Hi, just wondering if anyone else was in a similar place to me and wanted to chat about it? I'm 30, TTC my first and have had three miscarriages, all early (two natural MCs at five weeks, then a MMC where a scan at 6+5 revealed development had again stopped at 5 weeks). I've had RMC tests and am just waiting on the results of that but hoping to be able to TTC again from my next period, which should come any day now. I've found throughout the whole thing (have been TTC just over a year now) that it's really helped me to chat with people in similar positions, so if anyone wants to be TTC buddies please let me know!
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flynn80 ·
10/09/2017 17:09
Hi Lisa, finally found you!
anne I remember you from the other thread, I was Buddah, somehow locked myself out of my old account and had to start a new one! So sorry to see your still around these parts 
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I have now had 7 Mc's, 1 before I had my ds and the rest all after, I was told early this year that I had a probable chance of second infertility, then somehow ended up pregnant again at the end of may, that resulted in my latest MC, and since then been trying each month. I get my results back from genetic test in a couple of weeks after the hospital lost my 1st set of bloods, so had to wait another 3 months!
My consultant is very sure that its just down to bad luck this keeps happening all around 6 weeks, But I suspect there is some other reason why it keeps happening and Intend to find out what it is!
AnneLovesGilbert ·
12/09/2017 13:14
That's great news Lisa, always a weird thing to say in TTC context! But it's a fresh start for you.
I'm CD 24, 11 DPO and AF due Friday.... Not sure what to think, I'm usually a bit optimistic!
Hey flynn! How nice to bump into you again, though equally very sorry to hear your struggles continue 
xxx
What a fucker about the delay on your tests as well. So frustrating!
Yes, sorry I should have said. I asked about aspirin at my first appointment and he said no, then after my Feb loss he put me on it (I didn't bother to ask why he'd changed his mind and he was sure that due to the initial HCG result I had being quite low that pregnancy was always a non-starter and a chromosomal issue that nothing could have helped) and I'm still taking it.
Funnily enough, for the first few cycles after the last mc, which were also the first on the aspirin, I had exactly the same thing flynn, combination of gushing bright red blood and massive chunks of clots/tissue. I'm chortling at 10p piece, this was more like the length of my palm and a couple of fingers wide at times.
It was so bad I ended up phoning the GP from the toilet at work saying she had to give me something as I wasn't able to function properly at all! The pain wasn't too bad, I take mefanamic acid usually anyway, but the volume and chunks were unbelievable. I don't take the aspirin once AF hits but she thought it was possible taking it the rest of the time was affecting AF so she put me on tranexamic acid to lessen the flow.
Couldn't seem more counterintuitive taking a blood thinner 3 weeks of the month and a clotter for up to a week! But I only used the tranexamic when I was desperate and it got me through a couple of cycles but they're now much more normal and I haven't used it for a bit.
The GP said the speed I was bleeding was responsible for the clots as the hormone which thins the blood for you to pass during AF couldn't work fast enough and I was losing stuff that effectively hadn't liquified as it should have. Makes sense I guess.
Anyway, they're calmed down loads now.
I'd love to hear how the acupuncture goes! I emailed someone yesterday to ask about her availability. She's a Zita West certified or associated therapist which must mean she can perform miracles right? 
I had it years ago from a physio when I tore something in my back and was so high on painkillers I have no clue if it helped but I'm openminded.
I've been having reflexology but I was going off it so trying something else!
Lisa, my guy offered me progesterone suppositories from BFP to 12 weeks. Much better, I've heard to put them up your bum then your fanjo as they don't leak from the former but can from the latter! I got dire warnings about any mc definitely being a mmc as you don't bleed while you're on it so even if the pregnancy failed you wouldn't know till a scan. He left it completely up to me to take it and said I could leave it unless I had any spotting, but once I started on it I had to carry on.
I'm a bit reluctant because with my mcs I've had the opposite problem and struggled to get them going as my body's been so slow at letting them go, and I was on a high progesterone pill a couple of years ago which made me feel so unbelievably shite I'll never forget it!
Crikey, I haven't half gone on.....
Hope you're both well! Thanks for this thread Lisa.
somethingfromnothing ·
12/09/2017 13:54
Hi everyone!
Can I join too? I have a 5 year old but in the past 2 years have had 3 mc and a suspected ectopic. I have been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic but after 6 weeks I'm still waiting on an appointment
I feel so fed up and feel that something must be wrong! Annoyingly after falling pregnant quickly with my dd and the first mc with every loss it's taking longer and longer to get pregnant.
AnneLovesGilbert ·
15/09/2017 23:17
I'll be thinking of you lisa and hope it's as okay as it can be
Still time to develop food poisoning in the morning if you can't face it and no one would blame you xxx
No af, was due today. Bfn on IC. In bed with a terrible headache and a sore throat instead of prepping for a BBQ tomorrow. Only just over a horrible cold so feeling a bit sorry for myself!
Had a wobble earlier. A year ago at this friend's birthday do I was pregnant and my biggest worry was that I'd throw up and/or people would guess before we wanted to tell them. What I'd give for that now. Instead of showing up with a squishy 3 month old baby in my arms I'm not pregnant and sodding af is failing to show. It'll probably turn up while we're there. Just my luck after this fucking year.
Look after yourself tomorrow okay. Here if you need a rant.
flynn80 ·
17/09/2017 08:49
So sorry anne, The past couple of weeks I was a few days late, I finally thought this was it again, I am never late, 28 days, I can set a clock by it, but at this point was nearly 4 days late. no symptoms but drove myself mad googling. and then it happened and that was another month gone!
What have your dr's said to you, have they given you a timeframe to crack on and if nothing happens by then they will do something else?
This is also what were struggling with now, just to get pregnant again. I have my acupuncture tomorrow and really looking forward to it, staying positive this is going to be the game changer 
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Lisa glad to hear you got through the shower, totally get the milestones thing too, Sometimes I work out how many children I should have by now and it scares me, or even worse is the comparing to others which I just seem unable to not torture myself with. Prince george was born after my ds, and she's now on her 3rd and i have 1.
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AnneLovesGilbert ·
18/09/2017 10:49
Hey keepon, I remember you too, sorry you're still in this phase but welcome to our new tiny gang
I posted this on the TTC after loss thread this morning too and it's even more relevant to us lot: www.telegraph.co.uk/women/family/coped-grief-multiple-miscarriages-can/
I hadn't heard of the charity before but looks like it's a busy place and might have some useful resources. I haven't had a good painful wallow in the shit of it all for a while. The end of the summer has been so so so busy I've been distracted. A while back I was really struggling and bought a book by a woman who'd had a couple of losses. I needed to know someone else had been in the same pain and lived to tell the tale! And then it arrived and the moment had passed so it's stayed on the shelf.
I find stories of many many losses so upsetting - warning that the piece mentions someone who's had 20 - as I can't imagine it hurting more than it has done. How the hell do you keep getting up in the morning? How terrifying much each BFP be when you know what's likely to follow?
And I also find people who've had multiple losses then had a healthy baby after are in a different place. They know that however hard it was it was worth it. I don't at all mean they weren't in the worst place beforehand, it's not a competition and the grief of multiple loss is spectacular, but they know there was eventually some light and some happiness.
I have no reason to believe we'll have a happy ending, what if we're the people making up the numbers on those who don't go on to have babies at the end of it? DH isn't there at all and hasn't ever been, he's super optimistic bless him! But I have my moments. Am I being daft? Our consultant at the RMC said my next pregnancy, always assuming, has an 85% chance of making it to a take home baby. Which made us both feel a lot better in the earlier days of TTC again. But the shine's worn off it for some reason.
Sorry for rambling. I'm feeling alright today, not miserable, just a bit philosophical!
Hope you guys are okay x
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