So I've never done this before and might ramble a bit but felt I needed a platform for some advice or support about my anxieties with TTC.
Get ready for a ramble.
Basically I'm 28 about to get married next month and we would like to start TTC right away. We've been together for 12 years already so don't care so much about being married for a while first. I have no fertility issues that I know of, nor does he and I still have 'time' technically if we wanted to wait a while. I was dead set on this timeline but as it draws nearer the fact we don't own a home (we rent) and that we will have a significant drop in money making us unable to save is really bothering me. In order to afford our life (which isn't fancy by any means, I'm a nurse he's a fabricator) I will have to go part time because childcare costs are astronomical and we have no family to help as our parents still work full time.
Being frugal doesn't bother me, I've never had money and our futures do look bright especially for my fiance who will have great scope for promotion etc. However, initially we know financially things will be really tight. Not undoable but tight. Very likely no holidays for a good while after our honeymoon or treats for ourselves. We will be able to get all the stuff for the baby prior to me going on mat leave etc, I'm not worried about that it's just after when our money dries up for a while.
I know people do it on waaaay less and get by just fine, I'm just scared I guess.
I'm envious of friends who have been able to buy their own homes and are now having families of their own and it's stupid but that seems like the 'ideal' which I won't have and kind of makes me sad. I have to remember though a lot of them have had financial backing from family which isn't feasible for us as our families don't have that to give us which is fine, we don't expect handouts.
We want kids so bad and neither of us want to be 35 and trying for them, now is the age I always envisioned starting a family and emotionally and stability in our relationship wise we are totally ready.
I guess I'm just looking to see if anyone feels the same as I do and any advice on how to get past the obsession of needing the 'ideal' scenario to start trying for a baby which will be soooooo freaking loved.
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SoontobeCee · 03/03/2019 11:41
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