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Anxiety with TTC after a loss

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Kate3150 · 05/04/2019 10:16

Hello lovely ladies...

I’ve recently started TTC again after a loss last year. I know in my heart I want nothing more than a baby so don’t feel like I’m not ready or anything.
I have noticed however my anxiety has rocketed since we’ve been trying again, I’m scared of having another miscarriage. I’m scared of doing anything that could contribute towards another miscarriage. I’m not sleeping as well as usual, which is making me worry more thinking if I am pregnant now it will harm the baby.
As you can see I’m having very intrusive thoughts and trying my best to keep them at bay.
I’m doing lots of exercise, eating well... getting plenty of fresh air and doing nice things for myself.
It would be nice to hear of others who have felt/feel like this.
Thanks in advance 💜

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Dramaqueen14 · 05/04/2019 22:55

Hi Kate, I totally get you. I had a miscarriage in sept and been trying since with no luck yet. It’s hard to not think these thoughts, I’ve been the same. You have to remember that the miscarriage was not caused by anything you did.

Have you tried any meditation? I’ve just downloaded the calm app on my phone that has loads of good stuff. I can also recommend a book called life after miscarriage by jo Tocher. X

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babysharkah · 05/04/2019 23:17

Totally normal. I was an emotional wreck in pregnancy following two MMc. Went on to have ID twins. The while thing is a roller coaster. I wish you luck.

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Kate3150 · 06/04/2019 08:09

@Dramaqueen14- thank you for the recommendation I shall look that up. I’m quite a rational person but I feel like my brain is trying to tell me that it was something I did- really weird. I am also a craving a glass of Prosecco just to take the edge off but I’d feel too guilty!! When we TTC the first time I felt like I was in a bubble of bliss, now it couldn’t feel further than that. Miscarriages are just horrendous physically and emotionally.
@babysharkah- it’s reassuring to know others have felt the same and so happy you have your babies now 😊. I wish I could fall pregnant, wake up months and months later and be ready to pop lol!!!..xx