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Honest answers please TTC after infertility and MC

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curlingandtwirling · 12/01/2017 12:36

I had a mc 2 months ago after TTC for almost 8 years, unexplained infertility. I'm 43.

I got a very strong BFP and EPU said the HCG levels were originally good, but sadly it wasn't meant to be.

Realistically, what do you think our chances are? We did nothing differently, except my periods have become much heavier over the past 12 months.

I'm obsessed again, after accepting it would never happen. I thought I had a feint line when I got my first AF after MC, but last month AF appeared 1 day late, but nevertheless heartbreaking.

I spend all my free time googling conception, OPKs (I've ordered 50 and will start using them tonight), BFP's, success stories etc.

I want to think that my body is now ready and I'll be one of the lucky few who has their baby later on in life. I can't face the thought that I know I can actually get a BFP and will never see another.

I find it hard to put my thoughts into words as you can tell, but I'd really appreciate your thoughts? Is it too late? Or should we crack on and do all we can?

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delilahbucket · 12/01/2017 13:35

Have you been offered IVF?
I'm sorry to say your age really isn't on your side. While it isn't impossible for to fall pregnant naturally, sadly the odds are not in your favour. Miscarriage risk is greatly increased with age as your egg quality deteriorates.

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SleepFreeZone · 12/01/2017 13:41

I think if you were falling pregnant relatively frequently I would say you had a chance as you might just catch a good egg. But if you're not falling pregnant and at 43 I would be investigating other options I think.

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curlingandtwirling · 12/01/2017 14:20

Thanks for your replies. I know I need to be sensible about it and I know the chances are extremely slim, but it's our only chance.

We had investigations, no problems. DH already has children from a previous marriage so were turned down for IVF on the NHS and can't afford to have private treatment.

This just came out of the blue and its knocked us both for six. Having spent years counting days, taking supplements, thinking it would never happen, when I saw those 2 lines, it was like being hit by a truck! Then to experience the joy quickly turn to heartbreak was just so cruel.

I'm more determined than ever because I know it CAN happen if that makes sense?