Hi all, this is my first time on Msnet so please be kind...
Hubby and me have an ace 18 month old ds. We were v lucky with no 1 cos I got preggers first go, probably helped by having coil out just before. Been TTC no 2 since Jan, but no joy. He's over 40 and I'm 35. The thing is that this time around, we both at work almost full time, knackered, bit stressed and my OH has depression on and off for most of his life. We have no help nearby. . Because it hasn't happened so far I've started paying a bit more attention to the biology - I am v regular 26/7 day cycle. The last two months the pee sticks have confirmed I o around day 18, so have short luteal phase. I want to give us the best chance each month by doing it on the right days. We trying to be relaxed about it, but it's normal for us(at mo!) to have sex about 2-3 times a month. If we do it around day 10 (which seems to be his peak interest time!-he reckons he's tuned In to my hormones!) , he knows if I try to initiate sth again around day 16/17 then it's because of the o schedule. He's also not that interested quite a lot of the time cos he's s already 'peaked' for that week, so to speak. He hates the idea of the pee sticks and keeps trying to put it not happening so far down to me being stressed at work. But he just doesn't understand the biology or the fact that we do need to at least give ourselves a chance - doc has said they would give help if you have been TTC for a year, along with NHS guidelines i.e. Sex every other day for middle two weeks of cycle. I tried to start that last month but it just made it miserable. It sounds awful but I need to make him understand that the best way to have the least sex (!), or, at least organised sex, is to pay attention to the pee sticks. Then we could just relax and enjoy sex when we feel like it the rest if the time. I'm almost at the stage where I don't want to bring it up again and feel we should give up on a second. That's really not what I /we want but I don't want to miss time with our son arguing over TTC. Why don't men get biology?!! Does anyone else have any advice on TTC when life already knackering with one? Thanks.
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Lindy88 · 18/08/2017 21:28
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