Hi everyone!
Just looking for some validation if I'm totally honest.
Been TTC for 7 cycles, and I am finding it hard. I have one sister who conceived first time with both kids and my two closest friends had surprise babies. I appreciate it's not an very even mix, and I try not to compare...
I'm due AF today but she's not here, just pale spotting (which I get 2 days before AF usually) but have just got a late afternoon BFN on a 10miu IC.
I'm tired of it, I KNOW it's not even that far into the journey but I'm so sick to death of having to pretend that it's not gutting every month.
I confided in my sister, said I was anxious it might not happen for a really long time, or that it'll become a 'problem' in my marriage and she replied: yeah, it could take ages. That's it. No empathy, I don't want sympathy but is it so much to say 'I've never experienced that but I imagine it's stressful' or even something bland but at least hearing me?
One of the few friends I've shared with suggested I want it too much and it's my 'mind causing it to not happen'.
Can someone please tell me it's okay to be sad when it's a BFN? It's okay to be disappointed and also optimistic at the same time? I'm tired of this attitude of 'it's not a big deal' when it is for the person who so badly wants it.
So I'm expecting AF, and expecting to walk around with a big old fake smile on for a few days lest I bother someone with my disappointment
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14dpo, AF due but not here, BFN...fed up
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croissantmonster · 21/02/2020 18:51
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