Today in 99 per cent sure I ovulated. Hubby and I have had sex for the last six days straight and we had it planned for tonight as well, but it just didn't happen. He said he was exhausted and he must be because be fell asleep two minutes later.
I didn't show it, but I do feel disappointed. Today was O day and it didn't happen. I actually want to cry and I know how selfish I'm being.
Please don't make a big deal of this and put pressure on him (or describe it as "performing"). It's not fair and this wasn't your one and only chance ever to get pregnant. If you had sex yesterday and the day before you're plenty covered anyway.
Maybe this is a sign you need to take the pressure off both of you and focus on something other than ttc.
@TerrifyingFeistyCupcake Don't worry, it wasn't made into a big deal. We had a bit of a laugh about it and, to be honest, I think it was more tiredness than pressure. Just a shame that it happened yesterday of all days! Still, as has been said, it could have still happened for us this month anyway.
I'm off to an all-day yoga workshop today but he's off to work, so I do feel for him. I was sure to give him a big cuddle this morning.
@TerrifyingFiestyCupcake Oh, and although I used the word 'perform' here, I would never actually use that term in reality, especially not to him! I just didn't know how graphic people would like me to be in my post title on here, but my husband is my best friend and I wouldn't want to make him feel inferior! I just needed an outlet for my feelings last night on this page, where I know other women have probably felt the same way as me.
Conception really is unsexy! You need to layoff. They say every 48 hours is best and that you need the sperm in you before ovulation.
Please be supportive of your DH. I'm not surprised he's shattered. He needs a break. You could go artificial insemination and self administrator if he can produce into a pot but I don't feel such extremes are necessary here.
Woah, what's the attack all about? You're telling me to lay off as though I've been having a go at him but I haven't. I've said nothing of the sort. I was emotional last night and just needed somewhere to say that I felt disappointed. I deliberately didn't say anything to him because I know how negative (and unkind!) that can be. No one knows the ins and outs of my private life (even people on here, Haha!) So I don't know why comments are being made about artificial insemination (?)
Also, there are loads of different theories about whether sex everyday is best for conception or whether sex every other day is best. We made the joint decision to try every day for seven days running because that works for us.
Thanks every one for your comments, I'll bear them all in mind and remember not to mention this particular topic on here again without a disclaimer!
I was mainly angry at myself for rushing out of the blocks too soon. Now we do a version of the sperm meet egg plan - every other day until digital monitor shows high, then as often as we can over those 3/4 days.
We never manage as many as I’d like (especially if it’s weekdays)
@BandhaAid understand totally, it's that feeling of being so geared up for the big o day and want it so much, that it's just a crap feeling if we can't do it on the day... We don't all think of it that way but that's how I get and there's no right or wrong, it's just how you deal with it. Enjoy your yoga 😁
I get it, @BandhaAid. Last month we missed most of fertile window because I was ill. Then on the one day we were going to dtd DP was too tired and not feeling well so asked to give it a miss. I wasn't mad at him in the slightest (would far rather he was honest and not pressurised) but I was still a bit sad and disappointed as I'd set my hopes on dtd at least once.
I think you've still got a really good chance from what you've described though!