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We're ovulating again, so let's jump our men. It's TTC after miscarriage thread ten!

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Doublechocolatetiffin Wed 03-May-17 17:55:50

I hope I did ok with the title (thanks for the inspiration Emwithme). I felt a bit lost without a thread to post on so I thought I'd have a bash at it.

AnneLovesGilbert Wed 03-May-17 17:59:00

Thanks tiffin! I was getting jittery too grin

How are you?

Doublechocolatetiffin Wed 03-May-17 18:01:51

Mulder I'm so sorry you're back here again. That really sucks. I hope you are ok?

conker I'm not surprised you were fuming at the midwife. I would be too! I'm glad you're feeling positive today though, fingers crossed for all of us this month.

Turquoise I don't think I can help, but I just wanted to say it completely sucks and I'm sorry you're feeling so down. I have no idea what sort of mess I'd be a year on from now if I've not managed to conceive. I think you're all amazing for managing to sustain a normal life especially with all these silly pregnant colleagues flowers

Doublechocolatetiffin Wed 03-May-17 18:06:03

I'm ok Anne AF in full swing, trying to keep positive and squash the many worries in my head! I feel good having hopefully got back to my normal cycle. I've got the Ovia app so I can track things and hopefully give TTC a good go this month. I keep telling myself that trying immediately after was so unlikely to work - I had no idea when or if I ovulated!

How are you? Any sign of AF?

Anna2006 Wed 03-May-17 18:28:31

@TurquoiseDress It's awfully shit of all this. Just wanted to say know how you feel as I am in similar situation. It seems the months pass us by and the months ttc add up and the paranoia sets.
We're now into our 7th/8th cycle since TTC since the MC and I feel myself not liking that number. We fell pregnant first time & none of it adds up an makes sense. Other than that maybe our body did need time to recover and it is only a matter of time before it all works out 💗 Its awfully hard. I was 13 weeks pregnant with the mc, had a blighted ovum so my body was very much in full pregnancy swing.

I had appt today at doctors as had my bloods checked as my periods have been shorter since mc. Has anyone else's changed? I was told my bloods are all normal so no hormonal balance but they wouldn't refer me for a scan as said they couldn't justify it as "I'm only 27 and it's only been 7 months". hmm I keep worrying about maybe my lining isn't building up enough. But hen stop myself freaking out as I think it's just not helping


AmyL88 Wed 03-May-17 18:31:15

Love the new name Ladies.

@Tiffin I have downloaded the Ovia app too and trying to enter data every day (even when not much to report) Just so i can atleast go back to the Dr as i'm not sure if i ovulate either!

DancingUnicorn Wed 03-May-17 19:13:17

Thanks for the new thread tiffin!

Turquoise I'm so sorry you're going through such a shit time. I can't even imagine. We're all here for a rant though, as often as it's needed!

Mulder I'm so sorry. It's all so unfair!

Conker my next midwife apt would have been next Monday and I'm terrified I'm going to get a call. Especially as I'll be on the bus... fx the hospital cancelled it properly.

AmyL88 Wed 03-May-17 19:19:00

I had the same @Conker, I had an ERPC on the Friday then a phone call the next week saying i had missed my appt with the midwife...i didn't realise i had to cancel it myself. That conversation didn't go well. Such a shit one.

I am OPK testing like a mad woman, i keep getting the flashing smiley on my CB but hardly a 2nd line on the IC's...any ideas why? This is my first cycle since the MMC and i am putting alot of pressure on myself but i just can't seem to chill the f*ck out! CD 21 today and no 'peak' yet confused

DancingUnicorn Wed 03-May-17 19:23:04

Does the cb one look at oestrogen too? The add on Ovia says one of the cb looks at two things, whereas ics only look for the lh? Maybe that's it?

AmyL88 Wed 03-May-17 19:29:37

@Dancing Its the dual Hormone one, just had a google and yes it does...bugger...what does that mean then? Its on it's way? First month of using these so ive had 4 days of bloody flashing so far!

DancingUnicorn Wed 03-May-17 19:32:13

Yes, keep going. I think when you get peak it means the lh is surging as well. smile

DancingUnicorn Wed 03-May-17 19:32:37

(Keep going with testing and jumping I guess!!) ;)

AmyL88 Wed 03-May-17 19:38:44

Just had a read on the CB website and says after 9 days of flashing smileys give up. Better keep at it then..OH will be pleased!

Jauncornetto Wed 03-May-17 19:42:00

Once the CB digi's have detected an oestrogen surge and given a flashing smiley, they don't go back to blank circles in that cycle. So you'll get a flashing smiley until a solid one appears. Makes it all a bit confusing and I think using them together with the internet cheapies, like you're doing, is best

Jauncornetto Wed 03-May-17 19:59:18

I'm just reading "The impatient womens guide to getting pregnant" (got it on my Kindle when I was trying to conceive DD and thought I'd have a re-read) and this snippet really struck me:
"for women in their late 20s and early 30s, the chance of getting pregnant on the day of ovulation is less than 1 in 10 but two days before ovulation it's 1 in 3"
So the CB digis are definitely worth using! And possibly more important to DTD on flashing smiley days than solid ones...

Smurf123 Wed 03-May-17 20:13:28

mulder I'm so sorry I hope you are doing OK!
Thanks for the new thread :-)

WLMcI Wed 03-May-17 20:16:55

Mulder I'm so so sorry to hear that. Sending you hugs and hoping your DP is there to hand hold, too. X

AnneLovesGilbert Wed 03-May-17 20:23:34

Arrived this afternoon tiffin sad

Back is absolutely killing me. Didn't want to take anything till I actually came on but now on the mefanafic acid. Might have a glass of wine later.

DancingUnicorn Wed 03-May-17 20:30:49

Boo. So sorry Anne. sad Hope you get the wine!!

yellowfrontdoor Wed 03-May-17 20:42:25

So sorry mulder flowers

Place marking new thread x

Jauncornetto Wed 03-May-17 20:58:34

So sorry mulder
Re your aspirin Q, I self medicated with 75mg aspirin with Dd. It took 21 months to conceive her, all tests showed everything OK. Dr wanted us to start ivf but we asked to try clomid for 3 months, he said no point as I was ovulating anyway but let us try it and I conceived first month. But it was also the first month I took aspirin as I had read it improves blood flow to the womb and helps implantation. I took it until 12 weeks. This last pregnancy which ended in MC, I didn't take aspirin for the conception as I was bf'ing, then took it sporadically from my BFP (had stopped bf by then) I'll be taking it from now on, I can't find any evidence it causes any harm.

conkerchops Wed 03-May-17 21:17:29

Yay a new thread! Great title! @anne and @dancing we can be cycle buddies as we're all on cycle day 1 with af together! I am having a big glass of red this eve to 'help with the cramps!!'
I really rate ovia and reckon it really helped me conceive last time! Although dh is skeptical that it works!
Got an email from the bereavement midwife this afternoon apologising that we got the call from the midwife - she has promised they will changed protocols so it doesn't happen to anyone else - am pleased they've taken it seriously - it really doesn't help when you're trying to be positive and move on to be reminded actually I should be 16 weeks pregnant :-(
We have counselling tomorrow - which I was pretending we didn't need but know that really we still do :-(
Let's hope this thread brings lucky baby dust to us all!

Miami81 Wed 03-May-17 21:18:35

I am so sorry mulder. I am self medicating with aspirin. I just couldn't face going into a third pregnancy without changing something and I have not read anything that suggests it is harmful. In fact some doctors seem to put all their recurrent mc or ladies over 35 on it.
Did you mention that you are getting progesterone levels checked as well? I think aspirin from ovulation can help make the lining nice and plump and receptive.
Please take it easy over the next few days and weeks. All the best.

conkerchops Wed 03-May-17 21:55:33

Is the recommendation to take from
Ovulation? Was thinking of giving it a whirl! Then keep goi g through whole of first trimester????

MulderitsmeX Thu 04-May-17 00:01:55

Thank you for your kind words everyone it means a lot flowers.

Technically it was my second but the first month I ttc i had backache and cramps then a heavy period bang on time. I didn't know about chemicals then but think it might have been one which is why I asked to be referred now.

Thanks for the info 're aspirin, might give it a go from the bfp next time. I can't get any further tests on the nhs until I go to the rmc so will either pay up or wait depending on how long the wait is. I haven't been able to pinpoint when I actually ovulated yet so will hopefully master that soon so I can check luteal phase etc.

, I was thinking I might have low progesterone because I never have any symptoms when I'm pregnant and don't really get normal period symptoms either. So mostly it's just a paranoid guess. But I can never use opks so I do think there might be something there.

I started to MC the day before I went on holiday so it was a good distraction to be away from everything although I was a bit paranoid that I would need to go to the docs whilst out there but it completed ok and I'll just do a scan on Friday to check it's clear. Hopefully 3rd time lucky!!

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