Hi, hope you can help? DS is 9 months old, I breastfed him for 6 months. My periods have not yet returned and I would like to try for a second baby.
Any suggestions on trying to work out when in my cycle is a good time to try? My last period was just before conceiving DS so its tricky trying ovulating tests or basal temperature checks which all require starting on the first day of my cycle. What do I do when I have temporarily misplaced my cycle??
Goodness, what's the rush? I'm sure your period won't be far off. In the meantime, might I suggest a few spontaneous nights in/nights out with your dp, the odd bottle of wine, before you have to give it all up again !!
Seriously though, did it take long to conceive your DS? Do you feel particularly strongly about having your children so close together?
Wow - that was a fast response, particularly in the wee hours!
DS was conceived in 6 months. Reason for considering 2nd baby sooner is that I have a medical condition which requires long term meds. I had to stop the meds to conceive and I thought it would be easier to try for a second child sooner rather than later and return to my meds after 2nd baby.
The longer I am off my meds the more likely that I will have some heatlh problems. Its a tricky balance but I am very pleased I stopped my meds first time around to conceive DS!
Funnily enough, being pregnant is just as good as meds for my condition, so getting pregnant won't hurt and will be fun trying. Will sort out more fun nights with Mr Dad2wannabee.
forgive the stupid question but do you actually have a cycle as such if your periods haven't returned after giving birth? I am in a similar position - have 7 mth dd and no periods as yet but hope to have small age gap as I'm getting on a bit - I assumed that I wouldn't have a measurable cycle until I either ovulated (admittedly won't be able to tell!) or had a period. I admit to not being very knowledgeable about this sort of thing
I was in a very similar situation to you. My first pregnancy triggered RA, so before beginning meds, we decided to try for a second very quickly. DS was six months old when we conceived again. I don't think I had an AF at all, I just started the basal temp think as soon as we decided, and once the temp went up, went at it like rabbits. Fortunatley we got lucky first attempt (with the help of many painkillers so I could actually do the deed!!). I had DD when DS was 15 months, and the RA kicked straight back in again (like you, the immunosupression of pregnancy suppressed the symptoms).
So, to answer your question, just start the basal temps, relax and have fun!! You probably will be ovulating soon, especially since you've stopped bf.