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Is anyone else sick to death of all this?

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nicnacnew Tue 24-Jan-17 07:37:18

Stats are
Age 33
ttc no3
Countless cycles over 3 years
Waiting on af to arrive any minute.

I am so absolutely over all this ttc business. I think I may have to admit defeat. My own fault I suppose after all I manage to convince myself every month that I am going to get bfp. Anyone for any ideas on how to get out of a rut?

Fourbyfour Tue 24-Jan-17 18:04:12

I am.
I'm 25, ttc no 1, ttc 6 months. First few months were exciting and I was excitedly chatting on the Conception boards. Now I pop by maybe once a month, mainly just look at the active threads if I have some spare time. I was symptom spotting and day counting every cycle at first but that's gone now, just getting on with life and if it happens it happens.

Roseandbee Tue 24-Jan-17 18:12:40

I'm not far off three years but luckily only really started date watching recently as I already see how time is dragging as soon as you pay to much attention. I've heard giving up is often quite a successful method for finally making it happen. Maybe a break from the forum wouldn't be a bad thing. I'm also 33, ttc #1

ohbigdaddio Fri 27-Jan-17 18:33:31

I am nicnacnew!
Age 38
ttc no1 for 11 months

Af has just arrived, I'm devastated (convinced myself I would be pregnant this time), can't stop crying and feel like the future looks bleak. Found out recently a friend is expecting her 3rd child and I felt so, so gutted that it's not happening for us. Wondering whether to just give up on the whole thing and wondering what a different, child free future would be like (not in a good way!).
We've tried everything...dtd when we feel like it, dtd every other day, OPKs, SMEP. This month we dtd so often we both got sick of it!
I am panicking I have left it too late because of my age. I've had blood tests and all came back fine, I'm ovulating. DH also had tests and he is fine. Not sure what to do next but think I need to return to GP??
I agree fourbyfour the first few months were exciting and I wasn't too upset not getting the BFP but now I feel desperate and totally gutted each month it doesn't happen.
Sorry I've not been much help, but I know how you all feel.
Wishing us all the BFP we want!

2ducks2ducklings Sun 29-Jan-17 05:36:30

32, ttc #3, cp in November and looks like another right now.
I've had enough. I don't know how people keep going for years, they all have my deepest respect!
I had positive results on Monday, but everytime I've tested since, the lines are fainter to almost non existent. I don't have bleeding, but I do have stomach pains.
I seem to get pregnant easy enough, but not hold on to them!
I don't know how many more times I can go through this. I'd prefer a bfn than this so that at least I know where I stand and can start dtd again. I'm just in limbo here now, waiting for the bleeding to start again.sad

delilahbucket Mon 30-Jan-17 17:59:40

Two years for us, dc2 for me, 1 for dp. Also not sure how to keep going. December we didn't try. My heart wasnt in it. It's all become so monotonous. I think that only reason I've not gone back on the pill is because I can't deal with the hormone messing again. I'm all too aware of my biological clock ticking quicker than everyone elses thanks to a low egg reserve and we have a less than 1% chance of a natural conception due to antisperm antibodies. The other alternative is to miraculously locate £5000 for icsi on the chance that we are one of the 20% it works for first time.

2ducks2ducklings Mon 30-Jan-17 19:01:16

flowers*Delilah*.
Definitely another cp for us. AF arrived in all her glory yesterday. What an idiot for testing so early?!!!

Sweetninja30 Mon 30-Jan-17 22:27:39

Hi I'm new to this site. My partner and I have been trying for a year now, it's just not happening. I'm seeing my friends and even my younger cousins fall pregnant so easily and it's heartbreaking for me. Doctor says there's nothing wrong and to just keep trying. I feel such a failure.

pteradactyl Fri 03-Feb-17 13:04:36

I am. Ttc for 22 months. Bad pcos so no periods for me and OH has an extremely low sperm count. I got private clomid prescription so we can at least have an incredibly tiny chance but I know the chance of it happening naturally is slim to none. We are saving for ivf but everytime we get some money together something happens that eats it up so current prediction is 18 months to treatment (no nhs as I have a dd). I am fed up with the bad news and everyone else being able to have kids just by their partner looking in their direction.
I started off very ott and had picked put prams and clothes and cots (not bought!! Just window shopped) and it was fun but now I feel like i cant even do that cos there is a pretty real chance we will never have a baby. It is just awful!

Lemonylem Fri 03-Feb-17 13:13:08

Yes! I'm so sick of symptom spotting and the huge disappointment every month. I actually stopped trying last month because it was getting me so down. I feel like there are photos of scans and pregnancy announcements everywhere I look!

TurquoiseDress Fri 03-Feb-17 14:51:04

Yes OP I'm with you!

It's been over 6 months TTC no.2 which I know is no time at all really, but I had a MMC last summer just as I thought I'd made it into the 2nd trimester sad

I'm 38 with a LO who's nearly 3.

Plus I've had 2 previous fast/unintentional conceptions and this has made me feel that I'm paying for that now or my luck has run out!

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