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Venting thread - feel free to vent too!

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lilcl95 · 10/03/2020 07:24

Just need to vent, even if no one even reads this!
Third cycle since coming off the pill. I tried my hardest to convince myself that it takes time, especially after stopping the pill but I'm still so deflated.
Even though I know deep down that I'm out this cycle, I'm still holding onto hope and I can't get rid of it. I've had cramps for 3 days which usually happens before AF and I'm due on Thursday. But when I woke up this morning with sore nipples, the hope just reappeared since this isn't a usual pre AF symptom. Ovia said to test today and ofc BFN but it's a cheap dip stick test and I'm still convincing myself that it's too early... even though I have period pains!!!
Why am I doing this to myself?! It's like I'm battling with my brain. 3 of my friends have literally sneezed near their partner and got pregnant in the past couple of weeks and it's just really getting to me.

Anyway. Rant over.

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primrose2020 · 10/03/2020 07:45

I honestly think this is how everyone is feeling so don't let yourself get so down about it (easier said than done I know!!). For some reason as soon as your TTC everyone around you starts becoming pregnant!! I'm at early stages as TTC like you and have read lots on here where people have been trying for months and months (sometimes years) so I try keep that in mind when I'm having a particularly down day. It will happen for us!!! Xxx

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bingbangbing · 10/03/2020 07:53

I'm also using Ovia and I'm due on Thursday!

I actually hate the 'you should take a pregnancy test' thing which comes up before your period is even due! What's the fucking point!?

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primrose2020 · 10/03/2020 07:55

@bingbangbing 😂😂😂 I've tortured myself watching YouTube videos and seeing people get positives really early. First cycle I tested ridiculously early and spent far too much money on tests

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bingbangbing · 10/03/2020 07:57

Been TTC thirteen months. Haven't used a single pregnancy test. Think the one I have is out of date!

If Ovia didn't have months of useful data saved, I'd bin the fucking thing

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lilcl95 · 10/03/2020 08:43

@primrose2020 @bingbangbing it drives me insane, it's like ok it's telling me to take a test so I probably should... even though I just had a period cramp that was so bad I had to stop what I was doing and stand still.
Stupid stuff when I clearly am not pregnant and am clearly going to come on any day now 🙄

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bingbangbing · 10/03/2020 08:49

I mentioned Ovia to my fertility doc (we're at that stage) and he does think that Ovia is one of the better ones.

However it is part of some American healthcare packages which tend to be 'product heavy' (it recommend I start douching or using wipes) and heavily medicalised, hence the obsession with testing.

I try my best to ignore it.

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lilcl95 · 10/03/2020 09:57

@bingbangbing yeah I think I'll be avoiding it's advice too. It is usually spot on with its predictions though but the whole "test today!!!!" Thing pisses me off

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Newbie0818 · 11/03/2020 14:37

I love this thread! Thanks for starting it! I’m only on my 3rd cycle, but after coming off the pill they’ve been all over the place.

I, like you @lilcl95 feel like loads of other people I know just hold hands and get pregnant within seconds. ITS NOT FAIR! I’m happy for them, yes, but when can it be my turn :( gah! I feel ya.

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inahaze · 11/03/2020 14:55

i just want to KNOW! the 2WW is utter bullshit.

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Lizziejayne13 · 11/03/2020 15:19

Totally understand im currently on cycle day 3 and have been ttc for 7 months now doing every we need to at the right time each month when af arrives is just heartbreaking ... and the 2ww can go do one as well as all the pre af symptom spotting 😤😓

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