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Chemical pregnancy?(16 Posts)
Looking for some advice, but not for false hope - please be honest, don't tell me what I want to hear! I got a BFP on Weds afternoon - fairly clear line on a FRER. I then took another one and a ClearBlue digi, which both also came up positive (ClearBlue said 1-2 weeks). I had very sore breasts: they felt swollen, tingly and tender to the touch. I took another test yesterday, but with quite dilute second morning urine - it was quite faint, but I thought that would be because of the diluteness (and was cross at myself for taking a test with such a duff sample). Nonetheless, I thought I'd reassure myself with another one today (which is the day AF is due). But this morning when I woke up my breast tenderness is totally gone - they feel normal and soft again. When I took a test it was positive, but if anything lighter than two days ago - definitely no darker. Is this a chemical pregnancy? Again, be honest. At the moment I feel ok about the prospect of a chemical: obviously it's not great, but this is the first sign I've ever had that I can get pregnant at all, so it's actually made me feel a bit less hopeless. I'm worried, though, that as time goes on I'll get more excited and more upset if bleeding starts (which, if this is a chemical, is inevitable). So I really want someone to be brutal with me - should I be preparing for the worst, here?
The pic is all the tests (except the digi, which has now gone blank) in order from Weds to today, top to bottom. The picture isn't great - they're all quite a lot darker than that (all are definite positives, not squinters) in real life, but the relative darkness is correct, if that makes sense?
They're all positive op. In the nicest possible way, stop testing, stop stressing and just wait to see what happens. The darkness of the lines means nothing.
Congratulations you're pregnant.
God, that picture is even worse than I thought. Here's a (maybe slightly better?) one with just the first and the last side-by-side. Incidentally, TTC has sent me fucking nuts. Me of seven months ago would have definitely rolled her eyes at photographing pregnancy tests and putting them on public forums...
To be honest my dear no one here can tell you. You might get simular stories with both positive and negative outcomes but it wouldn't do you any good. As much as it sucks you have to try and relax and wait to see if you miss your period.
Wishing you all the best I hope it's a sticky!
You want it so desperately it's totally understandable that you might be a little crazy those tests are 100% positive, not a squinter to be seen.
I had a chemical pregnancy last year. About 5 days after AF was due my tests stopped being positive (after not getting darker from the day AF was due) then the next day I started bleeding. Lasted about 4 days then I ovulated exactly 14 days later and I'm now 20 weeks pregnant.
It really is a case of wait and see because you were only due on AF today I would wait and see what happens over the next few days. It is excruciating waiting especially when everyone tells you to calm down and your being crazy (thanks DH) but it really is a case of wait and see I'm afraid.
Sorry for writing wait and see 3 times in a row my point was also you're more fertile after a chemical hence me mentioning getting pregnant straight away afterwards.
Sorry for the jumbled message am very tired.
OP you are pregnant. Nobody can tell if you still will be tomorrow or the day after but today - you are pregnant! I really hope it works out for you
Thanks everyone - you're right and I know that really. I have checked the Collection Of Things I Have Pissed On in the bin (the outside bin, so no temptation to searching them out) and I'm going to go work in a coffee shop (working from home today) and just generally try to think about something - anything - else. I think I'll tell my husband that we should prepare for worst, too - he's getting really excited at the moment and that scares me. Thanks again for the kind and sensible words!
You have my sympathies OP
Last year I feel pregnant, lovely second lines, nice and strong followed by a 1-2 weeks on a CB Digital. However, few days later I just felt different, I just felt something was wrong. I left it a few more days and tested again and although the second lines were still there they were no darker than they'd been when I first tested. As the days passed I continued to test and the lines were clearly getting fainter. I spoke to people about it who told me to stop stressing, a line is a line, the strength of the lmen be doesn't matter etc but I knew something was wrong. About 8 days after my initial CB result I took another CB Digital and it still said 1-2 weeks and that's when I knew in my heart something wasn't right. Two days later I tested with a FRER which had a barely visible line and another CB Digital said not pregnant. I booked an appointment with the doctor to discuss it with her and she said the pregnancy had obviously failed - why I went to see a GP I don't know as I knew myself what had happened. I then started bleeding the next day, two weeks after my initial BFP.
I fell pregnant again last December and on the day I tested (the day my period was due) the lines were incredibly faint but when I tested 48 hours later using the same brands of tests (I had two different types) and both showed second lines that were considerably darker than the first time I'd tested.
I'm only sharing with you my experience because you said you don't want people to just tell you what you want to hear. Things may be OK or things may not but there's nothing that can be done to change anything.
I'm glad I kept testing despite people telling me not to because at least when I miscarried I knew it was going to happen, I was mentally prepared for it. If I had gone to bed one night believing myself to be pregnant and then woke up the next morning to lots of blood (which if what happened) I would have been devastated.
I wish you the best of luck OP and I really hope the same doesn't happen to you as it does to me
I'm sorry to hear about your experience, writer - and thank you for sharing it, you're quite right that I didn't want people to give me false hope. I'm pleased that you eventually got the happy ending of a pregnancy that stuck - I hope that'll be my happy ending, too.
Thanks margaret. It took us another ten cycles to fall pregnant again and I was a nervous wreck for the first few months, convinced it was going to end in miscarriage again. I'm currently 16 weeks though and everything is going fine so far.
I hope you have a good outcome but even if this time isn't meant to be you'll get your baby soon enough
This will not make you feel better and I am in 2 minds about posting but this happened to my sil. One day she felt pg, the next she felt different and not pg. The thing is, her pg didn't end on its own and she needed medical intervention, so absence of bleeding is not necessarily a good sign.
As has been said, all you can do is wait and see for now and do another test which tells you number of weeks pg a bit later on.
You could also request an internal scan quite early on to establish viability of pg.
I'm sorry if I did the wrong thing in posting, it's just that what you said about feeling different is exactly the same as my sil's experience.
Its only been two days - tests dont get darker that quickly - and they dont look lighter to me at all. I tested with Frer for about 2 weeks after my bfp and panicked myself about this.
I dont really think the breast pain going down means much either. Your hormones do all sorts of mad shit at this time. And your body will have just realised you arent going to have a period this month, changes do happen.
Not just saying this to make you feel better - but theres no point in you convincing yourself youre having a chemical pregnancy when chances are everything is totally fine.
I'm 15 weeks pregnant and had the same line development or lack thereof as you. Stopped testing and did one frer a week later, a few days after AF was due and it was much darker.
Just wait at least 48hrs then if you really must, test again. And DO NOT do the digital ones for reassurance. Mine were never accurate and sometimes I even went back in weeks on them. Don't make my mistake. You'll drive yourself nuts.
What will be will be and just try to enjoy the fact you are currently pregnant and it's currently fine
Just to reiterate what's said above... they're good strong positives and no one on here can say what will happen to you!
You did want honest stories... I had 3 chemicals last year straight after each other. Each time the lines stayed light and I never got a positive on a digital. I knew something wasn't right and went to GP and asked for bloods to confirm. Each time the blood results showed that my HCG levels were nowhere near where they should be, and dropping. The first time it took a week to start bleeding, the second 2 days after af (tested early) and the third 4 days after af due. Although I knew it couldn't change things, I'm glad I got the confirmation from the GP, firstly so I could prepare myself mentally and secondly as they referred me to the recurrent miscarriage clinic who managed to prescribe me progesterone, aspirin and extra strength folic acid the day I got my last bfp and I'm now 9+4. There's no guarantees and still early days but I don't think I'd have got this far without intervention.
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