Need to stop feeling broody(3 Posts)
I feel a little silly for writing about this I am 25 and I have been in a relationship with my other half for over two and a half years. He is 27 and we are both in full-time jobs with good career prospects.
For the past few months I have been feeling ridiculously broody. I have told my other half about this and he has discussed how he does not feel we are ready, we are currently renting and he would like us to own our own home first. Recently we had a pregnancy scare which came out as a false alarm. I was gutted I mean really gutted, to the point I was crying.
I have got to the point where I feel I can't look at other children because I don't want to get myself this upset. I have explained all this to my other half and I understand if he does not feel ready I don't want to pressure him and I know he is being sensible but my body is in turmoil. I have half of me crying for a baby of my own and another half which agrees and tells me to wait until we have a house.
How can I stop myself feeling this broody? I don't know what to do. I am not the sort of girl who will trap a guy, it's not fair on him or the baby. I just need help putting these feelings at bay until we are both ready.
Any advice would be appreciated
I've been there...you need to give yourself another goal to focus on and try to take your mind off it. Spending time reading mumsnet will do you no favours, it's easy to get really into ttc and start feeling the emotions that others are describing.
You sound like me around 6 years ago. I know this will sound harsh but get yourself off this forum. You don't need it. You're only going to wind yourself up reading other people's TTC journeys. You are not TTC and I have to agree with your partner. Get yourself a house and settled. Make sure you are BOTH ready for this and then have the discussion.
I am TTC my first baby. I have been with my DH for 11 years. Married for 7 yrs. we have been thinking about having children for 6 years and watched friends and family welcome their own children in that time. It's torture. But you have to walk your own path.
You have to have a focus. Book a holiday. Have something to look forward to. You are still young and you have time to wait until it's right for you both. I know your head and heart are telling you different things but work hard to get them to work together for the sake of your relationship and your sanity.
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