Assessing risks and choosing to TTC

[polarbearsolarbear]

How did you weigh up the risks if you considered any at all when TTC

I tend to focus on the negative and then think perhaps I'm selfish for wanting another baby given I have 1 healthy child and we're not getting any younger.

I'd be a fairly average age for 2nd if I fell pregnant now but it took so long to get pregnant first time that I'm almost searching for my cut off age to give up if it hasn't happened

Struggling to make peace with wanting another or staying as a 3