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Realistically what are my chances?

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MaryShelley1818 Tue 30-Apr-19 16:20:09

I’m 41 at the weekend, overweight (working on it), DH is 43. I’m worried that we’re just far too old. The statistics are absolutely terrifying....I read that we only have a 5% chance each month of conceiving so basically far more likely that it won’t happen. It’s all just so bleak.

On the plus side - neither of us smoke or drink alcohol, we have a 1-yr old which we conceived fairly easily within 5mths. (I turned 40 5mths after he was born). My periods are regular. Does any of that make it more likely it’ll be ok?

I just feel so worried.

I do appreciate how very very lucky we are to have our little boy and although we’d love to give him a sibling if it doesn’t happen I’ll always be grateful to have him.

Beachbodynowayready Tue 30-Apr-19 16:25:25

I got a bfp at 42.7 on the third cycle of ttc.

Beachbodynowayready Tue 30-Apr-19 16:35:05

I got a bfp at 42.7 on the third cycle of ttc.

Shouldbedoing Tue 30-Apr-19 16:43:56

Bfp at 43.3 first cycle. Overweight. DP was 49. Statistics give you the general picture but don't give up hope.

MaryShelley1818 Tue 30-Apr-19 18:45:56

Thank you for the reassuring replies smile
Also forgot to say I also get a positive Ovulation Stick each month.

stairway Tue 30-Apr-19 18:48:17

5 percent chance a month is 60 percent by a year.

whitehalleve Tue 30-Apr-19 18:50:15

The statistics are really out of date.

Vagchange Tue 30-Apr-19 18:54:02

That’s not quite how probability works - not being a bitch, just want to clarify for anyone reading. It’s not accumulative in that way. That’s not to say it’s not more likely the more times you try, all being well.

However, I would say that if your periods are regular and you know that you ovulate that’s a really good sign OP!

Seniorschoolmum Tue 30-Apr-19 18:56:02

Why worry about it? just have a summer of chilled out fun and see what happens. smile

Beachbodynowayready Tue 30-Apr-19 18:58:48

I took folic acid and ate loads of green veg! Cut out fizzy pop also.

Cleozeta Tue 30-Apr-19 19:11:48

Same boat, I'm 42 been trying for over 2 years. Giving up hope.
I think it works for some, and not for others. As simple as that.

MaryShelley1818 Wed 01-May-19 07:48:17

Thank you for the replies, I guess if it happens it happens and if it doesn’t we’ll just have to enjoy life as it is.
Now to convince myself to stay that laid back about it 😆

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