I’m so sorry to hear this op, wait for further visits and don’t get worked up. You’re right, the NHS won’t investigate until 3 mc’s after your first did they offer and internal scan to check everything? Sometimes this can help towards investigation. I am truly so so sorry, it’s one of the most heartbreaking things to happen but as previously said it does happen, it’s not fair but you need to take some time to look after yourself. Take care.
OP, I know you had your hopes up and now it’s upsetting as it’s come to an end so soon. However, chemical pregnancies are very common - some estimates put them at half of all pregnancies. So a lot of ladies have been though one. Good luck!
Nothing showed up at all? Usually if it were an early miscarriage something should show? I’m sorry. I had a mmc at 10 weeks in February. I’ve been TTC 14 months now and I have no other children. Sometimes shit things happen. Please don’t blame yourself. It’s harsh but I have come to realise that beating myself up over things I can not control is not good for my mental health. I will not get things because I deserve them. It’s all luck. Please don’t be disheartened, be brave, you can do this and you can move on and try again. I’m wishing you all the strength and luck for the future. But he good to yourself, you need to be 100% loving yourself before you can make a baby comfy. X
That’s actually a positive though OP that after your first, your internal showed no abnormalities. I know that doesn’t make things easier, after my mmc I blamed myself like I was faulty but that’s not the case, the painful truth is at least 3 in 5 pregnancy’s end in mc so you’re never alone and it takes your body and mind time to heal, I agree with other posters that you need to focus on yourself right now, things will get better in time I promise. Nothing we can say will truly take away the pain but know that you’re no alone, you have dp and hopefully some family and friends and you have mn if you need it. Please take care and don’t give up hope.
Sorry you are going through this 💐 Its a rollercoaster of emotions, feeling hopeful -getting twinges of excitement- getting your hopes up, the joy of a positive pregnancy test, the awful angst of finding you likely are having a miscarriage. Do something really kindfor yourself while you are going through this
Thanks for the nice messages. I’ve got an assessment today so I will try to focus on it. I’ve got no pain or bleeding so I’m cautiously hopeful. If it was a chemical wouldn’t I have started bleeding now, 5 days after the initial bfp?
It depends when in your cycle you got your BFP. Chemicals happen before 5 weeks. The sac forms around 5 weeks and anything after is usually classed as a miscarriage. Unfortunately since chemicals have different unique structures and are never really a viable pregnancies medical professionals don’t class them as miscarriages. Again unfortunately they are extremely common. Please try not to worry yourself to death at this stage, focus on creating a calming, warm and cosy positive environment around and in you. People can be wrong, and you’re so early that things may not be showing on a scan. Remember the egg is teenie tiny! Good luck. X