Anyone have the panic?

[Crossiki]

Hey

So this is only our second cycle so wasn't expecting anything to happen straight away.
Problem is I'm constantly checking for signs and thinking somethings wrong with me. There's a family history of early menopause my mum was 30 when she had to use hormone replacement for my brother. My Dr did a hormone test and said everything was fine, but didn't say what it was and won't do much else because I'm only 26.
Been off the pill 4 months and only had spotting and cramps last month with a negative test so rationally it's my body adjusting to the pill but my irrational brain says this is something wrong or my ovulation just stopping. I'm getting so stressed and anxious it's getting me down.
Basically has anyone felt like this? And how do you stop feeling like it, it's only my second cycle I don't know how to convince myself it's all normal :/

[McTufty]

Hi crossiki. I have no medical knowledge at all but want you to know you're not alone. I'm just over a month off the pill, I positive OPK Monday or Tuesday (big relief) but AF came yesterday. So that's a 3-4 day luteal phase which would prevent my ever getting pregnant.

Like you, rationally I know that it's my body adjusting to the pill. But I can't help but massively panic it's something worse, and that I'll never be a mother. Alternatively even if my body does right itself, I hate not knowing when.

I'm 33 and was in tears all of last night convinced I have premature ovarian failure!

I have little advice except to say that it is normal for this to happen and also to panic about it. For me, to keep my stress down, I'm going to take b6 (for my luteal phase) and have fertility acupuncture. These things may or may not physically work but the fact I'm doing something will keep me less stressed I think.

Good luck - I know it's shit and I'm right there with you

[WelshMammy123]

It took us over 3 years to conceive DD. We had all the tests and were diagnosed with 'unexplained infertility'. So yes I had the fear. We even went through one round of ivf which failed. We then conceived DD the month the ivf failed - I still don't know how. Since then I've conceived twice but neither have resulted in a take home baby. Sometimes life doesn't run as we expect it to. Chances are all is fine but yes I know the fear and to be honest still feel it now x

[Crossiki]

Thanks ladies :)

McTufty this sounds like exactly how I've been feeling! Its comforting to know I'm not the only one stressing. It's hard to let go of the doubt and the anxiety. All people keep telling me is I'm young and have time but I feel like it's valid with the family history.

I'm sorry you've had so many problems Welshmammy :( that's exactly what I'm so afraid of. I think the fear you have is totally understandable!

[WelshMammy123]

Yep I'm totally an example of how the fear can be valid but despite that I've managed to have an incredible DD so I'm proof that even when things look dire there's a ray of hope. It sounds corny but she was worth the wait (although I'd prefer not to have waited as long as we did!) X