So basically I'm so ready for a baby and to settle down etc. Me and my fiance have been together 6 years nearly 7. About 4 years ago the topic of baby's came up (I'd of had one there and then I've always been ready) well he started uni late change in career and wanted till wait he finished uni. I totaly understand and we agreed when he finished we would begin trying. So we like comprised I guess. He's due to finish this may. Well now he's decided he wants to do his master and PhD and wants to wait but that's another 5 years I've already waited 4 and my biggest fear is in 5 years he could again go well actually I want to settle in a job couple years or something. I try and talk to him but he brushes it off all the time or tell me to stop "nagging" or "going on" and he says he wants kids and tells me to give him time but honestly I'd of had kids by now if I was with some one willing and I know its not fair to say but I really do resent him a bit and feel like he's holding me back. Obviously I don't want us to split I love him and were great untill baby topic is brought up. I just think it's really unfair to set out a plan then change it without any consideration. He said he can't have a baby and uni at the same time because it's to much work but I started uni last year and well aware it will be alot of work but as far as I'm concerned it would be the same as working job so completely irrelevant argument in my opinion. I don't know what do you think do I need to just wait a couple more years or is he being unfair?
Side note: my family go through menopause early so between 35/40 and if we wait till he does another 5 years then I'll be 31 and that's a little nerve recking and another reason I don't want to be leaving it so late he know this but keeps brushing it of as me being dramatic)
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I'm done waiting I'm ready for a baby now.
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Jess251994 · 20/02/2020 00:44
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