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kjhh Tue 31-Oct-17 23:45:04

Hi all! I’m new to this app - my husband and I have been married for a year now (I’m 22 and he’s 24) and we’re in the process of buying our first house. We’re so ready to have children - my body is telling me constantly that it wants Kids, I know I sound crazy lol but I want nothing more than to have them. I stopped taking the pill in August and had my first period on the 8th October - this is our first month TTC. Everyone we speak to is telling us that we’re too young and aren’t ready (which really infuriates me!) but it means we can’t speak to anyone about it.... so I thought maybe I’d post on here and see if anyone is in the same boat? I’m currently on the 1ww but I just don’t think it’s going to happen this month... I’ve been taking folic acid everyday but never knew until TTC that it can be a really long process!

Is anyone in the same boat/have any tips? Sorry for the long paragraph!! X

Mrstobe90 Wed 01-Nov-17 00:02:20

I’m 27 and DH is 35, so not so much the age thing but we’d only been together a year when we got engaged and then it was another year until the wedding.
We thought ttc would take a while so started early and conceived on our first try, a month and a half before the wedding.

People said we were going too fast but when it’s right, you just know! Do what’s best for you and your husband. You two are you’re own little family now and if you want to add more people to love, it’s your choice and no one else’s!

Enjoy this time and don’t let other people’s worries bring you down! This is a new and exciting adventure! Enjoy every second of it xx

kjhh Wed 01-Nov-17 00:08:00

Thankyou so much for telling me that! It’s so nice to hear similar stories - we were exactly the same with being engaged and then married: a lot of our friends are so immature they can’t understand why we even wanted to get married, it’s such a pain!

We definitely want our own family, regardless of what anyone says. You’re so lucky for conceiving on your first try, I’m so happy for you! I’d love to be in that position lol x

Mrstobe90 Wed 01-Nov-17 00:37:31

Yeh a lot of people won’t understand. When we got serious, we lost a lot of friends as they thought we were selfish for not wanting to party any more lol! They’re all still in and out of crappy relationships, drinking all the time and generally being children.
We are married, own a house and have a child on the way and our idea of a good time is cuddled up with a cup of tea, watching Grand Designs and talking about Home diy projects!

Prepare to lose people along the way but remember that if they were that important, they’d be in it for the long haul! Your priorities are different now that you’re married! Yours and your husbands future comes first and please don’t let anyone make you think otherwise.

I am very lucky to have conceived first try as I didn’t at all expect it. I’d had surgery on my ovary and womb 3 weeks before conception and the surgeon told me to start trying asap as it would be the best time since all the problems had been removed.
Thankfully it worked!!

I really hope you get your bfp when the time is right for you!

kjhh Wed 01-Nov-17 00:45:06

Yeah I hear that! Everyone is still drinking their money away every week and not interested in their career/future etc, it’s like hanging around with teenagers...

We’re the same! Give me a DIY series and I will make no plans at all 😂😂 life is so much more interesting than clubbing every weekend...

I’m really hoping it works out for us too! Just want our own little family xx

Mrstobe90 Wed 01-Nov-17 01:14:59

Tbf it sounds like you’ll probably naturally drift from these people anyway. The more you mature, the less you’ll have in common with them.

And home improvement projects and shows are amazing!! grin

SoonToBeMrsJ Wed 01-Nov-17 08:24:29

DH and I are in a very similar boat, we have been married for a short period of time but are TTC month 3... nothing as of yet but we are trying not to get too stressed about conceiving, although it is literally all i think about hmm
Best of luck with TTC flowers

oh and for what it's worth - if "friends" are judging you on your personal life choices then they are not your true friends!

xxxx

kjhh Wed 01-Nov-17 09:34:30

Yes they definitely are!! I’m currently obsessed with £100k homes 😅 and I’m glad to be slowly drifting away from them, we don’t need people like that in our lives.

@SoonToBeMrsJ tell me about it! We say the same that it doesn’t matter either way whether I am or not, we’ll keep trying but I can’t focus on anything else, I feel like I’m obsessed 😂 we just want our own family! X

PickettBowtruckles Wed 01-Nov-17 16:47:04

Hi 👋🏻

We're similar age to you, both 24 and married less than a year. This is also our first month TTC! I haven't had a 'real' period yet, came off contraception and had my withdrawal bleed at the beginning of October so waiting to see what happens!

We haven't told anyone (except in my case my best friend, who somehow just knew and asked me outright!) that we're trying as we don't want any negative opinions on it. I'm already anxious and its month one so I just know I'm going to be a nightmare...

kjhh Wed 01-Nov-17 17:08:24

@PickettBowtruckles hey! Yeah haha I’m already a wreck... on the first month... it’s ridiculous. I kind of wish I didn’t tell my husband all of the symptoms I’ve been ‘having’ because now he’s super excited too! I don’t want us both to be upset if this isn’t the month 😩

PickettBowtruckles Wed 01-Nov-17 18:40:31

@kjhh glad to hear I'm not the only one 😂

I definitely haven't had any 'symptoms' at all so I'mutterly convinced it's not this month. It's frustrating though as I don't even know when I'm due as I was on contraception for 9 years! I don't know what a natural cycle is for me at all so it's all a game of hit and miss for now.

kjhh Wed 01-Nov-17 19:04:11

@PickettBowtruckles I don’t think I’ve had any actual symptoms either other than cramping but that could be AF.. think I’ve just overthought it this month 😂 oh god that’s such a pain! My periods were all over the place on BC, so I don’t actually think I know when I ovulated either! Might start noting basal temp down, might be worth a shot! Xx

NelleB Wed 01-Nov-17 21:10:29

Also in this boat, after 6.5 years together, building our home, securing good jobs, we are ready. Hooray. I’m 30 DP is 31. We are on cycle #2, ready to test on Friday. Good luck everyone xx

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Mrstobe90 Wed 01-Nov-17 23:43:24

@mayone88 you’ve given 2 different life stories on the same thread! Oops! If you’re gonna try and scam people, at least make it plausible hmm

Bubblegum89 Thu 02-Nov-17 00:20:50

My go to advice for people starting ttc is DO NOT SYMPTOM SPOT. EVER. Even if it’s something that’s not “normal” for you. I’ve been ttc for 12 months and I have a list as long as my arm of “symptoms” I have randomly developed one month that I didn’t have any other months lol. You will get sore boobs. You will get sickness and nausea. You will get cramps. You will pee more, feel more tired etc etc. You will be very tempted to assume these things are a sign but they’re not. They’re symptoms of progesterone and not pregnancy. Symptom spotting will drive you insane, it’s best to not think too much into anything you feel during your two week wait until you get a positive pregnancy test. You will not get true pregnancy symptoms until you are pregnant enough to get a good positive line on a test. Good luck

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Pickle0 Thu 02-Nov-17 07:04:37

Hello smile I am 25 partner is 28 & during my TTC journey I have found out that I have PCOS so am now on week 3 of metformin which hasn't done anything so far but will hopefully help with AF. I agree with above comment about symptom spotting, it drives you crazy hmm so try not to and just relax... it's so annoying when people say that!! Especially when I can't take my own advice!!!!!!!

We aren't married yet (engaged for 3yrs) but I see where you are coming from, my friends have stopped inviting me out on their drinking sessions because I always say no!! They call me a granny and joke that I live in my PJs because I'd rather get in them as soon as I get in from work and get stuck into some knitting while watching tv than go out and drink my money away confused

kjhh Thu 02-Nov-17 11:15:16

@NelleB hey! That’s so exciting 😊 keep me updated on Friday!!

@Bubblegum89 I know 😩 it’s easier said than done, I think next month I’m not gonna POAS or do anything at all, just gonna wait naturally now cus I feel like the wait can make it worse when you’re SS!

@Pickle0 hey! What’s that for? My doc said I have PCOS but said I can control it with diet and exercise? And tell me about it 😩 my friends even tell me I dress like a granny now and that I’m boring, it’s so irritating because I know that when they get into serious relationships/grow up they’ll finally get it lol xx

PickettBowtruckles Thu 02-Nov-17 20:11:43

Just thought I'd come back to the thread to say after commenting on this last night I had my first pregnancy dream. In the dream I didn't know I was pregnant but went into labour and had a lovely chunky baby, then my friend and another friend who moved abroad years ago came to take my baby and I gave them a stern talking to about how it's not acceptable to kidnap my child...

Weird dream. Woke up a bit sad that my chubby baby wasn't real though 😂

kjhh Thu 02-Nov-17 20:43:46

@PickettBowtruckles omg 😂 I had one a couple of nights ago where my mom held my baby first and it broke my heart 😂 wishful thinking that I was even in labour lol x

PickettBowtruckles Fri 03-Nov-17 18:06:03

I was def not a fan of the pregnancy dream when I realised it wasn't real 🙈

Annoyed today as well as I logged into my Ovia app and I should've done a pregnancy test today as my period is 'due'. I'm 99.99% sure I'm not and it's just my first period due since contraceptive stopped and it's just my body getting used to it but I'm still holding out that 0.01% chance I might be and now I have to wait until the morning to test when I could've this morning! Arrrrgg. It's annoying 'cause I know it'll be a negative but I need to see that to move on from this month! Is it okay to go to bed early so that the morning comes round quicker? 😂

lunabear1 Fri 03-Nov-17 18:18:22

I'm 24 and DH is 33 and we have been married since December 16. We're trying as well. When you know, you know. Don't let people tell you you're too young! xx

kjhh Fri 03-Nov-17 18:27:54

@PickettBowtruckles I know the feeling - I’ve been testing every morning, keep getting BFNs as well but it’s like there’s that super small percentage hoping I am!

@lunabear1 good luck to you! Xx

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