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Stressed and Anxious TTC #1

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GaaaaarlicBread · 05/12/2019 21:43

I do have another thread on TTC journey of number one but just need some ‘it’s gonna be ok’ kind of reassurance from Mums and Dads, or Mums to be .
We’ve not been trying long but my god the stress . I was doing ok and myself and DH decided to stop tracking ovulation to reduce the pressure of him ‘performing’and we’ve been aiming every 2-3 days . Well recently , every now and then, DH struggles to ‘finish’ , and when I say struggle I mean he can’t finish.
I’ve been an emotional wreck as I’m seeing babies everywhere . DH works in maternity , I work in the hospital and see them everywhere . I have nobody in real life to talk to as my mum has already made comments recently about ‘don’t be planning on starting a family yet you’re only just starting in life’ etc . I feel so alone and so sad .
I’m confused by all the terminology and science still. My cycle is about 35 days since having the coil removed and I do ovulate as scans have shown it but I find myself constantly looking at my CM, is it fertile , am I cramping or is that just a twitch. I’m going mad . Anyone have any advise ?? Or guidance . Anything . Especially with the DH thing .

Thanks

Maybe relevant info;
I’m 25, DH 24.
Married and settled so not sure why my Mum is so bothered !
Both work full time , healthy relationship no problems at all
Normal length cycle , no health issues

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EightiesBaby · 05/12/2019 21:48

Stressing does no good for ttc. You need to redirect your attention to a hobby ASAP. You need not stress as you have 10+years of fertility ahead. Best thing you can do is go out get drunk together and chill. Book a holiday away. Surprises are best xxx

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OlivejuiceU2 · 05/12/2019 21:56

I agree. You need to focus your attention elsewhere. It is obviously having an impact on your DH and it will only get worse if you keep stressing. Plans some nice things together even if it is just nights in, do more with friends, just generally keep yourself occupied and try not to discuss TTC too much with DH. Just keep Dtd. Hope this helps you, I know it’s all easier said then done but it worked for me! The month I didn’t stress about it and kept busy we fell pregnant.

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GaaaaarlicBread · 06/12/2019 07:57

Thanks ladies , today is a new day

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