TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 18: Christmas cake for Christmas babies

[Daffodil77]

Here you go

[Beck1988]

👍🏼

[Eastend2015]

Morning all!

[Eastend2015]

Thanks for the new thread daffodil!

[Claire138]

Thanks @daffodil77 I would have struggled to find it again! Love the name!

@zarala I’m sorry you’re going through a shit time. I have wondered the same on the ERPC, did you speak to the doctor about your concerns? I don’t think they would recommend it if it wasn’t ok to do. Also I would not listen to the Chinese therapist! Stick to science! I do acupuncture and can appreciate alternative methods but that advice is not helpful and puts even more stress on you!

I got a BFN this morning! I knew I would but still so gutted to see it...did everything we could this month! I’m not feeling all fresh and hunky dory for next cycle...I’m tired of this!

[clairehr]

Hello all! Jumping in on this one.

2 miscarriages last year. First pregnancy was due on Christmas day, so I'm hoping that this time of year is lucky for us and we get a sticky baby this time around.

Hope everyone's doing ok on this hump day!

[zarala]

@Eastend2015 thank you for the leaflet- best thing I read was that getting pregnant in first six months after MC lowers the chance of another MC. (Even though I've had 3 in 7 months- I'll take this as a positive !)

@Claire138 thank you- yeah I couldn't believe she told me that. Maybe it was her way of convincing me to buy these disgusting herbs!
And sorry for the BFN! it will happen for you soon 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

@clairehr - sorry to hear of your difficult year - you've come to the right place - it's a bit of a crazy house but everyone is so supportive and lovely! Good luck on this journey!

[PumpkinPatch000]

Hello! Thanks for setting up the new thread

[dulwichdays]

Morning 👋🏻

Thanks for the new thread. Just been out for a run and whilst it’s cold out there it’s also bright and sunny. I definitely find that the sunshine lifts my mood and am so grateful that it’s starting to get lighter in the mornings and evenings. It’s my first British winter in 8 years and I haven’t enjoyed it!! Bring on spring and summer and a host of BFP’s!! X

[HidCat]

Morning ladies, thanks for the new thread @Daffodil77!
Off to EPU again this morning for yet another blood test. Never thought I'd want to see AF so much but really want to get cracking on TTC again.

[Boboelephant]

Thanks for the new thread @Daffodil77! Love the name- haha @cakelaur you'll be busy. Hopefully!!!! 🤞🤞🤞
@zarala so sorry your miscarriage hasn't completed. I don't know what, if any, negative side effects there are to having two erpc's. Like the others said though I'm sure the docs have it in hand if they are recommending it. I'm sorry what the Chinese therapist said and I also would ignore that. I think the best person to ask would be your doctor who performs the erpc. I was told after my EP to take 3 months because of internal scarring and bleeding and my body needed to heal. But after erpc was told to crack on. So the doc should be able to advise after they've had a look. Hope it all goes well for you.
Oh @Claire138 I'm sorry for bfn. I know how you feel. I'm crossing everything that this is our month!
@clairehr welcome although I'm so sorry for your losses.

[Boboelephant]

Good luck @HidCat. I can't remember where you're at. What is this test for?

[zarala]

@dulwichdays here! Here! Totally agree with you

[HidCat]

@Boboelephant thank you, it's hcg monitoring - 9weeks after MC and still getting vvv faint pos on pregnancy tests. I've given up thinking any symptoms might be new pg related now, hcg was 50 last week so unlikely to have even ovulated. Getting lots of cramps and feel like I'm getting my original pregnancy symptoms on the way back down (nausea, very itchy skin, feeling tired etc) but could also be completely unrelated. Still testing each day looking for a change as we have been DTD but just wanting AF to show now. Docs are happy that I'm not showing any signs of retained products or infection so just making sure it keeps going down.

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

@zarala I've had two ERPCs if that helps somewhat. The second was a lot better than the 1st one (minus the tiny bit of tissue left but that eventually sorted itself out. If it wasn't for that I would've healed from it so much better. Not sure what to say about it so ask away - sorry I'm so useless

[zarala]

@Boboelephant thanks- I just really didn't want to put my womb and cervix through this and the risk of being damaged. They keep telling me the risk is very small- but so is the risk of having 3MCS- and I seem to be in that very small risk category haha
But yes the doctors have been very reassuring- so just gonna get on with it

@HidCat wow 9 weeks! I'm sorry this is still dragging on for you - I can imagine you just want to draw a line under this and be back to "normal". Good luck today! Hope it resolved quickly

@UnicornsandRainbows1 - thank you! What was the difference between the two you had? I just had one in December and it was absolutely fine, no bleeding no nothing after- so I am really hoping for the same outcome this tome!

[Lovemysparkle]

Morning all 👋🏼 Well af arrived in full force this morning cd24 wtf??? Have had stable 26 day cycles since October (last cycle 28 days) I know this is still in the normal range fking hate that word NORMAL 😡 but once again feel all over the place!! @claire I’m soooo hearing you so fed up with all this!! Have to accept that no bubs again this Christmas.... I am so thankful for all of the special people in my life & things are slowly turning for me & my nearly hubby to be but I am finding it soooo difficult to deal with the loss & such saddness.
3 spontaneous pregnancies (1mmc & 2 mc’s) within the space of 7 months & now nothing not a sniff of a bfp & it’s cranking on to nearly a year since my last mc.
I’ve had 3 consecutive mc’s & not once have I ever been offered any form of anything not a chat not even a leaflet on how to deal/heal with all of this all of us ladies have to go through!! The only place I’ve had support is from all you guys so thank you all ❤️ & @ cakeular if your offering mines a huge choccy cake with a large vodka & orange !! Sorry for the rant love to all ❤️❤️

[Eastend2015]

Hello @unicornsandrainbows1, how are you? All going well?

[Eastend2015]

I really feel for you @lovemysparkle, and the lack of support is beyond ridiculous.

[hayleyfx]

@lovemysparkle sorry that af arrived and for the tough time you’ve been through ❤️

Hope everyone is doing well. I did another test this morning and I’m honestly shaking because I see a VERY faint pink line... it’s not a frer though and it’s very faint so I’m not getting excited yet. I’m just shaking like a leaf 😂 I have everything crossed that this is it! 🤞🏼

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

@zarala Well the first one I had was pretty bleak as I had so much bleeding and clotty crap for a couple of weeks afterwards (in addition to much the same a week or so before I had the ERPC.

I think the second one was better for various reasons. I knew what to expect regarding what happens and how Is feel afterwards. The 'proper' bleeding only lasted for a day or two, then turned to small amounts of spotting. It cleared up so much quicker, so it was a lot nicer to deal with in the physical sense.

@Lovemysparkle See I remember getting the leaflets and the nurses seemed caring to my face but even then I thought it was shoddy treatment for what actually happened. I'm so sorry you've been treated like crap, and so glad that you found us so at least you have some form of support.

@Eastend2015 Hello lovely. I'm doing okay. Still bricking it but getting there and just trying to take it a day at a time (which seems to last for approximately 1000 years per 24 hrs).

[weasledee]

Love the new thread title :)

[NoCatsHere]

Jumping on with you all.

sparkle i'm so sorry, i feel for you. i had 2 mc in a row and then it's taken exactly a year etc to get my most recent positive, but i felt like it was never going to happen. hang in there. but i agree the lack of support is crazy.

hayley tentative congrats! a line is a line...post a pic if you want us to look! hope you get a clearer one tomorrow!

[TheDinosaurRoars]

Thank for the new thread.

Sorry for your BFN @Claire138.

I still feel like AF is about to arrive but hasn’t done yet. I just want to be able to be on the first day of my cycle so I can start trying.

[hayleyfx]

@NoCatsHere thank you! It’s easier to see in person but shows up a bit in photos. I’ll attach a few pictures! I saw the line within the first 2 or 3 minutes, then I took it apart (which I know you shouldn’t do) to see it easier and it was a bit clearer... fingers crossed

[NoCatsHere]

hayley fingers crossed! it's hard to see from the photos, i think i see the faintest one on the second photo. hopefully in a day or so you'll get a clearer one!