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What age would you consider "old" to be TTC#1

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SpringWater1571 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:16:42

Posting because I'm anxious and paranoid about my age and TTC. I keep seeing commend where people have referred to ages and saying "later in life" etc and things like that. What age would you consider old/older for TTC#1?

Lorddenning1 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:17:59

I would say anything after 40 sad

Whereland Sun 03-Dec-17 20:18:01

40 plus?

Twickerhun Sun 03-Dec-17 20:18:45

Older than 40 but I know first times mums who are early 40s and all is good

FreshStartToday Sun 03-Dec-17 20:19:41

I have two friends who have conceived #1 at 45 and 46. They are both young in outlook, physically fit and great parents. One of them fitted in a second child 3 years later.

GloriousGomez Sun 03-Dec-17 20:19:41


I’m pregnant with number 1 and will be 36 by my due date. Quite average among my friendship group.

Fintons Sun 03-Dec-17 20:19:50

Biologically I'd say 38+, socially I think having more kids after 45-50+ sounds v difficult. Unlikely to be a first at that age though.

Tinselistacky Sun 03-Dec-17 20:20:36

I had a ds at 37 and one at 43. Ttc at 44 but mc at 8 weeks . 4 days before my 45th birthday sad. Sadly accepted it's game over for us.

Battyoldbat Sun 03-Dec-17 20:20:55

I’d say late thirties but I’m probably biased as I’m currently going through menopause in my early forties so I’m very aware how quickly your fertility can decline. 🙁

hungryradish Sun 03-Dec-17 20:24:17

I would say 45+

TheCrowRd Sun 03-Dec-17 20:26:04


OurNextAdventure Sun 03-Dec-17 20:33:55

35+ (sadly, as I myself am 34 and TTC #1).

TribbleToilandTrouble Sun 03-Dec-17 20:35:33

Hmmm 50 plus.

Mayhemmumma Sun 03-Dec-17 20:35:36

Over 38 seems old to me but out loud I'd day 40 plus.

tappitytaptap Sun 03-Dec-17 20:42:00

Hmm late 30s I think (privately of course!) that the person is a bit older if TTC #1. I had my first at 31 and currently TTC #2 at 33, I really didn't want babies after 35. If you only get chance to when you're 'older' though, I'd still go for it. Absolutely the best thing I have done having DS.

DonkeyPunch88 Sun 03-Dec-17 20:47:06

Anything over 40 I think. I know it's perfectly possible but I think the risk of health issues for both Mum and baby get pretty high once you cross into the forty mark.

SoozC Sun 03-Dec-17 21:41:06

I like to say 40+, as I'm 36 ttc #1. I don't consider myself 'old' in ttc terms. I know plenty of people who've had kids in their mid- to late-30s.

Christmascardqueen Sun 03-Dec-17 21:46:08

obstetrically speaking an older primip (first time pregnancy) is 35 now, a few decades ago (when many dr's and midwives trained) it was 26.

Oysterbabe Sun 03-Dec-17 23:56:21

I think about 38 too.

Orangebird69 Mon 04-Dec-17 00:00:17

I started ttc at 38. 13 months until I got my bfp. Had ds at 40. There's other mums in my baby group older than me. Go for it.

PrimeraVez Mon 04-Dec-17 04:43:23

I would say 40+, but I think that once I hit 36+, I would be very aware that the clock was ticking.

Karigan1 Mon 04-Dec-17 08:50:33

Um I’m just 40 and SO has just decided he wants a baby. I thought about it and googled a lot. Right now there is a 55 to 60 per cent chance we will be able to conceive in a year. Every year older however that percentage dramatically drops and risks are higher. We’re going for it but ideally I wouldn’t want to be over 35.

elQuintoConyo Mon 04-Dec-17 08:53:59

A close friend had twin boys a month before her 50th. They are 5.5yo now and she looks fantastic, the boys are fantastic, the dad is fantastic.

So, i'm going to class 51 as too old ttc.

Bonlenes Mon 04-Dec-17 09:13:45

I was 33 when I had my first, 35 when I will have my second and hoping to have a couple more if all goes well.
My colleague had her first at 44, 16 years ago so for 2017, am gonna go with maybe 46.

BarbieBrightSide Mon 04-Dec-17 09:20:42

Before I had children I thought 35 was too old. I conceived my youngest at 40. I still get broody at 48, but given how long it took to conceive the youngest (3 years of actively trying) I know we won't be having any more.

In my head I don't think 48 is too old to have a baby, but I'm not sure how I'd feel about having a 12 year old at age 60 IYSWIM.

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