Ttc at 40 something!

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Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 21:04:46

Probably the only place I feel comfortable enough to share details of when I had sex and what is going on with my vagina 😳
So as the title says I'm 40 and some extra and desperately ttc since 2017, I've had 2 miscarriages in this time 1 being a Mmc and the other at week 12 which was horrendous. If you want to join for some love, support and a chat please do!
Don't let me be Billy no mates 😢

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bitheby Tue 11-Feb-20 21:07:39


I'll join. 40 plus too. TTC #1. Don't want to hear any negativity. I've already had to hide one thread that made me feel really down about things. My friend from university is currently pregnant with her second and she's only 6 days younger than me so I'm holding on to hope.

Whynosnowyet Tue 11-Feb-20 21:13:37

Def not ttc now at 48 but did at 42!! Not pfb though..
Folic acid.
No tea /coffee.
No fizzy pop.
Lots of leafy veg and veg full stop.
No red meat, just chicken and fish.
Lots of sleep!
Did use opk cheapies and always found a + testing at 2 pm and 1pm using guide cycle days for 26 day cycle which I had.
Ttc the Nov and got a bfp Feb.
Good luck to all.

Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 21:18:48

Welcome @bitheby and @Whynosnowyet
I'm so sorry to hear that @bitheby no negativity here 💜

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bitheby Tue 11-Feb-20 21:19:10

Why no red meat? I've just had a big steak. Should I not be?

Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 21:19:48

@bitheby was the negativity age related?

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bitheby Tue 11-Feb-20 21:23:52

Yes. The thread will still be on here but I've hidden it so I won't accidentally come across it.

Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 21:25:15

What does pfb mean @Whynosnowyet?
@bitheby I've spent months googling and have tried eating more veg/fruit tried orange veg/fruit aspirin and now trying reiki. I honestly don't know what to try next

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Newnamewhodis1 Tue 11-Feb-20 21:27:30

PFB - perfect first born.

Does diet matter that much? It's not going to improve the quality of your eggs.Maybe cut the booze for the last two/three weeks of your cycle

Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 21:31:20

@Whynosnowyet ah ok Thankyou, I'm not a big drinker and rarely go out so not something that's an issue.

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Whynosnowyet Tue 11-Feb-20 21:31:32

Healthier diet =healthier bmi =healthier pregnancy... Less chance of any complications...

BooseysMom Tue 11-Feb-20 21:32:14

I'm 47 and still ovulating as far as i can tell. I had DS at 41 after 2 mcs. We tried for another but were unsuccessful. Negative tactless comments from family didn't help. DS will be an only now and I'm trying to make peace with this.
Good luck x

Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 21:32:28

@Newnamewhodis1 sorry last message was for you! Welcome X

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Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 21:34:13

@BooseysMom miscarriages are so hard aren't they? I'm so lucky in so many ways but the longing for a child is indescribable

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VenusTiger Tue 11-Feb-20 21:38:47

Hi everyone!
It's precious first born - it's what others label your baby when you think it's the best baby in the world lol
I'm not far now from 40 and ttc no.2 - DH late 40s - had all bloods and scan, all seems fine with me - but DH won't test, which I'm okay with. I take folic acid and vit D and DH (forgets to) take(s) conception vitamins.
Been a year of trying this month.
Fed up tbh.
I don't even know when I'm due on anymore as I can't take the rollercoaster ride of emotions.

BooseysMom Tue 11-Feb-20 21:41:32

Yes it's the toughest thing. The mcs were both early ones and we gave up after that then we found out about DS when i was 12 weeks gone as i was bleeding but only a bit and i put it down to peri menopause coming..all along it was DS!
The hardest part for me now is the acceptance it won't happen again. Like you say the longing for another is unbelievably strong. It must be nature's way of having one last push before it really is too late.
I hope you are successful

Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 21:44:42

@VenusTiger welcome to the thread. It is an absolute rollercoaster....I tell myself I'm content with what I have and try to pretend I love lay ins and lazy days but I'm not I want that newborn rush of love again, don't we all?! My daughters friends are having babies and I'm so jealous then I hate feeling like that

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Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 21:47:55

@BooseysMom I don't think it's too late until the menopause, I've been reading so much on how the average age is rising. I'm not giving up until I take HRT lol

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BooseysMom Tue 11-Feb-20 21:57:38

Good for you @Mumof4andahalf smile
I would have tried alot harder but we had many things go wrong and now i feel too old and knackered! I still feel really broody when i see babies tho. It's like constant torture

Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 22:00:51

@BooseysMom I'm really sorry it didn't work out for you 😢 my partner was the 1 that wanted to ttc but he's not so onboard now as physically it's me that suffers

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CamdenTownie Tue 11-Feb-20 22:34:51

Hi, I'm 40 and have been ttc for over 18 months, no pregnancy at all so far.

I've had months where I'm almost certain that we've conceived, I know when I ovulated and we made sure to dtd at the right times etc, then af arrives and we start all over again. I said we would give up if I got to 40 without success but I just don't feel ready to stop trying just yet.

Mumof4andahalf Tue 11-Feb-20 22:50:00

@CamdenTownie welcome to the thread! Xx

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sabtom Tue 11-Feb-20 23:21:26

Can I join?

TTC #1 for a year, just turned 40. All tests came back normal for both of us. Regular cycles and ok'ish AMH level. Not even a hint of a second line at any time despite dtd at all the right times, taking my vitamins, healthy lifestyle etc.

Really thought this was my month then, BAM! AF shows up this morning sad

Told by the dr to look into IVF as soon possible but unfortunately we'll have to self fund due to my age and partner's smoking habit angry

BootShakin Tue 11-Feb-20 23:24:31

Hi ladies, same here and dont want to hear negativity either. We have had 3 IVFs so far. Not giving up yet but it is not easy.

Mumof4andahalf Wed 12-Feb-20 08:53:10

Welcome @sabtom and @BootShakin

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