Hi, I hope this is the right place to post this. I've been on Mumsnet many years but never posted before. I'm really desperate to get some views on what I should do right now about trying for a 3rd child. I'm 38 and incredibly blessed to have 2 wonderful dd's (3 and 7) and a lovely DH. I am a SAHM at the moment and my 3 year old will start nursery after Easter hols but only 12.30 to 3.30 each day. The truth is I've always wanted lots of kids, bought up as single child by my mum, no contact with dad and was very lonely. I struggle a bit as 2 yrs after my first DD I was finally diagnosed with an under active thyroid. I know lots of people have this but my energy levels and weight gain, even on medication are awful. My amazing mum died very very suddenly 2.5 yrs ago when dd2 was 6 months old right in front of me. I feel like that night I knew I would have to try to have another child to fill my void which I know sounds crazy but it came very quickly to my thoughts. I suffer in pg with hyperemesis, in and out of A&E till at least 20 weeks, I also got a horrific vaginal varicose vein for the last 10 weeks of my last pg. All these thing have made my hubby very negative about another baby as he hates me suffering and is worried about the kids care while I am unwell. I also broke my foot badly last year and am still suffering, potentially may need an operation still! Anyway DH has turned a corner and he definitely is now open to another child. I really want to start trying as I don't know how quickly or even if I can get pg again. Am really worried to be sick with 2 kids if I do but mainly I am 18 stone and desperate to get down to a healthy weight for the potential baby and me. I am about to start grief counselling as I am really suffering from the loss of my mum still. Sorry for the waffle but essentially my question is should I just go for it and try at least with Dh or really focus on weight loss, getting healthy and doing the counselling first?
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