My husband and I only just started trying for our 1st baby and I have been (over)stressing about practical and financial issues for almost a year now. I tend to overthink a bit and I like to have it all figured out in advance, which is why I started to look into local nurseries costs and other stuff even before we started thinking about it in a more serious way.
I am worried sick that having a baby will “ruin” us and will put us in a bad financial situation for many years to come, let alone if we then wanted to have a second.
With our current salaries, we would just about be able to cover childcare costs (scrimping a bit and without the chance of getting extras like holidays etc) but we wouldn’t be able to save a single penny for at least 3-4 years. We haven’t managed to save for a deposit to buy a property yet (we live in the south east, near London, where our jobs are) and we will only be able to do so once our DC is at school (although if we did want a second one, we’d have to put buying a property on hold even longer).
I am in my early 30s and my husband in his late 30s, we have been together for a few years and we don’t want to keep waiting to start a family any longer. Am I silly worrying and stressing so much about it all? Did you have the same worries? I am hoping after DC1 comes along I will magically realise what life is all about and stop stressing about buying a house etc but for now I can’t stop thinking about these things.
(our families don’t live close by and are not able to help)
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Marghe87 · 02/05/2019 16:27
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