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BFP after MC: when did you get yours?

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blossombottom Sat 23-Jul-16 21:27:27

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Metalhead Sun 24-Jul-16 06:56:15

I looked into this a lot after my mc, and the only sound scientific evidence I found seems to suggest that you are only more fertile before you ovulate for the first time after a mc. Anything else is just anecdotal.

Lots of people do get pregnant again straight away, but for me it took 11 cycles in the end. Fx you'll get yours soon, but don't get too disheartened if it doesn't happen straight away.

nolongerwaitingfornumber2 Sun 24-Jul-16 07:07:30

I had just one cycle in between my miscarriage and my bfp.

Good luck and sorry for your loss flowers

DoubleCarrick Sun 24-Jul-16 07:39:24

We decided to wait because we weren't emotionally ready after the mmc. I had my bfp 7 months after the mc

m33r Sun 24-Jul-16 08:29:25

I MC in Feb, got a BFP in June which was CP and am now pg again this month. Am just 5 weeks so not counting my chickens xx

Swearwolf Sun 24-Jul-16 08:36:28

I mc in March last year and got a bfp at the end of July. It was 7 weeks in though, I'd had some implantation bleeding the month before and a negative test just before that so didn't realise until a few weeks later. I also heard that you're more fertile after a mc, and it seemed to happen quickly for me and the two friends going through it a similar time. Good luck!

blossombottom Sun 24-Jul-16 10:01:26

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karryk Sun 24-Jul-16 11:10:28

We took a break after the mmc and then it took 3 cycles to get a bfp. I ended up having a bit of a life overhaul afterwards and switched all my personal care products to as organic as possible, plus ditching plastic containers. There's not necessarily a link but it certainly made me feel better in myself in general smile

riddles26 Sun 24-Jul-16 12:57:05

I had one cycle between the two.

I have endometriosis so I minimised dairy and wheat in my diet after mc. We generally had a healthy diet from before, with lots of fruit and veg and cook every meal from scratch, only eating out occasionally. I cut down caffeine to twice a week and cut alcohol to the occasional drink only.

I had been having reflexology before I first conceived so continued that after mc and also switched some of my more 'active' exercise classes to yoga to help with relaxation.

My advice would be to relax and not get disappointed if it doesn't happen straight away. While I am grateful it did happen quickly for us (took >2yrs to conceive the one I mc), the first few weeks are filled with anxiety - its hard to describe but all you desperately want is to be pregnant again but when it happens, its such an anticlimax without any of the excitement I had with the first bfp. I have spent the whole pregnancy waiting for the next milestone, telling myself I will be 'safer' then and I am still struggling to relax and enjoy the pregnancy at 27 weeks. I often wonder if that is because it happened so quickly and I hadn't recovered emotionally.

Hope you get your bfp very soon flowers

AWaspOnAWindowInAHeatwave Sun 24-Jul-16 12:59:24

I mc'd early Sep - was pg again late Oct - mc'd again late Nov - pg again mid Jan (that one stuck - DS is now almost 2). Good luck and keep your chin up xx

Swearwolf Sun 24-Jul-16 13:47:03

I waited a month to try again - there's so much different advice out there I knew that if I got pregnant again right away I would worry even more about something going wrong. I'm glad I did, as that first period after my erpc was horrible, very painful and lots of brown stringy blood (sorry tmi), and all I could think was that my womb must have needed that cycle to properly heal. That's just my experience though, I know plenty of people conceive right away with no problems.

I also just focused on looking after myself, eating well and trying to make myself happy, rather than cutting anything out or going on a big health kick. I did switch to decaf tea though, no idea if it helped but I was pregnant on my second cycle and now have a healthy four month old.

cookielove Sun 24-Jul-16 20:45:38

I had a mmc in September and was told to not ttc again till we had genetic councelling in the following April (due to abnormalities on the fetus) we accidentally fell pregnant and got a bfp in January and had a rush appointment in Feb. Ds was born perfectly healthy in August (premature) and now is almost 2 - how did that happen!!?! grin

Good luck smile

Gardencentregroupie Sun 24-Jul-16 20:48:46

ERPC in the mid August, really horrendous period late September - like swearwolf it was exceptionally painful, I lost lots of blood, felt drained and exhausted - bfp 4 weeks later.

Ankleswingers Sun 24-Jul-16 20:52:07

I had a mmc in the June, was pregnant in the October and that baby is now just over two years old.

Good luck op. smile

blossombottom Sun 24-Jul-16 22:18:20

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blossombottom Wed 03-Aug-16 17:36:18

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Swearwolf Wed 03-Aug-16 21:12:48

I did! I thought it was my period too, it only lasted 3 days and was really light but I thought it was just my cycle getting back to normal. I tested negative but I think it was just the cheap tests because a couple of weeks later I kept getting strong positives on ovulation tests, tested again and got a positive. Good luck!

blossombottom Wed 03-Aug-16 21:32:23

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blossombottom Thu 11-Aug-16 19:48:21

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Jjspoon Thu 11-Aug-16 20:04:59

How you doing blossom? I remember you from another thread but cant think which one? Guessing no bfp yet? Have you kept poas?

I had mc last month and then af has arrived today but it was only a 25 day cycle since day 1 of mc bleeding so alot shorter than I thought it would be, was not prepared for it at all yet. Onward to next cycle now....

Honeyandfizz Thu 11-Aug-16 20:09:43

I had a mmc in September 2002 & found out I was having dd in Jan 2003, only had 1 cycle between the two.

blossombottom Thu 11-Aug-16 20:25:25

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Jjspoon Thu 11-Aug-16 22:06:36

Go for it, Fx for you!

Mixed feelings really. Sad not to get bfp straight away, was really hoping the extra fertile thing would happen but at the same time didnt think it would happen as we only dtd a few times and probably too late in the cycle as wasn't feeling up to it first few weeks. But yes also relief as I was worried it might be a really long time until it came again and mess up my cycles so it's nice to know we can start trying again properly now and I'll know what's going on with my cycles again.

blossombottom Sat 13-Aug-16 19:56:29

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Jjspoon Sat 13-Aug-16 22:16:09

Nope no plan for us, just being relaxed about it. Luckily for us last time was only cycle 2 after stopping the pill which was alot faster than we thought so hoping it happens soon again! At least we now know theres nothing wrong with us. We didnt do anything last time, just dtd regularly. Fx for yousmile

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