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How to ensure first month pregnancy?

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FirstMonthCertainty Fri 06-Oct-17 00:47:38

I have read about various statistics, like, 30% odds of a 1st month pregnancy, and 60% odds of pregnancy within 6 months.

But there is no context on these statistics, i.e. how often were the couples having sex?

I feel as if, maybe they didn't achieve it within 1 month because they simply weren't having sex often enough.

So, if I were to have sex every day, or every 1-2 days, then I am ensuring that there will be sperm ready in time for the crucial 5 days before ovulation.

Simply having sex every day will ensure the sperm is there.

So if I were to do that, is there any possible reason that pregnancy wouldn't be achieved within the 1st month...?

So long as our diets and health are OK, and we are both fertile, are you aware of any reason it would take longer than 1 month?

Thanks

scoobyloobyloo Fri 06-Oct-17 00:57:21

Hell, wish I’d known to just have more sex rather than 7 rounds of fertility treatment....

On a more serious note, lots of things affect your chances of getting pregnant each month, quality and quantity of eggs, you may not ovulate when you think you do, the sperm may temporarily or permanently not be of great quality or numbers, you may fall pregnant and lose the baby very early before a test registers it. Or you may be anxious about getting pregnant quickly and throw your system out of whack....

Relax and try to enjoy. The high likelihood is that you will be pregnant within a year. Good luck to you.

MotherOfBeagles Fri 06-Oct-17 01:05:05

Is this for real? Seriously you can't be genuinely asking that?

AssassinatedBeauty Fri 06-Oct-17 01:05:26

Yes, of course there are plenty of reasons. Otherwise women would be getting pregnant immediately all the time, which they don't. An egg might fertilise but not implant properly, it might not develop properly due to a random event and result in an undetectable early end to a pregnancy that seems just like a normal period, sperm may just not reach/fertilise the egg for no real reason at all, etc etc.

"I feel as if, maybe they didn't achieve it within 1 month because they simply weren't having sex often enough." This is a really quite daft thing to suggest. It's not a race, it makes no difference at all whether you get pregnant in your first cycle of trying, or your second/third/fourth etc. It could take a year or so without their being any specific problems.

I wonder why you're asking? Are you worried that you haven't conceived the first time of trying?

Fridgedooropen Fri 06-Oct-17 01:06:17

Because it's not an exact science. If it was, IVF would have a 100% success rate simply by doing everything at exactly the right time. Good luck to you.

Fridgedooropen Fri 06-Oct-17 01:07:04

Mother I am wondering myself

KoolKoala07 Fri 06-Oct-17 01:10:41

This isn't serious, is it?

TiramisuQueenoftheFaeries Fri 06-Oct-17 07:19:58

Conception doesn't work like that, so drop this line of thinking ASAP, and while you're at it, brush up on your biology. This line of thinking is actually quite offensive. (Other people just aren't having enough sex, wtf.)

The role of chance and error in human reproduction is huge. 75% of fertilised eggs don't implant. Babies don't come to order and you are not in control.

ShowOfHands Fri 06-Oct-17 07:24:40

If you do everything "right", plenty of sex at the right time, both are 100% healthy etc, chances of pregnancy are around 20%

It is normal and expected that you won't conceive straight away and you should expect it to take a year.

Vonni1 Fri 06-Oct-17 07:28:06

So month 1 I used Ovia and we DTD so much during my fertile phase I was I a bit knackered from it. Then month 2 again used ovia and OPK. Lots of timely fun but again no joy. Now onto month 3 and his time using clear blue OPK. But not expecting anything.

I was on Yasmin for 14 years so suppose that had an impact. I’m 31. Decided to chill and go with it. So no I can say that regardless of how much sex you have it’s a waiting game and unpredictable.

I find the whole thing hilarious actually. Seeing as I spend years worrying if I missed a pill!

DemonBaby Fri 06-Oct-17 07:28:15

GF.

PollyCazaletWannabe Fri 06-Oct-17 07:29:35

What an offensive and ignorant thread.

lookingforthecorkscrew Fri 06-Oct-17 09:19:27

Sounds to me like somebody needs to read up on how babies are made 😒

Merrz Fri 06-Oct-17 09:34:03

I am sure you didn't mean to offend anyone by this but you're obviously not aware that even "having enough sex" and at the right time there is only a 25% chance of successful conception every cycle.
I hope it happens for you quickly and you don't have any issues but if you do you will realise how naive and infuriating your post was.

MyYoniFromHull Fri 06-Oct-17 09:36:55

Chance

Luck

Whatever you want to call it

Of course most people don't get pregnant the first month.

Perhaps your local FE college offers a biology gcse that might be useful.
Or try 'Taking charge of your fertility ' it's a book that explains it all to you.

eurochick Fri 06-Oct-17 09:45:20

I have no words.

NeverForgotten Fri 06-Oct-17 09:45:34

Highly insensitive post

Bubblebubblepop Fri 06-Oct-17 09:53:48

Your OP isn't right. You have around a 20% chance of getting pregnant any month. Your chances don't build (ie 20% month 1 but 40% month 4) it's just 20%

As you can see the chances are low of getting pregnant any month

The 20% is also based on sex during the ovulation window. There is very little point having sex at any other time of the month.

Get yourself some clear blue ovulations kits and shag constantly for the fertile period. You'll still only have 20% chance mind you!

KalaLaka Fri 06-Oct-17 09:58:16

I agree that statistics regarding conception are useless: each month you either have 0 or 100% chance of conception, depending on a number of factors. Some are variable from month to month, some are not.

Some months you may not even ovulate, though you may have no other fertility issues. The egg may be fertilised, but not implant. It may impact, but not develop. So even if you get pregnant, it may not last.

Not offended in the slightest, but prob worth doing some research as pp have suggested. The whole ttc and staying pregnant process are infuriatingly out of our control, so statistical data is probably pretty worthless anyway.

FirstMonthCertainty Fri 06-Oct-17 10:04:16

Instead of being offended, why not just think about reasons that I may have asked these questions.

Perhaps I am trying to be quick because I have travel arrangements..? Did you think of that..?

And regarding not having sex often enough, it's actually not a "daft" thing to suggest.

There are only 5 days prior to ovulation that you can get pregnant, so in fact, if you didn't have sex during these days ("often enough") then you wouldn't get pregnant.

So I was simply questioning these statistics, and under what conditions these statistics were collected. It doesn't say "how hard" each couple was trying.

Perhaps the people who took longer were older or less fertile or overweight or taking too many hot saunas or various reasons that fertility drops.

And perhaps the people who took only 1 month were using some technique that makes it faster. And this is really what I was asking about, whether there was any proven system to make things faster. Perhaps because I might have travel arrangements.

Instead of looking for reasons to get offended, try opening your mind a little bit. I am offended by you being offended.

FindingNormal Fri 06-Oct-17 10:07:29

Oh right, travel arrangements- well that's ok then confused

lauramcd86 Fri 06-Oct-17 10:08:04

Travel arrangements? This post can't be for real.......?
You're absolutely belittling every single person struggling with fertility issues (who mostly aren't overweight or sat in saunas all day hmm)

Justonemorepleasethen Fri 06-Oct-17 10:10:06

What has travel arrangements got to do with it confused

Fridgedooropen Fri 06-Oct-17 10:11:25

Feel free to be offended by people who point out that you're posting stupidly. If you have reasons, you could have given them, but you didn't, so it's on you when people conclude you're being daft. Which you are.

KalaLaka Fri 06-Oct-17 10:11:51

Travel arrangements and ttc don't work brilliantly. I'm trying to book flights too and not knowing when i may not be able to fly is annoying. IMO, it's just not compatible. I conceived 2nd month but have just miscarried... so back to square one, except I now don't even know where my cycle is at.

You really can't plan babies in the same way you plan everything else in life, which takes some getting used to.

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