TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 30 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

[Lilimum7]

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Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This is a wonderful supportive group for anyone ttc after the loss of a pregnancy or baby. Together we can get through the ttc crazyness xx baby dust to everyone xx

[InDreamland]

Thanks for starting the new thread @Lilimum7.

Tagging as many as I can think of here @Frillyfarmer @Russkispy @TinyPaws @KnitKitty @fnej01 @hayleyfx @AliceRR @Boboelephant @strawberrye @Yukka

Who have I forgotten? Sorry if I've missed you off.

Starting the roll call, me:

Age 39
TTC #1 since June 2013
MC#1 July 2018
MC#2 November 2018
Had as many tests I could squeeze out of the NHS as they won't refer to RMC yet but all results came back normal. Went private and DHs SA and DNA fragmentation results showed something so had some treatment for that.

[Lilimum7]

I'm lilimum7

Currently dealing with my 7th miscarriage and waiting on rmc appointment tomorrow.
Praying for my 🌈 baby.

[InDreamland]

@Mistymeow @Pop1234 @Bluebelltulip

[InDreamland]

@Laney79 @Squiff70 @moonpeace @ale2992

[Laney79]

Thanks for the new thread @Lilimum7

Here's me...

Name: Laney79
Age: 39
TTC: #1 since autumn 2017.
2 losses - MMC discovered March 2018, MMC discovered Sept 2018 both at what should've been 9 weeks, bean and bow measured 6 weeks.
BFP: 3/5/19...currently 4+3 according to LMP but likely more like 5 weeks on ovulation date and petrified I'll lose this one too, so if you guys don't mind I'm going to hang about in this thread for a while longer as I don't feel anywhere near confident enough to graduate to a pregnancy thread.

[fnej01]

Thanks for the new thread @Lilimum7

Age 38
TTC#1
MMC June 18
MC August 18
MC October 18
RMC st Mary's in London diagnosed APS and self referred to Coventry, diagnosed high uNK cells. About to start trying to conceive again next cycle with my new treatments, as have had a 7 month break for diagnosis

Baby dust to us all x

[Lilimum7]

So during rmc testing do you have to stop ttc

[Bluebelltulip]

Name: Bluebelltulip
Age: 29
TTC #3
DD1: Jan 17
DD2: Jan 19 Stillborn
Currently 4+5 by LMP but short cycles and early ovulation mean I'm likely a few more days.

Can I stay here for a bit too? Maybe we can graduate together @Laney79 when we are ready.

[strawberrye]

Thanks for the new thread @lilimum7.

Strawberrye
Age 27 ... 28 this month
TTC #1 since October 2017
3 very early losses around 4-5 weeks January 2018, April 2018, November 2018
Long time penguin since January 2018
Diagnosed hypothyroidism and on thyroxine
Seen local RMC who were pretty useless, waiting for Tommy's

[fnej01]

@Lilimum7 my RMC guidance was that I had to be 10 weeks post mc before testing and then not be pregnant get pregnant during the 10 weeks of testing. So I could've started trying in April but have chosen to delay it. I think does vary between clinics though. Tbh I needed the break am much better now mentally and physically x

[Lilimum7]

@fnej01 crap that means they are likely to do nothing tomorrow then. Or should I just not tell them about this miscarriage

[InDreamland]

@strawberrye in starting to feel like old cheese on here. Joined thread 23 in July last year. Wondering if I'll ever get my rainbow............or will DH and I only ever have each other and never see a child of ours grow up.

[fnej01]

@Lilimum7 I would be honest and let your consultant take the call. You definitely don't want a wrong diagnosis. They will be best to advise. X

[coconutlatte44]

@knitkitty thanks for your advice, I don't know why I'm surprised by how emotional I feel at the moment! I guess I was quite proud of how I was coping and then it caught me off guard when I realized I wasn't doing as well as I thought.

AF actually hasn't come on yet but have had cramps on and off since yesterday afternoon. I tested negative with FRERs at cd24 and cd26 (didn't track ovulation) and almost always get af on cd28 or 29. It's cd29 today so really just waiting for it but every hour that passes I find myself letting my hopes get back up again 😕

For the stats - I'm 33, ttc#1 with mmc at 8 weeks in March.

[Catconfusion]

Thanks for the new thread @Lilimum7 and I'm so sorry about your loss. I'm so sorry for the other losses on this thread too. Also big congratulations to the NFL's. I really hope they stick.

Me: 39 and DH 39 too but 40 next month and him in July.

First pregnancy: surprise honeymoon gift in December. Got to 10 weeks then no heartbeat at scan after some spotting. ERPC surgery at 12 weeks in Feb. Absolutely devastating as you all I'm sure can identify with.

Second pregnancy: Straight after surgery but lost at 4 plus 2 so a chemical pregnancy. Very sad as my doctor had given me the all clear to try again. A different doctor has since said miscarriage is more likely straight after surgery. I wish we'd been told that.

Currently having AF after a WTF cycle in which I O'd on day 36 which is late for me even with pcos. We tried but O day was the day of DHs SA so timing dtd was tricky. I've felt very down over the past few days as hormones all over the place. Feeling better today and a lot more positive about trying again this cycle now I've had my first natural AF since November due to miscarriages. Hopefully my body has done a hard reset! Xx

[KnitKitty]

Thanks for the new thread. And thanks for the add.

TTC no. 1 since December 2017.
1 MMC (ERPC at 11 weeks. Baby stopped at 6)
3 early MCs (4, 4.5 and 5 weeks).
Currently taking meds to treat prolactinaemia.
First month trying again after 7 month break.
CD 17.
I think I'm 4DPO, but don't track so could be wrong.

[Catconfusion]

*not nfls but bfps! 😂

[KnitKitty]

Forgot to add. I'm 31.

[Lilimum7]

@InDreamland sweet your not old cheese yet lol I've been here since thread 15 lol we will all get there eventually x

[InDreamland]

I like your positivity @Lilimum7. I hope we do all get there but very soon. This is the shittiest journey anyone can go down and I'm so scared it won't happen. After almost 6 years trying for a baby now I am worried I'll end up with no living children. DH is saying we should give it another 18 months then just call it a day and accept we'll never have a family. It's breaking my heart.

[AliceRR]

Thanks @Lilimum7 @InDreamland

AliceRR
Age: 35
TTC #2
DD1 stillborn Feb 2019

On CD4 after a shorter cycle last month so hoping this won’t affect me getting a BFP soon. I might have to track ov more closely as I ov earlier than expected last month but didn’t get a positive OPK just two high results which I guessed was when I ov

I’m sorry for all that everyone has been through. It’s quite sad reading it. I really hope we all get a BFP that sticks this year 🍀🌈

@Laney79 @Bluebelltulip Hope all goes well for you two. I can imagine how worried you are but this is the first step to getting your rainbow babies 🌈 so fingers crossed all goes as it should🤞

[AliceRR]

@InDreamland It must be so hard trying for so long. I find it easy to feel like it won’t happen for me for even after a short time. Have you had much help with TTC on the NHS? I know you they identified something recently - are you any further forward with that?

[VenusStarr]

Thanks for the new thread @Lilimum7, sorry I've been dipping in and out.

TTC #1 since December 2017
Age 35
MMC April 2019 (caught cycle 16)
Undergoing fertility tests
First cycle since MMC, cd13, day 1 of my tww

Sending love to everyone, will catch up properly later xx

[Yajjjj]

TTC after TMFR for complex structural cardiac abnormalities that had poor prognosis. That happened in Oct 2018.
Feel most days like I failed my son and my husband. Terrified of getting pregnant, terrified of not getting pregnant.
We have been seeing how things go for a few months since the start of the year. This is the first month of actively trying. Hopeful for all of us trying after so much heartbreak X

[Mistymeow]

Thanks for the new thread lilimum7, and indreamland for the tag.

Age 35
Ttc #1 since 2016
MMC April 2018 (anembryonic, discovered at 9 weeks). ERPC
MMC March 2019 (heartbeat stopped at 8 weeks, discovered at 10 weeks). EPRC
DH has existing genetic condition which means he doesn’t produce testosterone, so he take a injections. Sperm count on the up!
RMC July to Dr Shehata’s clinic before we start IVF

Still waiting on first af since erpc. 9 weeks and counting!