Hi, not really sure what I'm after here, except people to relate to I guess. I have just miscarried my first pregnancy pretty early on, confirmed on Monday (11th). Feeling sad, as I'm sure most people do at this point. I was well aware that miscarriage is a common occurrence, but it's still been a shock and has flattened me somewhat. Does anyone else just need to talk?!
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bubblybrit ·
14/12/2017 21:14
I’ve not experienced a miscarriage personally but just wanted to say sorry for your loss. My best friend miscarried 3 times before welcoming her bundle of joy. I know how painful it was for her so just wanted to send big hugs 
xx
AJ89 ·
14/12/2017 21:16
So sorry to hear what you have gone through.
I have a hospital appointment for an early scan tomorrow. I’m pretty sure I’ve miscarried. Had bleeding for 8 days. I am 6 weeks.
I’ve been really flat / distraught. Haven’t managed to even go to work, really not like me, I’m usually 100% there.
LookingAtTheStars89 ·
14/12/2017 21:29
@running3. I found out that my baby had died when I was supposed to be 10.5 weeks pregnant, the baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks. It was a missed miscarriage. I will never forget the feeling I had inside when the sonographer turned the screen around and said to me "This is not going to be an on going pregnancy".
I said nothing and let out the most grief stricken cry. It was the kind of cry that I've only let out a few times in my 28 years. I walked into the scan room with hope and left with a broken heart.
I went to Morrison's with my husband and I bought; a French stick, pate, a large bottle of port and a big bar of Dairy Milk. I remember walking around in a daze, almost like I was floating instead of walking. I didn't talk to my husband for hours, I didn't really know what to say.
When I did talk to him finally, I was angry, furious. Why had this happened to me? I did everything you are meant to do when pregnant and didn't do everything you weren't meant to.
I stayed in bed for a few days. It popped up on my news feed about Kate and William having their baby and I sobbed. They are almost a decade older than me!
It was 15 weeks yesterday since I had my medical management. I gave birth, as it were, at around 10pm and my husband and I gently placed the baby in a box and then a few days later we buried them under a potted tree in the garden.
The feelings you are feeling, they will get easier, they won't go away but they get easier to manage. You will still shed the odd tear, even months from now and that is ok.
I hope I have not been too honest and I hope that you can find some peace.
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