Doctors Won't Listen

[MaybeP]

I am starting to get very worried by my doctors won't help me. They both seem like either they don't care or they think I'm imagining things all because my urine tests (x2) came back negative.

I'm now (Monday) 12 days late. Friday morning my urine test was negative and I started to spot then bleed a little on a liner.

Saturday morning it was the same so I went to A&E. The doctor was so unhelpful. I told him my symptoms including being late but when I said that I had a negative test he started to talk over me and kept saying the symptoms could mean anything and the negative tests are 99% accurate. He took my urine sample (now with blood) and did another negative test (which he put the drops of pee in and told me negative without waiting; may be some special hospital test). Then he use the same urine sample to test for infection and there was none. I did say to him that I know what UTI feels like because I had it before and this is not it but he kept on saying not every time is the same and about some guy who had an infection and he was jumping around and next day he was very ill (not sure how that made me feel better). He prescribed me Nitrofurantoin anyway.

Sunday and today (Monday) I was still bleeding only a little and definitely not enough for a period. By the end of Monday, my pee had no blood and only on my liner and TP.

I managed to get an appointment with my GP today and I got the same response: Urine tests are 99% correct and false negatives are extremely rare, symptoms could be for anything and bleeding could just be because I'm tired. If she bothered listening or asking she would know that being tired is very unusual for me.

After these two unhelpful doctors, late period, with two negative tests, all these pregnancy symptoms and unexplained bleeding I have not been put at ease and have become very worried. My hubby is also very worried because we have been trying for 2 years and had 1 miscarriage.

I feel I'm going crazy like I'm imagining all this.

Anyone please help. Any information you got from your doctor or your experience of something similar will really help.

[VJONES1985]

I have no experience but I hope you get it sorted. Firstly, blessing could well be caused by an infection and not all infections are the same so I would take the antibiotics just in case. Secondly, it is possible to be pregnant and get a very late positive but it's a shame they aren't listening to you more considering your history of miscarriage. I guess you could test every day yourself and keep an eye on the bleeding? Going private is an option but obviously if you can't afford to do that, then it's no help. Can you perhaps demand to see another (female) doctor?? Have you had a blood test at all?

[VJONES1985]

Bleeding, not blessing

[MaybeP]

Thanks VJones. Ill give private a shot and hope they are more sensitive and actually give an assessment. I'll also do another pee test in the morning.

The doctor on Saturday didn't even want to give me a blood test. He just said the urine test is negative and its 99% correct and just dismissed everything else. The doctor I saw tonight was female which was disappointing because I thought she could sympathise but it just seemed like she just wanted to go home. She did gave me a blood test referral to shut me up and get me out of her office. For some reason when I mentioned tender breasts the third time she sounded concerned for breast cancer. So thanks to her I now have something else to worry about. Anyway, the blood test results though will take 2 weeks. 😔 Everything is so slow and i had to really probe the receptionist to make tonights appointment otherwise I would have had to wait a week because they only open their appointments 1 week in advance and don't do emergency appointments.

This is so disapointing. I was really counting on doctors to actually care 🤒🤕

[physicskate]

I’m not really sure what it is you want them to do. With all negative tests no one will call bleeding a miscarriage. Urine tests are about as sensitive as blood tests by the time af is due.

Unless there is something you haven’t told us about what you think is going on???

[PinkBeetroot]

This reply is not going to be what you want to hear but I'm going to say it anyway. Late period and light bleeding is NOT a good reason to go to A&E, even if you were pregnant or miscarrying there is absolutely nothing they could do for you.

Sounds like you have an amount of health anxiety but let me give you a wake up call. Do NOT waste the doctor's time at A&E unless you have a serious or life threatening emergency.

There could be lots of reasons for a late or missed period, pregnancy being the least likely in your case. 12 days late + negative test = not pregnant.

[physicskate]

I also think a bit of light bleeding is a total waste of a and e time. A and e is for life threatening and emergency situations and what you’ve said seems to constitute pms?

I’m not totally insensitive to what you’re going through. I saw my gp because I was so nauseous during my miscarriage that I couldn’t walk straight. During this miscarriage my gp said to have another miscarriage in order for him to run any tests on me. That was when I had a known medical event happening... not that I would wish that on anyone, but his sentiment was spot on (even though he was a right dickhead) - there was nothing he could do to help me.

[Freezingwinter]

Sorry you are going through this! I think other posters might have been a bit harsh. As a nurse I have known people come to a and e for less! I know it's hard, frustrating and worrying.. Perhaps your cycle is a bit messed up and It was a light period?

[Cookie1831]

Am sorry OP but I totally agree with previous posters it was totally inappropriate to go to a and e with these symptoms, a negative preg test means ectopic is ruled out and it rubbish I know but you need to wait it out. Hopefully you ovulated late and you get A BFP in the next few days x

[MrsAlbie]

I'm afraid I agree - A&E is really not appropriate for this. Resources are already so stretched.
The tests aren't usually wrong. UTIs can feel different each time. If you're stressed about this bleeding, that is likely making you tired.
You do sound anxious and I understand why you're so upset as it's a horrid limbo feeling.
Perhaps make an appointment with a different GP and talk about a plan going forward. You have been trying for a while so they really should be supporting you to explore other things now i.e. testing your hormones in your cycle or medication. Has this been mentioned?

[MadameJosephine]

I’m sorry you are going through this but the other posters are right, A&E is not the right place for you. To be honest it sounds emotional support is what you need at the moment and unfortunately the NHS is too overstretched to be able to provide that. Perhaps the miscarriage association helpline might be somewhere to start?

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/how-we-help/helpine/

Hope you are feeling better soon

[MaybeP]

Thanks everyone. I called 111 first before to make sure I needed to go and not waste the doctor's time. Sorry I didnt realise A&E was different to urgent care. I went to urgent care not A&E. but I understand why I sound like a hypocondriac. I was just worried given my history, never missed a period, always on time, always really heavy flow and with all these symptoms I had before the miscarriage I just wanted to catch it this time before it was too late. But because I don't have any concrete evidence (positive test) I will just have to accept that it is odd light period. My GP experience with this surgery have been really quite bad and it will take ages to change GP. Ill just have to wait and see

[Starwhisperer]

It's important to realise that sadly with miscarriages it isn't really a case of catching it before it's too late. Usually the baby cannot be saved and you're miscarrying because it isn't developing properly. I'm not sure there's anything the Drs can do to help. I've had 3 miscarriages and I know how awful they are and I really do feel for you, I sense you feel like you might be letting yourself down here by not preventing a miscarriages due to the lack of medical help but that simply isn't the case.

[Moreisnnogedag]

Maybe as awful as it is, there is nothing anyone can do if someone starts to miscarry. There is no stopping it if you catch it early - you just know about it for longer.

I'm sorry you're so anxious about this - is there anything you can do to take your mind off it?

[MaybeP]

Thanks Starwhisperer. That helps. Just a little information like this I find helpful. I thought it was something you can prevent hence searching high and low for answers.

Just like what physicskate'd doctor said to have another miscarriage so he can run some tests. Although that was a horrible thing to say but that is still a professional opinion and some action.

[MaybeP]

Thanks Moreisnnogedag. I think I'll just have to move on and and try alternatives.

[Seekingmiracles]

Sorry you're having a worrying time. As someone who's had several miscarriages I know first hand how worrying it can be.
Sadly though NHS funding doesn't stretch far and current protocol dictates that a women must have 3 consecutive miscarriages before any tests can be done.
I would like to suggest that perhaps this cycle you didn't ovulate at all... I've had this before ( I knew as I was charting my basal body temp) my cycle was very long, 45 days as opposed to 29 and my 'period' was very light. After an anovulatory cycle you don't technically have a period, it's called a breakthrough bleed and can be very different to your normal period - either very heavy or very light.
I would say you just need to wait it out. There is sadly nothing that can be done if indeed you were miscarrying.

[MaybeP]

Thanks Seekingmiracles. That really helps. I think at the end of the day ever woman is different and what is happening to me will be different. I'll just have to wait it and see and move on.

[DipsyLaLa22]

I understand you are frustrated as you have no answer. That doesn't mean your Dr doesn't care. And, they do seem to have done everything they can.

A blood test has no advantage over a urine pregnancy test. A scan would not show anything at this stage even if you were pregnant/miscarrying.

Most women do have a late period from time to time and it usually means you have not ovulated, or ovulated later that month. Just because it hadn't happened to you previously, doesn't mean that it can't happen.

[MaybeP]

Thanks DipsyLaLa22. That's true. All very confusing. It seems like it's down to luck and how your body changes without warning (or this is the firat warning )