers with depression due to lack of support and I may be one of them x

Luckystar1 Wed 01-Apr-20 08:28:34

I’m 14 weeks pregnant. Things are different but as a PP said, babies will still keep being born! I actually find all the ‘I absolutely would not be ttc right now’ advice, very scary and insensitive given that a lot of women are actually pregnant and were before all of this started.

I also think that, given that everyone is joking about a baby boom in December etc, I would absolutely still ttc. People will continue to get pregnant accidentally, nobody will bat an eyelid about that.

MadameGazelleIsMyHomegirl Wed 01-Apr-20 08:33:48

If we have a second wave of corona it may well happen next winter/Christmas. Would you really want to be pg or giving birth in the midst of that? Risking your health as a pregnant person or that of your newborn? I do understand the desire for a baby but I’d be avoiding pregnancy at least for the next few months until it’s clearer how far we are from vaccine/cure.

karenkeys Wed 01-Apr-20 15:10:38

Hey, I’m 32 (my husband is 37) and we have been trying for our first baby since January. AF arrived just a few days ago so we’re now pausing for a couple of months after 3 failed cycles.

The pause is for a few reasons... the number one is the virus. We’re both working remotely so are relatively safe, however it’s not the ideal time for a first pregnancy for us with the risk of me being alone at appointments/scans, having no antenatal classes and any problems which might require hospital trips when the NHS is already under pressure. For second children these might be less of a concern as you have already experienced pregnancy and labour and will be more prepared for what’s ahead.

The second reason for the pause is to give myself a little break and my body a chance to reset. Since TTC I’ve been suffering spotting for days throughout cycles which was never an issue before trying. I also had a chemical in January which was hard to take having spent days thinking I was pregnant with a positive FRER.

The third reason is sort of related to the virus in that a baby conceived in the next couple of months will mean a winter birth day, and the NHS/virus will likely be worse again around this time of year. We never really wanted to have a baby with a birthday around Christmas/new year either.

I’m hoping to start trying again from June for a spring/summer 2021 baby and hopefully we will know more about the coming year after a month or so.

Have to say I’m gutted I’m not going to have my first baby until I’m 33 or older now as we hoped to have a family with 2 children in an ideal world and it’s going to be getting a bit late for me to have a second realistically given I’ll be late 30s by then.

I’m also just feeling disappointed that it’s not as easy to have a baby as you believe before trying.

I’d always say make your own decision about whether to try during this time and don’t let people tell you not to if you feel this is the right time. Life has to go on.

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