Has anyone TTC DTD before their first period after miscarriage?

[danielasummer]

Has anyone TTC DTD before their first period after miscarriage?

I miscarried 3 weeks ago and haven't had a period yet.. was told to wait to TTC after AF but I have loads of egg white cervical mucus today and just so tempted to DTD and see what happens! Any stories or advice anyone can share please??

[meroyah]

My friend had a miscarriage and immediately fell pregnant again afterwards. I think it is recommended to give a few cycles for your body to recover but whatever happens, happens!

[danielasummer]

@meroyah thanks so much for replying. Did she go on to have a successful full term pregnancy? I'm worried that the doctors have said not to but at the same time..... can't ignore the ewcm!

[meroyah]

She's got a very tall, handsome and sarcastic 13yo now!

[danielasummer]

@meroyah that's great news! Thank you for sharing.

[itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted]

Yes and ended up with a ruptured ectopic and lost my tube as the miscarriage had caused an infection in one of my tubes and a build up of fluid......I wouldn't risk it x

[TeuchterTraveller]

Yes I did. Got a row from the doctor for not waiting when I went to confirm subsequent (healthy) pregnancy - but received zero advice or information post miscarriage.

[danielasummer]

@itwasalovelydreamwhileitlasted I'm so so sorry to hear that happened to you, that must have been awful. I've heard mixed experiences so I'm genuinely stuck and don't know what to do. I only ovulate maybe 5 times a year so I'm not sure whether to chance it or not. x

[WannabeMathematician]

I miscarried three weeks ago as well. I was advised by my GP to wait one period (rather that miscarriage bleeding) before starting to try again.

Sorry for your loss but glad to hear you are bouncing back

[danielasummer]

@TeuchterTraveller thank you so much for sharing. I'm glad you went on to have a healthy pregnancy. I don't ovulate many times a year so I'm wondering whether to go from it.. the early pregnancy unit told me to wait until AF as there's a higher chance of miscarriage but I'm desperate to be pregnant again!

[ChanklyBore]

The advice is to make dating the next pregnancy easier.

I’ve done it twice.

I’m sorry for your miscarriage.

[danielasummer]

@WannabeMathematician I'm so sorry for your loss too. It's awful isn't it - worst time of my life. Are you going to wait until your first period if you decide to try again? I hope you're doing ok. The days get a little brighter every day, although still a big hole in my heart x

[danielasummer]

@ChanklyBore hi, thanks for posting. You've done it twice as in you've BD before your period arrived? And you went on to have successful pregnancies? Sorry for all of the questions..I feel I'm on a timer as tonight would be the night for BD! I had medical management, I don't know if that makes difference?

[Escapedgoats]

Yes - and my daughter will soon be 21.

[WannabeMathematician]

Thank you for your kind words x I'm doing a lot better than I was and I totally understand how you feel.

Yes I'm going to wait but my normal cycle is like clockwork so even though this cycle (if it is a cycle?) might be long I'm likely to not be waiting too long until my next period according to my doctor. Good luck!

[danielasummer]

@Escapedgoats exactly the news I wanted to hear - thank you so much for sharing x

[danielasummer]

@WannabeMathematician I'm glad you're doing better. We're unfortunately in the minority but at least we have others on MN for support.

Good luck, will be thinking of you x

[ChanklyBore]

Yes. I’ve had a miscarriage ten months before a baby and a miscarriage eleven months before a baby. All my miscarriages have been too late for medical management (my earliest miscarriage was at 16 weeks) so I’m not sure about that.

[danielasummer]

@chanklybore thank you for your reply. I'm so sorry for your losses. Glad you managed to get pregnant so quickly. They do say you're most fertile after a miscarriage so pinning my hopes onto that x

[MrsSkr]

Hi, sorry about your miscarriage. I was given the same advise but was subsequently told it is mainly to ensure you are mentally ready and for dating (my mc was quite early on, may be different if you required more invasive management).
I didnt wait afterwards, got pregnant straight away and my wee girl turns 3 next month. Good luck x

[danielasummer]

@MrsSkr Hi, thank you. I'm sorry for your loss also

Thank you for your story. I hope I fall as quickly as you did and have a successful outcome. Just desperate to be pregnant again whilst also missing my little one that I've just lost x

[danielasummer]

@MrsSkr sorry for another message, but I forgot to ask what you meant by invasive - do you mean a d&c? As I just had medical management. Did you have natural if you don’t mind me asking? X

[MrsSkr]

@danielasummer sorry yes that's what I meant, a d&c. Mine was natural yes, I was seen at hospital for bloods but didnt need any treatment. I think it's a personal thing, I really wanted to get pregnant again asap and it did work out for me but tbh, I was left with alot of anxiety which I believe is from the mc. I couldnt say if I'd have been the same had I waited. I think if you feel well, are healed and well mentally, go for it. But equally, if you are in any doubt then waiting a month wouldn't hurt (it will hurt emotionally since all you want is a baby of course!) xx

[danielasummer]

@MrsSkr I'm sorry it didn't work out for you. Honestly, I know it sounds bitter and resentful but I just don't understand how some people find it so easy, and others like us suffer miscarriages (and some suffer multiple). It doesn't make sense in my head. I also suffer from anxiety which was heightened during pregnancy but I'm trying to control it now, for the sake of my mental health. I must say I'm not finding it easy. xx

I've just found this which has helped clear things up a little for me - www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/information/worried-about-pregnancy-loss/trying-again/

[Lf89]

Sorry to hear about your MC. I had a MC at 5+5 16 days ago. I was told we could start trying again once I finished bleeding, and they only say to wait for a AF because it makes it easier to work out dates.
Had a week of high on the clearblue OPK, assumed maybe I wouldn't ovulate but we have been DTD, got my peak today though.

[MrsSkr]

@danielasummer I felt completely the same, I think it's normal. I came to terms with it alot easier when I spoke to my sister who's a midwife and she explained that the baby we lost was lost for a reason and out with anyones control. It wouldn't have been a healthy pregnancy and wouldn't have resulted in a healthy baby which is why my body induced a miscarriage. It's a horrible thought but our bodies do what is best for us (although it doesnt feel like that at the time) and when I got pregnant again, it was completely different from the beginning and resulted in a super healthy baby. It may not help now but that pregnancy wasnt meant to be and the next one will be!! I do think looking after yourself is so important too, I let my anxiety take over a little as I was so scared of something terrible happening so dont let that happen xx