Hi. This probably should be in the over 40 ttc thread, but I wanted a bit of traffic as I have to make a fairly quick decision. Bit of background - I'll try and keep it as brief as possible. I'm 46, DH is 43. We have DS4 who was conceived naturally and fairly easily when I was 40 (born at 41). When he was about 16 months, we decided to ttc a second child. After 2 years of this, with absolutely no sign of a pregnancy, we decided to try IVF. We did 2 rounds, both of which went reasonably well in that we got a decent number of eggs, all fertilised, and good quality embryos. However, no pregnancy resulted. By this stage I was 45. DH and I had a long chat at the end of this, and decided that we had given it our best shot, and that we should call it a day with the ttc and enjoy our darling ds. DH came to terms with this quite easily, but unfortunately I did not. I couldn't get my head round why I had been easily able to have a child just 4 years ago, but now couldn't. So, I went to see a very well respected fertility doctor in our area. She suggested having a hycosy (where they push dye through your tubes to see if there are any blockages). I had this done, and it did suggest that there was some blockage. She then referred me for a laporoscopy, which is a small operation done under general anesthetic where they put a camera through your belly button and see if there are any blockages, or anything else untoward going on in there. I wasn't sure about having this, but I went along with the referral as she said there was quite a long waiting list, so I had time to think about it. This was about 3 months ago, and now the appointment has come through for 2 weeks time. Of course I have had to come clean with DH that I went back for more tests. He is fine with it, but is still of the opinion that we should leave it alone now - although he will support me if I want to go ahead with it. And that's the problem - I can't decide if I do want to go ahead with it. I'm 46 - should I accept that nature is telling me I'm not having any more children? Do I really want to put myself through surgery for something that may not make any difference? Will I regret it if I don't try? I am having all these conflicting thoughts, and I really need to let the hospital know if I'm not going to go ahead. Sorry - that's quite long. But anyone got any wise thoughts on this? Thanks you.
I am ttc at 45 and a half. . Had a mc in June and have just about admitted defeat. If I could have the dye procedure to double check I would. . I think as you have gone this far you should persue this option open to you. Good luck.
I'm sorry but at 46 I wouldn't be trying anymore. The chances of a complicated pregnancy, labour and birth defects are higher than I would risk. That's not mentioning the let down if you don't fall pregnant or have a miscarriage.
Noone can tell you what to do - you have asked all the right questions in your OP, can you discuss them more with your DH? 46 is not necessarily too old, it is a really personal thing. FWIW I agree with the PP that you might regret not doing this, but there are obviously other things to weigh up. Good luck with your decision, whatever it is.