Hi everyone. I am new to the site and just wanted to hear from others at what point they thought it was the 'right time' to start trying for a baby. On paper, we are in a pretty good place. Married for 2 years, bought a house last year, just bought a (nearly) new bigger car outright, savings in the bank to cover mat leave pay shortfall. But, something is still holding us back. I do wonder if we've lived enough, been on enough holidays etc. I'm 29 so no real rush but husband is 38 and doesn't want to be an old dad so feel like we really need to get a move on.
I do have a few concerns with the timing. I am up for promotion in October and once that happens, I'm quite hqappy to stay at that position in my career for the foreseeable future. But don't know it it's wrong to get promoted and then go on mat leave shortly thereafter?
One of my closest friends unfortunately had a late term miscarriage in April (20 weeks) and is finding it hard to be around pregnant people. I really worry if I get pregnant before she does, it may ruin our friendship, and I would hate to upset her even more as she is already hurting so much.
On the other hand, I do want to be a mum - there are some days I feel so broody and desperately want to be pregnant and other days, I think maybe I should focus on my career etc. I don't know if there really is ever a right time?
Sorry for the long rant. I'm not really looking for advice, I just wanted to know if there was a point when you thought, yes, this is definitely the right time for us.
Thanks for reading.
Laura xx
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lauracumins · 14/07/2016 13:24
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