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I'm going to be relaxed this month...

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BalasMum Wed 22-Nov-17 09:23:54

Three days into the two week wait and I'm driving myself insane. Lurking / stalking all the threads on here so I can read others get BFPs and live vicariously through them!!

I almost googled "will I get pregnant this month?" in the hope that some mystical google witch could see into the future for me.

I have lost it. Anyone else?

Merrz Wed 22-Nov-17 10:07:49

Haha yip me too. I started off this cycle very relaxed and even during fw was pretty chilled but now the 2ww has begun I've turned mental again blush I'm a week down, af due a week today but it's the slowest 2ww ever. I'm going to try and hold of testing until next friday if af doesn't show before then

BalasMum Wed 22-Nov-17 19:18:32

Hello Merrz! Got snowed under at work in the end today - helpful distraction.

You are half way there!! 💪🏻 it's just crazy isn't it? We didn't even get to dtd anywhere near enough this month so I know deep down I'm out. Wont stop me poas from 8dpo like a crazy woman.

I don't know why we put ourselves through it.

Owlpatrol Wed 22-Nov-17 19:30:29

Me too I'm joining you I'm just going to be relaxed because I know I won't be pregnant this month because we haven't dtd at all during fw. And so throwing myself into Christmas chopping xx

BalasMum Wed 22-Nov-17 19:35:00

Hi owl!

You do sound genuinely relaxed! Must be nice to have a month off.

I honestly think, even if we hadn't dtd at all, I would be able to magic up some insane scenario that there might be a chance and still be testing grinconfused

Merrz Wed 22-Nov-17 19:39:44

We only dtd once in fw week so think I'm out too this cycle. Although I keep thinking we've dtd lots over the last few cycles and that hasn't worked so who knows . . . who am I kidding!

Justoneme Wed 22-Nov-17 19:43:14

Ha .... brilliant.

Kkk87 Wed 22-Nov-17 19:44:59

I’m mental over here too!.. this 2ww is torture.. 7dpo today.. af due Tuesday..

BalasMum Wed 22-Nov-17 19:45:05

We've also done it just once in window. And similarly I've had the same thoughts about well we've been shagging non stop every other month so surely this is it...

Fingers crossed for us all!

BalasMum Wed 22-Nov-17 19:48:31

Good luck kkk87! I think realistically Tuesday will be when I test...at 9dpo confused because I'm stupid like that. Due on Thursday.

Kkk87 Wed 22-Nov-17 19:58:36

Thank you . Good luck to you too. I’m saying af is due Tuesday but that’s based on my 26 day cycle I’ve been having but this cycle I ov 3 days early so don’t know if cycle will be shorter or not.. very confused this cycle

dingdongdigeridoo Wed 22-Nov-17 20:10:46

I’m also trying to stay zen about it all! I’m still googling stupid shit like ‘pinching next to bellybutton’ haha.

Thinking I might have next month off. I’d have to test on xmas morning and that’s too much pressure. I feel like the disappointment of a BFP might spoil xmas day!

surreygirl1987 Wed 22-Nov-17 20:36:59

Haha this thread is greatsmile

BalasMum Thu 23-Nov-17 06:27:40

Ha! Dingdong - I bet I've googled that too before now! I've been awake since 4 and have been trapped in an endless cycle of compare data I entered on app this time last month to now, google something ridiculous and reading the same threads over and over on this board.

I keep telling myself to bloody well stop it but I don't listen. Please somebody advise me of a failsafe distraction technique before I genuinely lose my mind that ship has potentially already sailed though

happybus28 Thu 23-Nov-17 07:14:51

I’m guilty of all the above too!!! Either 6 or 7 dpo today! I’ve had a huge breakout of spots which I never usually get until much closer to AF so keep thinking that’s a sign! I know deep down it isn’t though! We only managed once during fertile week too which was on the day of the positive OPK so I swing between thinking it isn’t enough to that it’s perfect timing haha! I’m going mad. Glad to know I’m not alone! FX for BFPs for everyone!

BalasMum Thu 23-Nov-17 07:44:17

Hi happybus! Your timing sounds spot on - only takes one remember smile my timing was appalling this month - pretty sure we had the one and only shag about 4 days before ovulation. Knackered from last month probably blush

Keep us posted - when will you test?

happybus28 Thu 23-Nov-17 07:58:49

Hi balas FX for you some of the swimmers were still kicking around waiting for the egg! It’s deffo possible! I haven’t decided when to test yet, I usually start spotting in the days leading up to AF so if that happens I probably won’t test and just wait for AF. If no spotting by Tuesday then I think I’ll test then! I’ll be on knicker watch from now till then! When are you testing?

You asked for distraction techniques earlier! Mine is the typical keeping busy! I try and have plenty going on in the TWW to give me other things to look forward too and things to take my mind off it! I try and think that me stressing and wishing the time away isn’t gonna change the outcome or make the time go any quicker so I just try and carry on as normal. It’s hard though!!!

BalasMum Thu 23-Nov-17 08:07:11

Ah thanks for that. You're right it is so hard. I'm in the middle of some very big deadlines but work from home some days and I find that I my time gets totally swallowed up with me ruminating on bloody conceiving. My work is actually starting to suffer which isn't good at all.

I really hope the spotting stays away and you get your BFP. I should wait until Tuesday really - I'll be 9dpo but have a short phase from ovulation to period so will only be two days before I'm due. In reality I'll start wasting internet cheapies from Saturday probably. I so don't want to this month though as last month was horrible when my period finally came and I'd been hoping I'd seen faint lines on tests. I'm a real idiot and glutton for punishment it seems sad

happybus28 Thu 23-Nov-17 08:56:36

Yeah it is much easier said then done I know!! I think because we’ve been TTC for quite a while now I’m sort of over it all! I’ve had so much disappointment I just expect BFNs now so it’s easier for me to not get my hopes up. There is that tiny glimmer of hope every month though.....

BalasMum Thu 23-Nov-17 09:29:25

I'm sorry you've been trying a while. We are most certainly very early on in our journey with it all.

Going to try and stay away from google and this board today and get some work done. See how long that lasts...

dingdongdigeridoo Thu 23-Nov-17 18:35:20

I think after a while you just expect BFNs. They’re just so sad to look at! Just got to get through to Saturday now. If it’s a BFN then I have wine chilling in the fridge.

At least xmas is a good distraction. Dunno what I’m going to do come January.

LookingAtTheStars89 Thu 23-Nov-17 18:56:28

@dingdongdigeridoo. The saddest ones to look at are the clear blue digis "NOT PREGNANT" It's like...yeah...cheers for That!

happybus28 Thu 23-Nov-17 19:04:20

Not too long until Saturday dingdong FX for you!

Hope you managed tonight get some work done balas

BalasMum Thu 23-Nov-17 19:33:07

It feels hopeless at where I am but you all must be so strong thanks what an absolute load of shit they tell us when we're younger. I never imagined it could be like this. How naive.

Thanks happy. Wasn't too bad but made myself feel crap as I think I ovulated early this month and I'm getting the exact PMS symptoms as last month, 2 days early.

I know I'm not helping myself with this over thinking.

Strength and positive preggo vibes to us all!

dingdongdigeridoo Thu 23-Nov-17 20:00:38

Thanks happybus28!

Yeah ‘not pregnant’ is harsh. We should petition them to change the messages. Like ‘not this month love, but keep trying!’ Or ‘why are you testing at 8dpo you idiot?’

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