But I can't because I have 2yo DS to look after. Af arrived on cycle attempt number 9 ttc dc2. I conceived DS on cycle 3. So stupidly didn't think it would take that long.
I feel so sad this time that I'm still not pregnant, but I can't seem to actually express how sad I feel. I know I should be grateful I have one already, and I really am. But it makes me feel so sad he might be an only. All his baby stuff is packed away nicely in the loft. So many friends are on their second now. And I keep getting the question 'so do you think you'll have another?' I know they don't mean it but having to fake a smile and say 'maybe one day' is so painful.
Not sure what I'm hoping to gain by posting. I guess I just wanted to tell someone that I'm wallowing in my own self pity. I need to pick myself up again. I know I do.
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LillyBugg · 18/08/2016 08:10
Sorry Lillybugg that you're feeling down about it 
I understand completely! I'm on 9th cycle too ( TTC#1) people keep asking me when are we going to have children 
It's hard for you if you can't go and have a wee cry to get it out of your system.
and 
don't give up, it'll happen 
Sorry you're feeling so rubbish. We are on cycle 4 of TTC2. I naively thought it would be much easier second time round and even thought I had a good chance of it being first month. Instead my body has gone crazy and I've had loads of shitty cycles. It's really frustrating and depressing. Hope you get your BFP next month! Just got to keep going really haven't you 
Hi lilly, I know exactly how you are feeling, were on cycle 6 ttc#2 after having got very lucky and conceived first time with DD, so like you I naively thought it would be just as quick second time.
I also had an age gap in my head but am gradually managing to adjust my expectations, I'm sure the age gap won't matter once #2 is here and I've realised I should try and make the most of the precious time with just having DD as it will be harder to have that one on one time once there are two kiddies to look after. That said I'm still finding it frustrating and depressing but trying to stay positive that it will happen eventually.
Hope this is the month for you!
I feel like crying often.
I'm TTC #1 and in the last 11 months I have had 3 IVF cycles, 1 cancelled IVF cycle, 1 miscarriage, 1 ERPC, 1 hysteroscopy, 1 Hycosy, 2 cancelled FET cycles, and I'm about to begin a 4th IVF cycle.
Oh and I'm £30,000 down so far.
The 'trying' in TTC couldn't be more apt. Never have I tried so hard to get precisely nowhere. And the process is so unbelievably trying.
I miss the days when I thought we might be able to make a baby with some sex
Hi there. I know how you feel. We started TTC #2 in January 2015. 20 months later we have 'achieved': a missed miscarriage after a year of TTC, a diagnosis of PCOS for me and a lot of heartache. Oh and some performance anxiety for poor DH. It is hard. Forget about the age gap thing. I too got very hung up on this. It made me utterly miserable, especially as all my friends have, or are about to, popped out their second without any complications at all. We conceived immediately with DS (and with the miscarriage the month before him...) so all this trying and effort and disappointment has been a real adjustment of expectations. 5 months on from my miscarriage I am just starting to see the pluses of a bigger gap and also to not care about how big the gap is. DS is 3 next week.
You have my sympathy, it sucks when it doesn't go to plan.
Hi. It was diagnosed post DS when we were having difficulty conceiving again but I wasn't surprised as the only time I've ever had regular periods in my life was when I have been on the pill. I don't have all the classical signs though (but enough for a diagnosis - abnormal USS and infrequent periods) and because we conceived DS easily I never thought much of it. If you have regular periods and have had a normal USS that makes it very unlikely for you. Wasn't suggesting it would be a likely thing for you, just one of the things I have acquired over the course of this journey.
Hi all. I could use a good cry to. Im going to lose my mind if one more person a) announces a pregnancy or b) asks when we are having one / "so will you be able to have a glass of wine tonight...
) . I think about little else & DH is sick of me going on. It took me years to get him to the married and babies stage so i won't push my luck by excessive moaning. Lets all have a group cuddle and glass of fizz. As sadly we can.
Group hug for all! Sadly alcohol makes me vom so none for me but I'll pass the around. My takeaway is on its way though so I will drown myself in my curry 
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EJ it's hard not to go on about it, I use mumsnet really to help with that.
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