Getting pregnant(10 Posts)
Wanting to get pregnant at 17, both my partner and I are financially stable so can bring up a child. But getting loads of negative comments about this. I also have been trying to conceive with my partner for a whole month without fail but still nothing. Tried twice on my ovulation date. Also am having tests done as may have possible PCOS but yeah. Just wanted to hear your views on young mums and any advice please xxx
If you really want this then you need to get yourself some OPKs and an app to track your cycles etc...
BUT and big but... it is not easy... you will probably get pregnant quite quickly as you are young and in theory your body should handle pregnancy better whilst you are younger.
Are the negative comments in relation to money etc? Do you currently work? If so you will be unprotected unless you have worked there 2 years and unlikely to get alot of MAT pay and if you arnt working how will you support a child?
I am not trying to put you off but coming from someone who thought they were an adult at 17 and put all my money into buying a house with someone only to realise a few months afterwards it was the biggesr mistake of my life and to spend thousands buying my way out.... think about it first!
There's pros and cons to everything and no right time for a baby. I'm 31 and having my first; I went to Nursing school, saw the world, got a house and then had baby. My mum was 19, had me and then did everything the other way round.
My mum and I have a great relationship as there is a small age gap between us. However it was hard when I was younger. Now she's living the high life, but has had to struggle. I was out of her hair by the time she was in her 40s, while I'll be having a teenager at my ankles.
However I couldn't and wouldn't have a kid at 17. I loved my independence and my long term boyfriend at 17? Christ almighty. We were together until we were 25, and we grew apart so much.
Is your partner also 17? It does seem like 30s is a more common age for people to start their families these days, which is older than it used be, but I do think its better to have a child later than too soon as its hard giving up your life when you've barely even started living it and no doubt lots of young mums do manage to rise to the challenge but its not a situation I'd recommend you put yourself in on purpose. So my advice would be to wait, which I know must be hard for you if your feeling broody.
Wow a whole month?
You're not yet legally an adult, can I ask why the rush? How long have you been with your partner? Do you have your own home together? You've posted here for opinions and mine is that you should enjoy your youth and lack of commitments for a few years then consider it again.
A whole month? It can take a lot longer than that.
Financially stable. Kids are bloody expensive. Be realistic. Can you afford it? What's the rush?
How long have you been with your partner?
I think you really need to ask yourself why you want to have a baby. You say you're financially stable but I really do not understand how that can be true. You must have only just finished your GCSEs. What job are you doing? The thing is that once you leave your job to have a baby etc, you'll find it incredibly hard to get back into the work world with minimal qualifications. I'm 31 now. I was definitely not mature enough or unselfish enough to have a baby at 17. Also, I had a really steady relationship age 15-18 but we are worlds apart now. Travel, get some qualifications and enjoy your youth!!!
I had my dd when I was just 19, got pregnant at 18. You know what? I ADORE my daughter and she is truly a blessing but if I could turn back time I'd have waited to bring such a blessing into the world.
It's not what anyone else thinks, their opinion about young mums etc that is completely and entirely irrelevant it's about what you truly want. If you are truly ready. If you are happy to put yourself, your needs and wants to side, on hold and in some cases forget about certain things happening, ever.
If you feel you can do that and that you would not regret not giving yourself more time to appreciate life and the small things like doing a poo in peace, sleep, having a social life, eating at your own pace, bathing, having a coffee, a clean house etc then by all means go for it.
My advice as someone who's been there would whole heartedly be to wait.
Even being young, you only have about a 25% chance of conceiving in any one cycle... so a month?? Not a lot of time...
Also I feel rude asking this; do you see yourself being with your partner long term? Like, for the rest of your lives?! I met my ex when I was 17, we were together until 25. I'm so pleased we didn't have children as he was frankly a nightmare. I met my husband at 26.
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